I just recently moved along with my spouse over 2000 miles for home. The job I had lined up did not work out and I feel badly about it I left on very good terms and will get a postive reference, but I feel badly about it I was driving 3-4 hours commuting back and forth to the city. I have a full blown sinus infection, I have gotten lost so many times in this area, I miss my family and friends and I dont feel comfortable like I did where I used to live. I feel so badly about this because God has blessed me with so much and he always provides, Getting acclimated has been very hard and I feel like a failure because I could not handle the job and it was not a "good fit" How can I get my joy back and does the adjustment process get better with time and prayer? I just feel badly that I feel this way when God has always been faithful. How have you handled moving and what were you able to do to cope and adjust?
2007-01-26 09:15:13 · 19 answers · asked by encourager4God 5 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Just keep praying, when you're a Christian it seems the devil is always putting us through the ringer to trip us up. Stay strong. God will reveal something wonderful for you soon. Good luck and God bless!
2007-01-26 09:23:21 · answer #1 · answered by lilmama 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
When you move, you miss your old home. Over time, you adjust. There is nothing wrong with disliking change - one of the ten most stressful things a person can experience is a move. Feeling guilty about it is not going to help. I've been through it, and the best thing is not to force it. If you don't feel like unpacking that box of old stuff, don't. Let it sit there until you are comfortable with placing those items in your new home.
It takes time to accept "this is my kitchen", "this is our bathroom" (note the "my" for kitchen), but remember this: You probably felt the same way when you moved into your old place.
2007-01-26 17:22:56 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I have moved recently as and am having a hard time adjusting .
Maybe you should move back, pray first because you want to make sure that whatever you do is in God's will .
Hope you feel better . Good Luck!! God Bless.
2007-01-26 17:22:59 · answer #3 · answered by riddlemethis 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
God has provided you with what? A sinus infection, a four hour commute to a job that didn't work out & that you "couldnt handle", terrible sense of direction, and inability to acclimate to a new environment... And you're thankful for that??
Somehow, I doubt prayer is going to help this situation....I find it interesting that your religion makes you feel guilty about it - when there is abosultely no reason for you to feel guilty at all. I also find it interesting that the few known atheists that have responded (myself included) have moved several times...and we simply roll with it. We take action. You should do the same - stop feeling guilty about it, dont waste time praying - get off Y!A and get onto Monster.com or some local JOBSITE!!
2007-01-26 17:23:39 · answer #4 · answered by YDoncha_Blowme 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Look to I Corinthians 10:13. Continue to hear the promises of God. Does he still love you? Yes. Does he still offer you forgiveness? Yes. Will this burden be more than you can handle? NO! Not because you are so strong or your marriage is so strong, but because God is so strong. He will provide you with the means to make it through this difficult time in your life.
If you had asked Job, could you bear having all your flocks wiped out and all your children dead, what do you think he would have said? Probably, "No way!" But when it happened, why was he able to bear up under all that suffering? Because he was super-human? NO - it was because God strengthened him through his promises.
Resist the temptation to turn this difficulty onto others. It would be easy to blame your spouse or let this difficulty eat at the marriage. Share your difficulties with one another, and using God's Word, you can work to solve your problems. Sometimes, when difficult decisions (like moving) are made in a marriage, selfishness can creep into the marriage. We begin to think in terms of "How many decisions are for you and how many are for me?" Instead, see yourselves as one in Christ, making each decision for both of you. Perhaps the two of you will come to the difficult conclusion of moving again. Perhaps you will decide to stick it out in this place and work through your problems.
The only real and lasting solution to the "comfort level" of a new home is time. It takes time to learn all the roads. It takes time to make new friends. But, from a spiritual standpoint, you also need to stay connected to God's Word and pray as you have suggested. I can't guarantee a multitude of friends and I can't guarantee that this new home will ever be as much to your liking as your old one. But, what I can guarantee you is this. If God wants to bless you, there is no place on earth that he can't reach - and if you read his Word, he will bless you. Forgiveness doesn't depend on your feelings, it depends on God's promises. The guarantee of heaven doesn't depend on experiencing heaven on earth, it depends on God's promises.
Paul told the churches in Acts that it is through many hardships that we enter the kingdom of God. Feeling like a failure is part of that. Wondering if you will ever be happy is part of that. Difficult decisions are part of that. But through all these things, we enter the kingdom of God.
God's blessings as you struggle with a difficult time.
2007-01-26 17:47:28 · answer #5 · answered by Pastor P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you are feeling is perfectly normal, and my best advise would be to open your Bible and do some praying, when we are alone, It is God who is always with us, sometimes we may not feel like it, but believe, Jesus Christ is always with you, because when you believe you are Never Alone, sometimes we miss our surroundings and have trouble adjusting to a new environment, but if you will ask God in prayer to help you deal with this, I believe you WILL find the answers you need, take care and God Bless.
2007-01-26 17:22:03 · answer #6 · answered by bryton1001 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I've moved around a lot, and for me, a few things helped. I tried to memorize a basic map of the places I've lived, friendly to neighbors, finding interesting things to see and do in the new area. You will get through this, I promise.
2007-01-26 17:23:31 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Find a new job. We moved over 1000 miles twice in one year because the same thing happened.
2007-01-26 17:21:53 · answer #8 · answered by Alex 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My wife and I made the same move during the same period. We moved to be closer to the kids and found ourselves in a quagmire. No jobs and no afforadble housing. But then we kinda jumped the gun in making the move. We really did not consult God first as we should have. Now we are both working but we have to struggle to make it. We have even had to take money out of our 401 K to help us through.
It really is necessary that we consult with the highest authority availabled which is God and make sure that we do it HIS way. Not ours.
If we abide in HIM then He will abide in us. We must ask HIM to direct our path.
I will say a prayer for you and your spouse and I hope that time will heal and that God will bless your move.?
IN HIS NAME,
me
2007-01-26 17:26:09 · answer #9 · answered by having fun 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
you do realize that this is a bad place to ask such questions seeing as there are more people here to hack on religion than actually provide spiritual support? now this is coming from an athiest, i am just looking out for you, because you may not even get a real answer.
2007-01-26 17:21:40 · answer #10 · answered by Roy B 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋