please 'i need some advise on having a life or death surgery?

Question

i found that i ave this cyst on my byle duct and it;s killing me.. i lost about 60 pounds in a year,,,now i seem ok but my surgeon said 'if i don;t have this surgery to cut the cyst' and cut the intestines and sew them back together 'but littler.anyway i have my nephew as my son'as our family got killed.i;m all this 10yr old boy has.if i die 'then what i gonna be in the hosp foe 12 days and maybe icu.the problem is i have to find someone that would watch him for 2weeks.i went on the Internet trying to find my cousin butch finne in washshougl wash,,, should i do the surgeryor take my chances,,if i find my cousin which i seen 3yrs ago will do it.. I'm so broken hearted al i can do is cry,,ps my mom died 5yrs ago in the hosp after surgery 'she caught and had a 106 107 fever 6 days straighter' body gave out,,,my nephew went thru that...please serious answers only thanks Shelly in Seattle

Answer 1

I understand your dilemma I am the mother to 2 children, and was diagnosed with cancer, My suggestion would be to contact a good friend someone you trust with your life to take care of your nephew while you have the surgery, You have a boy who is depending on you so take care of yourself, you can always ask your doctor to use a general anesthetic so that you can be awake through the surgery if you are afraid that you wont wake up after the surgery. Plus you are a lot younger than your mother and you will have an easier time in recovery. I know that this has scared the s*** out of you but Think of that boy. One more thing if it is a huge concern for you, Higher a private eye to try to find Butch. I hope you do not take any of this advice as criticism because I'm trying to give you advice that was given to me.

I hope all goes well and god (If you believe in him/her) be with you and watch over you and your nephew

Amy j

Answer 2

You can request help from the social workers at the hospital. They will be able to guide you.

You can also try one of your local churches to see if you can find childcare while you are hospitalized. Or if you have close friends you could ask them to watch this boy.

If you need surgery than you should go ahead and have this done. You might not be in the hospital as long as you think. If you are your nephews sole family, you need to be as healthy as you can possibly be. If you love this child you owe it to him and yourself to take good care of your health.

Good luck.

Another option might be to contact Cancer Care, they have social workers who might be able to advise you.

Cancer Care
http://www.cancercare.org/

Answer 3

Before doing an insurance policy, everyone should take a overall look to the coverage of the policy. Else anyone can suffer with tragic situation like you. Moreover, the health insurance is so important in every once life as anything can happen to your life, so do check the policy first.

Answer 4

Hope it's not too late for this. Here's a little different take on cancer treatment--

In 1990, I had Hodgkin's Lymphoma, stage 3-B, but I've survived. My doctors were great people, but they really couldn't tell me squat about cancer. During the year in treatment, I started learning about alternative medicine.

Here's what I've figured out--FIRST, somebody--probably sympathetic to the AMA--is getting my answers deleted as 'not a question or an answer', because they don't want you to know about this. So if you want to keep this information, you need to copy it to a wordpad document quickly, before it disappears. Hopefully, they'll give up and stop that nonsense soon, but I wouldn't count on it. Now, here goes--

Poor nutrition, a sedentary lifestyle and reduced oxygen weaken the immune system. Once that happens, our body becomes vulnerable to common stressors. Stressors can be environmental, like viruses, heavy metals, pesticides, food additives, electromagnetic waves or pollution. They can be internal things like emotional or job stress, or poisonous people in our lives. And aging is also a contributing factor.

[weak immune system] + [stressors] = MAJOR ILLNESS (cancer, diabetes, heart disease, etc.)

Our bodies have 60 trillion--yes, trillion--cells, and there are always some mutating into cancer cells, but a healthy immune system kills them before they have a chance to get a foothold in the body.
It takes a LONG time, usually, or an exrtaordinary amount of stressors, to degrade the immune system to the point where it won't do its job, but once cancer has formed, it will generally spread rapidly.


THIS IS IMPORTANT! There are ways to BEAT cancer that the AMA is keeping from the American public, that are currently being used in Europe and around the world! Here are some great books on the subject. Some are getting hard to find--

"The Cure for All Cancers", ISBN 0963632825
"A Cancer Therapy", ISBN 0882681052
"Oxygen Therapies", ISBN 0962052701
"Hydrogen Peroxide--Medical Miracle", ISBN 1885236077
"The Natural Cure for Cancer--Germanium", ISBN 0533071410
"Killing Cancer", ISBN 0705000966
"Natural Cures 'They' Don't Want You to Know About", ISBN 0975599518


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I know of people whose cancer has 'spontaneously remitted' (WENT AWAY for no known reason) after they went on programs of herbs and nutrition that restart our immune systems.

The American Medical Association (AMA) and the pharmaceutical companies control medical law and the FDA in this country with heavy lobbying and a revolving door policy. WHY would they want to do this? It's about the money. In 2004, medicine (doctors, hospitals, researchers and pharmaceutical firms) received 1.1 TRILLION dollars--1/4th of the total earnings (GNP 4.4 trillion) in the U.S. This is astounding, because it's like 1/4th of our citizens--about 75 MILLION people--worked the whole year just to pay the nation's medical expenses!!

That's just too big to care about individuals. You and your family must look out for yourselves to stand a chance of being healthy. This is not a joke, and I'm not selling anything--just trying to help. There is MUCH that cancer victims can do about it. Best of luck

Answer 5

I think you should definitely have the surgery...otherwise it looks like you won't be around for him. Are there any of his friends he could stay with? I am sure that parents of his friends would understand. Have you reached-out to any local church? Those are some options. Good luck.

Answer 6

contact social services to help you until you recover. have the surgery and get well for your nephew