im i ready for sex?

Question

i no im olny 15 but ive been thinkin about it alot ima still a virgin and all my friends already has sex they make fun of me and tells me they gonna make me do it now they cant but i dont no my mom would kill me and dad well u already no i just need help is what teenage girls suppsed to go threw or am i growing up 2 fast

Answer 1

If you have to ask the question about being ready or not ready, the answer is your aren't ready.

The fact that you are just 15 years old supports the idea that you aren't ready, but age and maturity aren't equal and they can be mutually exclusive.

People who are older may meet someone and think about having sex with him/her but decide not to for a variety of reasons. Those people are acting maturlely. Some older people jump in the sack with whoever is available. Those people are not acting maturely, they are being whores.

You can be 15 years old and be very mature by deciding not to have sex until you meet a good man that will love you for the person that you are and the woman are. Anybody can get laid but only a mature person can make love.

Answer 2

Ahhh don't worry, I know the feeling. :/ Well, try masturbating instead. Do it as frequently as you have to. Sex is a major step. I know your hormones seem so uncontrollable, but sex will feel amazing when it's with the right person, and at 15, there's a very small chance you'd spend the rest of your life with your partner. Also, you might get pregnant. Then you'd have to go through so many choices - keep the baby, give it up for adoption or abortion. Then there's dealing with your family. People might start labeling you. If your partner has frequent sex, he might even have an STD..it could be something treatable like Gonorrhea, or something severe like HIV. Condoms can break sometimes. You can go on birth control though, but they can cause side effects sometimes. If in the end you choose to have sex, do it responsibly. Try to double up condoms and take the morning after pill to avoid any chance of pregnancy. You can also use a spermicide along with the condoms so that you won't get pregnant. About the pain..it might hurt a bit the first time 'cause you're tight down there. But by the second or third time it'd be all okay. :) It's not pain you can't tolerate, or so I've heard (I'm a virgin). Anyways, please be responsible. I highly suggest masturbating instead..as of now though, don't buy any sex toys. Just use your fingers and make sure you wash your hands! If you want to use something else, get an electric toothbrush, and make sure it's clean before you hold it against your vagina. Don't push anything in, it might cause an infection. Try watching porn and masturbating, or whatever else turns you on. Try to avoid sex as much as possible. In the end, it's up to you. Choose wisely. Watch Laci Green on Youtube. She has a lot of videos in relation to bodies, sex etc. so maybe her videos can help. Good luck! x

Answer 3

Don't do it. I was 13 when I lost my virginity. I turn 23 next month. I'm still really young and regret being able to say I've been having sex for almost 10 yrs. It really sucks. When I was younger I thought I was cool. But as soon as I hit high school most of my friends had kids. Which really sucks. I'm happy to say, I'm still not a mom cause I'm not ready. But if I could go back, I would've waited alot longer than I did. I thought back then I was ready and I wanted to. It turns out, I had no idea what life was really going to be like. Once you start down that road, it is near impossible to change paths. At least try to wait till you find some one you know isn't in it for one reason. You know their not going to be a #!%%$# about it. Wait until you feel your are 100% ready. If your questioning whether your ready, your not.

Answer 4

Sex is Sex. It is a physical act for enjoyment. The main idea behind having sex is to feel good. You can do that manually and solo. You do not have to have sex with another person. Your freinds are pressuring you into something, that is almost always a bad thing. You need to make decisions for your self. Making love is a pure act between two people that love each other and are absolutely committed to each other. The idea behind making love is to spawn new life from the connection the two people have to each other. The idea being that that new life will become the best of the two, love personified. If you are asking if you are ready then you are not ready. The question about having sex - try it out. It is fun and enjoyable, but do it by yourself. Get a cucumber or carrot or something and have a yank. Wait until you know the other person is the absolute right match for you before making love. You need to know the difference.

Answer 5

you're 15 so it's hard to recognize the line between your friends and yourself, especially because you probably spend so much time together. I'm telling you this as someone who has been there in many different versions: DO NOT MAKE DECISIONS BASED ON WHAT YOUR FRIENDS WANT YOU TO DO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

of all the reasons to do something, that is the wrong one because
1) your virginity does not have anything to do with them. Did you lose your virginity when they had sex. No! so why do they get to dictate when you have sex? Very simple: they don't!
2)sex should be worth your while, something that you want and enjoy. your first time should be worth remembering, something that you won't be ashamed to tell people about. i had a friend in high school who was pressured into having sex, and she lost her virginity on a cement slab in the woods. you don't want that to happen to you.
3) you don't know your friends' motivations for pressuring you to have sex. sometimes people put pressure on others to do things because they do not want to be the only ones. maybe your friends are having second thoughts and they think that you losing your virginity would make them feel better. how would you feel if you went ahead and had sex because your friends wanted you to and found out later that their motivations were selfish? real friends want what's best for you. so if you tell your friends that you don;t know that you're ready, they should respects that for your own good. and if you can't even be honest with your friends enough to express doubts about sex with them, you need to leave them alone anyway.

the bottom line is that you are the one living your life. making decisions based on other people's opinions, whether it's your parents or your friends, is stupid because, who will be the one to face the consequences for those decisions? YOU! your parents have been 15 already. your firends each have their own lives. this is your life and your decision, and that's all that matters.

Answer 6

No way. All of your friends are jerks. Sex really isn't all that great... if they are telling you that it is, they are liars. I was 18 my first time (that was just a little over a year ago) and the reasons I did it, were because it was with someone I loved, and I gave it about 6 months worth of thought. having sex with someone, just to say that you have had sex, is cheating yourlself, you will feel empty and dirty... it's not going to feel good, as a matter of fact, I can guarantee that the first few times are going to be somewhat painful, regardless of your age. I'm not saying you should save yourself untill marrage, but at least untill you are old enough to know that you are doing it with someone that you plan to be with for the rest of your life. I'm sorry if this is not the answer you are looking for, I'm just trying to be honest. I'm not saying that you shouldn't do it because 'your parents would kill you' I'm saying it because I know that if you do it before you are ready, it will hurt, emotionally and physically.
Take care...

Answer 7

ds tell you to. They aren't always telling you what's best. If they make fun of you then maybe you need some new friends because real friends shouldn't do that. It's not about what your parents want either. It's about what YOU want. If you don't think you're emotionally and/or physically ready for it yet, then no, you aren't ready. And keep in mind that if you have sex it needs to be with someone you're in love with. It'll mean a LOT more. Otherwise think of how you'll feel once you meet the person you want to spend the rest of your life with and you won't be able to share something as special as your virginity with them. So you have to ask yourself if you'll ever regret it. If you have any doubts about it at all, then I'd suggest waiting longer.

Answer 8

I'm not gonna make any judgments on your friends, but if they're trying to pressure you to have sex, they aren't being supportive of your choices. The thing about being friends is they should respect your decisions, even if you choose a different path from their own. Consider making decisions that aren't based upon what other ppl think because maturity is the first step. Don't consider it anytime soon cuz asking some random ppl on Yahoo if you're ready doesn't make you sound mature at all. Sex is meant to be between someone you love and trust with your life. Remember that.

Answer 9

You should wait. I wish I did. But, we all know you are going to do it anyway, because we all did it and we were told not to. Everyone has to learn their lesson. If you do decide to have sex, please use a condom and study up on how to use it properly. Get on birth control BEFORE you have sex. You can go to Planned Parenthood and get it. They will not tell your parents. There is a grant that pays for your exam and you buy the pills. They cost around $24 a month or so. Make an appointment today and talk to someone there about what to do. Don't have sex before you take care of this. You do not want to have a baby at this age. You do not want to get an STD at this age. Don't believe anything the guy tells you. If he says he has only been with 2 other girls, assume the number is really 4. Please take good care of yourself and your body. When you grow up and get married, you will realize that you made a mistake. It is easy to get over a mistake like having sex at 15. It is NOT easy to get over the mistake of getting pregnant at 15.

Answer 10

Do NOT do something just because your friends tell you to. They aren't always telling you what's best. If they make fun of you then maybe you need some new friends because real friends shouldn't do that. It's not about what your parents want either. It's about what YOU want. If you don't think you're emotionally and/or physically ready for it yet, then no, you aren't ready. And keep in mind that if you have sex it needs to be with someone you're in love with. It'll mean a LOT more. Otherwise think of how you'll feel once you meet the person you want to spend the rest of your life with and you won't be able to share something as special as your virginity with them. So you have to ask yourself if you'll ever regret it. If you have any doubts about it at all, then I'd suggest waiting longer.