ok i asked this girl to go out with...she sort of hesistated to say no...anyways i really like her and everything and i know something can happen.. anyways the thing is that i am going to be seeing her at the movies in a couple days with a bunch of friends...and what i was wondering was that wat type of attitude i should have with her and with should i be doing there..like who i should be talking to..what should i be doing..basically anything that might help...thank you for listening and i hope you have something that will help me.
2007-01-26 09:29:05 · 33 answers · asked by chingchang 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
just act natural. don't come off too pervy or "in-love" with her... a few questions you DO need to ask yourself, though: has she ever talked to you before you asked her out? has she ever flirted with you? does she have a bf? has she shown other signs of liking you?
if the answer to the above questions is "yes," (be honest!) then i would go for the throat and sit by her in the movie theater, talk to her, flirt with her, etc. (DON'T pile it on too heavily tho, NO girl wants to be sitting next to a stalker in a dark movie theater)... Possibly she was just having a bad day when she told you "no." or maybe she just hadn't figured out her feelings yet.
on the other hand, if you answered "no," to all of the above questions, just let it go. you can talk to her, and maybe flirt a tiny bit, but don't get your hopes up.
2007-01-26 09:40:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The hardest part is "be your wonderful self". Don't pretend to be something your not or act the "fool" as some boys do.
I would offer to get a big popcorn and share it with her and get some candy and share it-have her pick it (eat it even if you hate it). YOU BUY! That will get her next to you for the movie. Talk about your favorite things. LIke sodas, candies and what is the wildest thing you have ever eaten - like "alligator" or what ever. that's funny and different.
When your alone or away from the crowd-
Tell her " you look pretty" and point OUT a item of clothes or her hair and comment that style looks great on her. When she says thank you and smiles- THEN-
The best part is "your smile" that makes everything look great.
That is a great start. Now the "herd of girls" is a difficult thing to manage, so consider your self the "tiger" and them zebras, you will need to find ways to "weed her" away from them.
With all that, said- her body language will let you know if she is interested, People look IN your eyes to talk and to listen, so do that.
No MOVES on the first get to gether- that's too much. Set a boundry and respect. Tell her how much you enjoyed "hanging out with her" and would love to go get coffee or check out a School Game this coming week. [be specific] That way we can get to know each other. I'm kinda Old fashioned when it comes to girls. I want to get to know you and be friends and see where that leads us.
THAT IS THE WAY TO GO> its safe and you clear from rejection in case either of you don't have the chemistry to go forward.
We love wild men "we think" and we Date & Marry good guys. I married a Nerd and thank god. So if this works plan to meet her parents in about two weeks and take MOM flowers too. YOU want Mom on your side. That makes all the Prom stuff go smoother.
2007-01-26 09:48:40 · answer #2 · answered by Denise W 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't play games. If you are going to the movies with a bunch of friends and the girl you like is one of them, treat her like one of your friends. If you are still interested in asking her out, ask her out again before the "friends" movie night. If she says no again, wait until after the movie night. If she still says no... take the hint. Don't put on any acts during the "friends" movie night because she'll catch on and then you'll just look like a doof... she will certainly lose interest in you then. Be yourself and always be a friend. Good luck.
2007-01-26 09:43:50 · answer #3 · answered by ailolyen 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First off a girl doesn't want to be treated like an animal from a boy, so be polite!!! Think of something funny to say because she might be the kind of girl that loves when boys make her laugh. Don't say anything corny of perverted! After the movie ask her what she thought of it. I hope that helps you!!! Good luck=)
2007-01-26 09:35:50 · answer #4 · answered by iJess 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well i am a girl, and i cant stand show offs. If u really want this girl, u can get her. A couple thing s to do is to not look at her while u are talking to someone else. i cant stand that!! Dress nicely.. wear a collar shirt. i think that is so sexi! Be yourself, because if u think u have a chance, and u think she might like u, you can tell whether she does or not if she likes u for who YOU are! well good luck!
2007-01-26 09:36:22 · answer #5 · answered by skool gurl 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be yourself. Talk to whomever you feel like talking to. If it's her, talk to her. If that makes her feel uncomfortable, leave her alone for a while. She was probably hesitating because she wanted to find a way to tell you so that you should not get hurt. If she hated you, she would have said "are you kidding?!" right away. That being said, don't forget that you have just been rejected, so don't make another move on her or anything like that.
2007-01-26 09:38:38 · answer #6 · answered by harakiri 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, since you were the one that asked her out with a bunch of your friends, I think you need to be with her and make sure she is not uncomfortable. Attitude-wise, I think it would just be easier for you to be yourself. You don't need to 'act' cool to get a girl to like you.
2007-01-26 09:36:02 · answer #7 · answered by green_baby_dragon 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
okay well deffinitly dont act cocky b.c thats just unattractice. but try to be charming, or funny. if there are other girls there, talk to them a little bit but talk to her a little more to let her know that you like her but that you are also available to other girls. kindof like hard to get, but just dont put your arm around another girl, cause that would show that your a player and thats unattactive too.
also, if she is giving you the vibe that she doesnt want you near her, get away. you'll only irritate her more if you stay.
hope i helped yah. good luck!
2007-01-26 09:38:24 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok pay as MUCH attetion as possible to her buy her a drink popcorn buy her the movie ticket if you are gong to a sad movie and if your seinsitive andif you get all teary eye its ok because some girls like sensitive
2007-01-26 09:35:16 · answer #9 · answered by Nicole Richie 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She said no. She doesnt like u. Find another gal hun! At the movies. Act normal. Dont be all over her! Maybe sit next 2 her but dont be all over hr!
2007-01-26 09:34:18 · answer #10 · answered by CurlsWithBrains 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋