How can I get over a guy? HELP, PLEASE!!?

Question

There's this guy at my school that I have a huge crush on, but I can't date him for 2 reasons that I don't want to mention here.

He is sooo hot and so irresistable, and even though I try to convince myself that he is a jerk and that he is not right for me, I can't help but to fall inlove even more with him!!
I can't avoid to see him everyday, cuz we go to the same school, and I can't help but to always cross with him at the cafeteria or at a corridor.

What should I do to get over him?? Please help me!!

I can't tell him how I feel nor I could ever b able to date him cuz he is one of my best friends' ex, and there's another reason......

PS. I have talked to him like 1000 times!!

Answer 1

FIND ANOTHER ONE.

Answer 2

When I was in school - there were a few boys I had crushes on over time. The first was Tony. He was the "bad-boy" at school. He was tall, dark and handsome. He never talked to me directly so as time went by - I just got more interested in other things. The next was Martin - Martin was the first guy to have ever kissed my hand - he and I became really great friends over the years and hung out all the time - I never told him I had a crush on him (still do - more than 25yrs later). My best friend was also in love with him and she had known him longer - and I would never let a boy come between my friend and myself - so to this day Martin lives in a secret place in my heart and always will. Shawn was the next crush - but again he had no interest in my other than friends and someone to compete against in school. We vied for top spots in marks all the time. I did go out once to a movie with him and some friends - and learn ed that I needed him as a friend and getting into a relationship with him would ruin that. So I kept my dating and other crushes outside of school. So my advice to you - is be friends - but no more. Get involved in your school - drama, art, PE or what ever your interests are - dive into them and eventually your feelings will dissipate.

Answer 3

Trying to get over a guy you can't have is very common. I think most people experienced that. But my advice is, if you want to date this guy, you shouldn't fall back and ignore your feelings for him. Just let your best friend know how you feel about this guy and I'm sure she'll understand. But if she doesn;t, then it's her problem because if they are over, they have nothing to do with eachother. SO she shouldn't be the reason why you're chickening out. But if you really do want to get over this guy without even trying, then you should find someone else. If that doesn;t work, time solves everything. Let time pass, and soon enough, you'll get over this guy.

Answer 4

hey. i 've been there only it was when my boyfriend broke up with me and got with my bestfriend. long story. well how to get over them....hmm. it's not as easy as people make it seem. see it might be a little easier if i knew why you wanted to get over him and why he's a jerk but i guess i can work with what i've got. i don't know why you're trying to convince yourself he's a jerk but if he really isn't than stp trying not to like him. sometimes the only way to avoid something is to not avoid it.confusing i know but. after i got used to having my ex not like me the chips just fell into place and soon after about 2 or 3 weeks i wasn't attracted to him or anything. the fact that him and my bf were dating seemed normal so i had nothing to worry about.
hope i helped!!

Answer 5

Problem is you are obsessing over a person whom you've had very little contact with and claim that you can't date him for reasons you will not even mention. Until you can live in an adult world and face your problems nobody can help you-not even yourself.

Answer 6

when i first heard this advice i was all retaliatory and against it but i admitt it works. here we go.

even tho you SAY you cant avoid him, think about it. thats right you can. change your routine, take different corridors, dont cross with him at the cafeteria change the timing, and every time you do see him think to yourself LAME (psychology for ya), or try to be emotionless.

occupy yourself with something else, it sounds like your alittle obsessed with this kid, so DONT let him have that kind of control over your life.

say this to yourself: (just trying to help) wtf was i thinkn?, what a little whiny punk a** jerk, always gettn attention like a two yr old?! egotistical selfish son of a b*tch, bratty inconsiderate @#%#^.....etc... you get the jist. things like that were proven to subconsciously effect us.

good luck and good bye

Answer 7

Let me take you out on a date and you'll forget all about him. It's not that I'm so great or anything but the thought of yourself being on a date with a 50 year old guy is enough to take almost any thought out of your mind.

LOL ;-)

Answer 8

DO YOU REALLY WANT TO GET OVER HIM?

that is the question cause if you know that he is bad for you then that should be all you need to motivate you. Just remind yourself of what he did and tell yourself that he is no good and with him, you would be no good. You want better.

You said that he was a jerk, then you know how you want to be treated. If he can't live up to your standards then you don't need him.
JUST KNOW THAT AND YOU"LL GET OVER HIM DESPITE HIS GOOD LOOKS!!!

Answer 9

The simple answer: Find another one.. Guy, Girl makes no difference.. nothing will make you forget either one quicker than just finding another one... particularly at you age (you mentioned school so I'm assumeing yer young)

Answer 10

surround yourself with friends. Get out more. Live your life to the fullist. No that hes just a guy that has feelings and one day will die like you and me.

Answer 11

There is nothing you can do about it. Women are instinctively attracted to alphas who tend to be jerks and assholes. You are always going to be attracted to them. Maybe you can condition yourself to be more mature before you get severely hurt by one.