I met a guy from an on-line dating service and he seems normal and like a guy I'd like to get to know. When I signed up for this service, I had absolutely no expectations, but large reservations about the creeps that are online. Honestly, I didn't expect to run into someone I'd actually like (sounds stupid... I already know!) I'd like to meet him in person, but am extremely paranoid. What would you do? Any advice/suggestions? Have you ever done this type of thing before? Serious answers please.... :)
2007-01-26 09:20:56 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think online dating is a fine way to meet people. Unfortunately, you're right, there are a lot of losers out there.
If you're interested in meeting him, you should certainly meet him in a public place. You should consider a day-time meeting the first time, say...lunch at a busy restaurant. Also, be sure to drive yourself and don't let him come pick you up.
It's also a good idea to let a friend know where you are going and when you expect to be home so they can keep track of you.
Good luck! I hope it goes well.
2007-01-26 09:26:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I have done the online dating thing several times. Only one ended up turning into a relationship, however did not last past 5 months. It was nice to meet new people and after a while its less scary. But still, be careful everytime. Meet in a public place!
2007-01-26 17:29:13 · answer #2 · answered by TI 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am in the same boat. very nervous about on line dating. have been in a relationship for 7 yrs and have a 6yr old daughter.
just be careful meet in a very public place and have an escape plan. have some one call you at a certain time and if you answer then go if you don't answer they know you are safe.
have a Friend sit close and if you feel comfortable then give them the thumbs up and HAVE FUN...
p.s I'm looking too. have not got the nerve to sign up to a dating service yet?? soon...
2007-01-26 17:31:56 · answer #3 · answered by 9inchrod 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, tell more than one person exactly where you will be meeting this guy, and a general time frame. Meet in a public place with lots of people around, ie. coffee shop, bar, restaurant. Keep your cellphone close and if you want to feel even better, and I know this is paranoid, but bring some sort of weapon (pepper spray, taser, etc.) One can never be too prepared. Once you meet him and get to know him, take things from there.
2007-01-26 17:28:58 · answer #4 · answered by me! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you've never REALLY met in person actually, how do you know? How do you know he's not some cyber-pimp, and that he's got a little boy to do his voice on the phone? How do you know that he's who he says he is?? What if you decide to meet up with him at some old rest-stop, and you end up like all the other girls who are blonde enough to trust someone that they've NEVER SEEN BEFORE?! Do you know anything about him? Where he lives, where he goes to school, what's his job, how many pets he's got, if he's got brothers and sisters, and you know. The basics. I would say that you've got yourself into a very bad situation and that you should try to get yourself out of it.
I know, you're just like, "What does SHE know? He loves me!" Well, lemme tell you kid, it's a bad idea to put so much faith into a guy you don't even know what he looks like. Don't even ask him about his supposed love for you. Don't do it.
2007-01-26 17:28:45 · answer #5 · answered by ♥Just Another Broken Heart♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just bought a book entitled, The Complete Idiot's Guide To Dating.
Here is Dr. Judy Kuriansky take on this subject matter:
1) Meet him in a public place like the Mall.
2) Meet him with your friends and his friends on a casual basis on your first date.
3) Do not mention any sex in your conversation until you will become too familiar in your relationship.
Here is my rule:
{I have never met someone in person because my interest is centered on LDR (long distance relationship)}
Before meeting him, ask for his pictures, his friends, his co-workers, and families.
Presently, I have an e-pal from the Philippines and she bombards me with the aforementioned pictures except for her families as of now. We indulge in a telephone conversation, text messaging, and YM in order to establish our true identity as a real person. I even asked for her ID, date of birth, the school where she is attending, and where she is currently working.
For example, I searched for the location of the school in the Internet and asked her for the streets in that particular location.
Word of Caution:
If the guy is only looking for sex, dump him!
God luck.
2007-01-26 18:03:17 · answer #6 · answered by ATIJRTX 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, I've never dated online. Heard too many horror stories. My wife's first marriage was one of them. You're better off just going out with friends and meeting people. You should really think about bringing a friend with you if you're going on this date with this person you've NEVER met. :)
Just trying to help.
2007-01-26 17:32:59 · answer #7 · answered by Gasman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you trust in him let meet him in a busy public place... or may be a friend of you can stay "behind"... talk to him start to know him, but usually the real meetings are very disappointing because they are not really match with the "on line" dreams...
2007-01-26 17:28:37 · answer #8 · answered by vandom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's cool to meet people online that seem interesting enough for you to meet in person...but since you never really know who's on the other line....i say i go for it, but plan a date or something to do with him where there's a lot of people around or even better go with a friend.
2007-01-26 17:28:23 · answer #9 · answered by mfn_rockstar 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Meet him, but meet him in a public place with lots of people around. or meet him , taking a friend with you.. If you do go alone, make sure someone knows where you are going, give them your cell number if you have one, to call you. DO NOT meet them at a park or any place like that. good luck.
2007-01-26 17:26:47 · answer #10 · answered by lynda 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋