Whats with her?

Question

OK, me and my girlfriend have dated for 5 months now. For the past 2 months she has really went on a mean curve. Like at Christmas when we were decorating, as I was helping she started telling me where to put stuff, then she got frusturated for some reason and just told me to just go sit down and let her do it all. Well it was on and off like that all night, and she got mouthy with her parents in their 2, this was the first time I had seen her this way, and it has kinda been that way ever since. She has this really controlling nature that I try to ignore, but like she is sarcastic alot and I try not to tell her I don't like it, but then she gets sarcastic and says "deal with it, its who I am". There's other stuff too. Keep in mind we have talked about marriage and stuff like that, but I have this urge to ask what she thinks about the relationship and if she wants to be serious for real or not and what she is looking for...I don't know I'm just in a really confused position.

Answer 1

Buy a clue. Sane people do not act like this. If you marry someone like this, you deserve what you get. You won't get a straight answer when you ask a loony tune. She will lie to string you along as a meal ticket. Someone who loves you treats you like they do. End of story.

Answer 2

Either she's going through something that's she taking out on you (not cool) or this is how she always was and her true colors are starting to show. Either way, it sounds like she's got some issues to get over. Try asking her why she's changed so much. If she gets defensive or sarcastic, I think your best bet would to be to consider leaving her. She might love you but she also might be in the frame of mind that since you're with her, she can treat you any way she pleases because you're not about to go anywhere or get anyone else. I'd like to think she's just having a tough time with something but honestly, it sounds like she's just disrespectful and self centered and her true colors are now coming out. If you want to deal with someone like that the rest of your life, marry her. If you'd rather have a relationship where you're treated like an adult and not being disrespected, consider moving on to someone who is more mature & capable of loving someone else besides herself.

Sorry to sound so harsh. I used to be like her too. Thankfully I realized the world doesn't revolve around me. It took someone dumping me to realize that just because someone loves you or is there, that doesn't mean you can treat them like your personal punching bag. If they have an iota of self respect, they'll dump you. Maybe that's what she needs too. A wake up call. Good luck!

Answer 3

-K- I don't think the problem is caused by females only, yeah sure girls are bitches we already know that. You see girls can only use that it's that time of the month thing, once a month, it's not all year long, for those girls well their just straight out bitches, and probley don't plan on changing that anytime soon.BUT.... Alot of the time, when theres things going on that you mentioned, it has to do with drugs (crystal meth). Crystal is the most wide spread drug in our country right now, its every where. People of every age, sex, class (lower, middle, high),occuption, Its every where and easy to hide from thoes around you. Its one of thoes that if you don't know what to look for, it could be mistaken as a teenager w/attitude, or just a case of depression, things alot of parents look at, and either slip them the pill, or ignor it, thinking that kids do. You see probley the most noticeable things to look for is mood swings, daily, for no reason at all, fine one min and blowing up the next for no reason, pay attention, to motions facial, moving jaw, grinding teeth, can't sit still, lost interest in eating, weight loss, missing money, or money going to places you no nothing about. And what alot of people don't realize that crystal is not only snorted, but smoked also,and when smoking it, becomes more addicting, and harded to break, so just becauser they may not always have a runny nose, don't mean a thing.
So my anwers to your question is maybe Crystal meth, not saying anything bad. I just hope that is the case, shes able to get help. That drug is the devil himself, takes over the best of people, they try it and think no worries, do it a couple of times, then before they realize it , its done taken over there hole life, and alot of people won't ask for help, and its way too powerfull to shake on there own. So theres nothing left to do, so why not just keep doing it, 'till you get caught and can ask for help there,.

Answer 4

Nothing's "with" her.... this is her true self showing. Initially everyone's on their best behavior. But later on, especially stressful times, will bring out someone's true self. It sounds like you don't like the way she deals with conflict or stress. She doesn't sound like the type whose open to suggestion/working things out either, "Deal with it." Sure, sarcasm is funny, but theres alot of people who are funny and witty that won't snap or nag at you and expect you to just 'deal with it'. That is not how you should deal with someone you love. And this is about wrapping presents... can you imagine arguing about doing dishes? Laundry? Picking up the kids? Cleaning house? What time dinner is? I think that you already know that this is how she is, its just becoming more and more apparently lately- just talk to her about her behavior and how it bothers you (sh*t if you can talk about marriage you better be able to talk about these little things) and if she doesn't make any effort to change or tells you too F-ing bad... its time to loose her. And you may not be ready now, to simply take that step because she wasn't willing to change... but eventually it'll wear on you and when its time, you'll leave her. I can already feel it coming by your post.
I can say this- in a past relationship I have nagged, snapped, and disregarded a boyfriends feelings- BUT my current boyfriend I respect and love and we TALK about everything- if something bothers him, I want to know so I can change because I want to make him happy, and vice versa. That is what creates a lasting relationship.

Answer 5

I have a BFF exactly like that. If I do even ONE thing that isn't up to her standards, she freaks out on me! At first I felt helpless and controlled and like, powerless over myself, but now I've learned how to stand up to her and just ignore it. Famous quote: "You can either let it effect you, or you don't have to. Your choice."
The best you can do now is just wait out the storm, and don't get too rebellious, but don't let her control your feelings. It just makes her more power-hungry if you do.
Best of luck! Hope it works for you the same way it did for me!

Answer 6

seriously, do you want to stay in a relationship with someone that you are afarid to even talk to? C'mon. i am all about being straight up with someone, especially if you are in a serious relationship because you care about that person more. you either need to be honest with her about what you feel and want or you need to be prepared to break up with her. because if y'all are not even talking about what's going on then the problem are just going to get worse.

Answer 7

ask her straight what she wants and why she is behaving this way. we women have a reason for everything. it could be pms but ask her what is the REAL problem and what is bothering her.

Answer 8

Welcome to the real world pal--get used to it; it won't stop-ever!!!!