my 5 and 2 year old daughters are running away in the middle of the night. I always find her ata friends house. but she crosses the street with a 2 YEAR OLD and she is ONLY FIVE what if she gets hit by a car or gets kidnapped. I have a child lock on the door but my 5 year old can open it.
2007-01-26 09:37:41 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
I have had long talks with her to. she doesnt listen to me.
2007-01-26 09:38:51 · update #1
there is something going on if a five year old and a 2 year old is running away. Get help.
2007-01-26 10:01:56 · answer #1 · answered by momof3 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Put a locks on the doors that have to be opened with a key from the inside and the outside. When you put them to bed, lock it and wear the key around your neck. It's not the greatest long term solution, but it will keep them safe until you can get her behavior under control. If the cops ever find them before you do, you will go to jail and run the risk of losing your kids.
Call a locksmith, or get a friend to help you. The next time they get out could be the LAST time you ever see them.
2007-01-26 10:04:49 · answer #2 · answered by wwhrd 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were you, I would hook up an alarm to your house. Some alarms can actually be set off with sensors in the hallway when your children go out of their rooms, and can be shunted off once the problem has stopped (make sure to ask the alarm company for such a feature, it usually isn't extra). I feel for you, and I hope that you are able to stop the problem as soon as possible. Your daughters are likely just trying to assert their Independence- but unfortunately, when crossing a street, it can be extremely dangerous. Good luck, I hope everything turns out well!
2007-01-26 09:49:22 · answer #3 · answered by HSR 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am by far any kind of a physcologist, but I would think that you need to try and find out why she is doing this and what she thinks she may gain from running away. I would also get another lock on the door, a deadbolt type that you lock with a key from the inside and put it up high enough on the door to make sure she can not reach it. GOOD LUCK!!
2007-01-26 09:48:54 · answer #4 · answered by ♥shannon c♥ 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You need to sit down with the 5 year old and ask her why she keeps running away........................
If nothing else, install a dead bolt (but find one that you need a key to open - but be able to use the key from the inside).
When my children were small - I always feared one of them getting up, in the middle of the night, and walking out the front door - but I was lucky, none of them ever did.
Most parents have this same fear. Go to a home improvement store and ask for some suggestions.
2007-01-26 09:47:55 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you have a major problem. Maybe try sleeping by the couch or discipline. Yes you have talked to your 5yr old, but have you tried discipline?? Sounds like you need to get your daughter into a Christian counsler. Put a lock way high up on the door where you know only you can reach it.
2007-01-26 09:50:06 · answer #6 · answered by khaileebaby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have got to be kidding. Get an alarm that sounds when your door opens (they have them at hardware stores). If it goes off in the middle of the night, take her back to bed and give her a spanking she's not going to forget. This is one of those serious cases where you need to make your impression felt. Of course she's not going to listen to your long talks! She's only 5, you don't reason with 5 year olds.
Also, this is serious not only because of the danger to your girls, but you could go to jail as well for neglect. It happened in Indianapolis recently.
2007-01-26 09:45:11 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 8⤊ 0⤋
I agree that you have to find a way to keep the kids in, but making it impossible for a kid to leave her room is creating a firetrap. What if there's a fire and you can't get to her?
Is it possible for you to sleep between your kids & the door? I know that's not a great long-term solution, but it might work until you find a better way to deal with it (whether that's therapy or something else). What do the friend's parents say? Do they call you when your kids show up?
2007-01-26 09:56:17 · answer #8 · answered by serenity_ii 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, you need to lock her door with a 'grownup' lock. The locks with a key, then hide the key in your wallet. Lock their window from the outside. And make sure that they are asleep. Read bedtime stories to them or do something to make them fall asleep. Then run out of the room and lock the door. Also, always have your doors leading to outside locked. front lock and top lock. The top lock in harder for little children to access.
2007-01-26 09:47:28 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Put a lock higher up, one that uses finger print recognition( cost about $200). Lock all the windows and doors, put a bed alarm( Radio Shack) on her bed that will sound if she gets out of bed. Now, that the house is secure. Find a child pyschologist to work with them to find the root cause as to why they are running away. They need therapy, and you need your rest.
2007-01-26 09:48:12 · answer #10 · answered by mischa 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋