Im moving in with him this weekend into a house. Why do I have this scared anxious feeling? Is it normal?
I love him and we plan on getting engaged this year. Im 23 he is 27. Why do I feel so nervous?
2007-01-26 08:31:44 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Maybe something is trying to tell you something...
BTW, did you know that the divorce rate for people who live together before marriage is higher than for those who don't?
2007-01-26 08:40:20 · answer #1 · answered by Egghead 4 · 4⤊ 2⤋
Firstly chill out, your boyfriend wants you there or this would not have happened. I can understand you need to put your own stamp on this flat, but you do need to do it gradual. Like if you are both going window shopping you could suggest something for your home. It will take time, and the most important thing to remember is that he has been on his own and will have a way of doing things, which at first you need to go along with until you can change things gradually and for the better if need be. Always making sure that you tidy your things away and do your fair share of cleaning and housework. It will feel strange but this will soon pass, feel positive about what you have both done, it is a sort of commitment to each other, but just chill with it all. If you love each other then you should know what they say "love conquers all",.....but on the other hand remember to give him some space as well. The more positive you are the more good energies that you will attract to your happy home. If you worry, and worry then all that will happen is your worst fears. So put them behind you, this is a new chapter so start to write every page kid and enjoy the moment. Which can last forever. So I wish you both happy and healthy times ahead.
2016-03-29 03:54:06 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't understand what "plan on getting engaged" means... either you are planning to get married (which means you are engaged) or not. I'd be nervous too if I was moving in with someone without knowing the level of commitment in the relationship! On the other hand, even if you are totally confident about the commitment, it can still be scary moving in with someone, there will be a period of adjustment having to be around each other a lot more than you're used to.
2007-01-26 08:45:07 · answer #3 · answered by zmj 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its normal. I felt the same way. I was used to living in the house i lived in all my life with my parents, and I had to leave my babies(my cats), and it was definetly a really big change.Also, all the responsibility made me nervous, having to do all the laundry and dishes and grocery shopping, I wasnt used to any of that. But everything turned out fine, we didnt kill eachother(not saying i dont want to sometimes) youll get into the groove real easy i bet and the anxious feeling will fade. just give it a month or so. good luck, and congrats ahead of time on your engagement!
2007-01-26 08:44:46 · answer #4 · answered by ♥mama♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
SO YOU AND BF GONNA BE SHACKING UP !! That's a great idea your parents should have talked to you about. Chances are you'll not get married because he's gonna think "Hey, why do I need marriage when I've got all the pleasures and a maid also?"
Talk to your pastor or marriage counselor and find out how rotten your chances are of 1) getting married if you do this, or 2) staying married
It's like shooting yourself in the foot.
2007-01-26 08:45:18 · answer #5 · answered by snvffy 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Because it's wrong and you know it. You're not engaged, you're going to be shacking up at only 23 years old, and you'll probably get stuck arguing about the cooking, cleaning, laundry, money-- and you'll be sleeping with him... all without being his wife.
If he cared about you and respected you, he'd ask you to marry him, give you a ring, set a date, get premarital counseling, get married and THEN you'd live with him. He's done none of those things. How much do you think he really cares?
You're just acting like an unpaid housekeeper and bed partner. Don't you deserve better? If so, demand better.
2007-01-26 08:42:09 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
I think it's normal, I also am having my boyfriend moving in this weekend and I can't wait and at the same time it does seem alittle scary. If you love him and you plan on getting married, your scary feelings should go away soon, it's kinda like pre wedding jitters, we all get them
Good luck
2007-01-26 08:43:30 · answer #7 · answered by evie 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's normal that you feel nervous because it is a big decision. Just don't jump to conclusions about live- in relationships. You never know someone until you live with them so be patient with him. Relax and make him feel comfortable with you.
2007-01-26 08:44:07 · answer #8 · answered by miss tique 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Moving in with him is a life changing step. Of course you're nervous. Good luck to you both
2007-01-26 08:41:37 · answer #9 · answered by bluesgirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because it's a big step if you've never lived with a b/f before... I haven't, and I'm planning on moving in with my b/f this summer after I'm finished with school, and I'm already nervous.. :)
2007-01-26 08:41:08 · answer #10 · answered by F.J. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cause your afraid things are not gonna go the way you want them to. Just remember it takes 2. I know it sounds gay! However don't be the one doing all the cleaning, paying all the bills, remember to give your man space while football is on TV. Good Luck!
2007-01-26 08:42:05 · answer #11 · answered by VEGAS 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋