ahhhhhhhh....please help me with this one!?

Question

my daughter was showing all the signs that she was ready. now that were finally potting training her, she refuses to go in the potty. i limit her fluids. she doesn't get anything but sips after dinner. she has only peed in the potty twice, but we gave her kudos, candy, and stickers.. i've let her wear her soiled clothes for a few minutes so that she will be uncomfortable and it doesn't seem to bother her. she sits on the potty about evry hour and before/after a nap. she won't go and as soon as i put her plastic panties on her she goes potty in them? i don't understand why she does this? can someone please help me out with this one?

Answer 1

Most kids will potty train when they are good and ready. Some do it earlier. Some do it later. It may be that you will just have to be patient and wait for her to be ready.

Answer 2

Can I give you some advice becuase I am going through the same thing but a couple of weeks ago we has a breakthrough becasue of some medical advice. Maybe you should start a potty box. Get a nice decorated box and fill it with toys , candy, erasers,stickers whatever. Then stress to her that the only way she can get a toy is to go poop or pee in the pot. The child will associate the potty with the potty box and in a month or she should be potty trained, It worked for my kids and I have 2 twin 3yr old girls. Dont give in though and let her get a toy without using the pot! Tell me how it works out

Answer 3

I feel for you, I went through the exact same thing. How old is your daughter? To be honest I tried everything in the books, online, that people had to say, even talked to the pediatrician, however it turned I pretty much just had to wait. For about 3 weeks she would wet herself and then for a week or two she wouldn't, it was so frustrating. After about 3 months of that she finally decided she was ready. By then we had stopped most of the "prizes", she now gets a sticker when she is dry and after 5 she can buy a little toy or go somewhere, it seems to be working. Either way good-luck and hang in there, eventually the day will come.

Answer 4

They tend to like the the idea of using "their own special little toilet " in theory, but when it comes to really using it they often take longer to just be sure enough of the whole thing.

Rather than talking about her using the potty you could try talking about something nice she can do soon (like go to preschool or dancing lessons). You can mention - while you're talking about how she'll be going to, say, dancing lessons - how "you can't take dancing lessons as long as you have a diaper because they don't allow diapers in dancing school". If you start talking about something she can do when she decides she is ready not to have diaper you are giving her something to think about in terms of being motivated rather than just (the way she may see it) trying to horn in on her elimination practices.

Children who are exactly two tend to be at the height of their independence and newly found sense of automonomy, so I think two and a half or two and three/quarters tends to get better results. Also, the closer to three they are, the more possible it is to motivate them with something like plans to go to preschool or take dancing lessons.

You could try having her do without the diaper just when you go out for a short time. Sometimes they're just kind of nervous about whether the potty will fall over or the fact that its just a new thing. Sometimes they're unsure that they will be able to do the whole potty/letting-you-know thing right. You could try tell her she can try doing without the diaper for a short time but she can have it back when you get home.

Plan to be out for about an hour, and make sure she hasn't been drinking the hour or so before you leave (which will reduce the chances she'll need to go anyway). Secretly bring a diaper with you in case she needs it. You go out, you come back, and you let her have her diaper. You do that a few times, and after she's confident about doing that you extend the length of the time out.

By then she'll be more confident about not having the diaper on, so you can add the not-so-upsetting, "If you need to do wetties let me know" (and you can get her to a restroom). Again, though, give her back her diaper when she gets home.

At some point she'll become so used to undies and toilets you can say, "Today you can see if you can go without a diaper all day - and then tonight you can have one again."

If you try this approach just make sure you let her think she is the one who gets to make the decision about when she wants the diaper back. Give her as much choice as you can.

The gradual-and-sort-of-trick-her approach is usually easier because they aren't expected to go from the security and carefree-ness of the diaper to a plastic potty with people sitting around and watching and expecting her to produce urine.

Answer 5

Believe me I understand your delima! Children may show the signs of being ready however it is a very hard transition for small children. Children do not have the ability in their brain to understand the concept of going potty in the toilet versus their pants. You are doing great with the stickers etc.. Children at that age just sees a part of them being "flushed" away, and that can be confusing for them. It will just take time for her to learn a new way of dealing with potty time. It is always hard for a child to make changes in their routines. Just continue to reward her when she uses the toilet and don't make it a big deal when she doesn't because she can't understand all that yet. Good luck

Answer 6

This is actually a stage that many kids go through. My niece did the same thing. Which got rather old, really fast. Just keep with the potty training, and don't get discouraged. Try limiting toy time whenever she wets. Make sure you make it clear to her before hand about the consequence.

Answer 7

My daughter is 2yrs. old and does the same thing. I can get her to sit on the potty, but I can't get her to go in the potty for nothing. Then she'll go right after I put her diaper/pull-up/underware on her. Sometimes she'll even tell me she wants to go potty after she's gone in her pants. I haven't figured out a trick yet. I've tried all the suggestions people have given me. It's nice to know my kid isn't the only one!! ;)

Answer 8

My daughter has gone from the point i think " one more week and we can switch to regular panties" to "why didn't you tell me you had to go?"
it's gone backand forth and we're in the why didn't you tellme phase again. I'm not too worried over it, she'll decide when she's ready .
but until then, i think i'm gonna have to go back to putting her on the toilet and waiting with her till she goes. just have to find a new special treat for the reward.

Answer 9

She may seem ready, but she's not. Don't push the issue, she has all the control here and if she doesn't want to all you'll do is make her dig in her heels more and frustrate yourself.

Wait a bit and try again later.

Answer 10

She will train when she is ready. Really if she doesn't mind sitting in wet underwear she isn't ready.