ok..so... i like this guy but when i have him i don't want him and when i don't have him... i want him... how do i know for sure if i want him or not.. i have mixed feelings...
2007-01-26 08:29:18 · 44 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
how do i decide.....
2007-01-26 08:33:23 · update #1
Make up your mind before he makes it up for you!
2007-01-26 08:32:25 · answer #1 · answered by SquirrelBait 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I have the same problem right now. You probably want him when he is not available but when he is available you don't want him. I suggest either continue dating him and see other people to make sure if your feelings for him are real or let him go and explore your other options. You won't know unless you try and you could be stuck in this position and regret it later. I also feel if you are not sure you really truly do not belong with this person.
2007-01-26 08:38:43 · answer #2 · answered by sheripie72 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a common problem.
When you are with him, you see all the things tha bother you, and move away. From a distance, you see the things you like about him, and get closer. It's normal, but if the yo-yo keeps going, move on to someone who's not a problem when they're near.
This is common when someone is after a trophy, or caught up with looks. When with them, they have to put up with the personality. (He looks go great, but I just wish he'd act the way I want him to.)
It also happens with sex-based relationships. When not having sex, you can't stand him. When not with him you miss the good sex.
2007-01-26 08:37:28 · answer #3 · answered by mt_hopper 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's the ol' "grass is greener on the otherside" bit. I went through this and eventually realized that I did NOT want him. However, that was just me. If he has feelings for you, it's best to make sure you are not jerking him around and really figure out what you want.
2007-01-26 08:34:37 · answer #4 · answered by This is me! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're a bit co-dependent. Make an appointment and see a counselor. You want him when you don't have him because of the fear of being alone in the world. Most co-dependent people will stick to a relationship that isn't "all that and a bag of chips" rather than face their fear of never being able to find someone else that loves them.
Good luck!
2007-01-26 08:34:01 · answer #5 · answered by Sophie 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You need to grow up, ALOT. People aren't on this planet for you to play with. Leave the guy alone. He's got nothing to do with your mixed feelings. You like the thrill of the chase and once that's over, you lose interest. That's hurtful to most people so, figure out why you lose interest and in the meantime, leave the guy alone. He deserves to be with someone who can make up their mind and stick to it.
2007-01-26 08:36:15 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
You don't have mixed feeling. You don't want this guy to meet miss right before you meet someone better then him. You need to move on and stop slowing him down.
2007-01-26 08:35:27 · answer #7 · answered by smthchillb 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should probably be a little more respectful of HIS feelings. It probably bugs him that you have mixed feelings about your guys' relationship. People always want what they don't have, but if you CAN have it, go for it.
2007-01-26 08:34:19 · answer #8 · answered by NDC 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have any feeling you dont want him......
drop him. cause you dont. back in my freshman year of H.S. i was on and off with my bf for a year cause i couldnt make up my mind.... eventually i called it off for good and i couldnt have been happier!! im now engaged to a wonderful man and havent had once second thought about him.
if you truley want him you wont have the thought in your head of not wanting him!? hopefully you know what i mean!
GOOD LUCK!
2007-01-26 08:35:29 · answer #9 · answered by AC 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stop playing with the guy's emotions. Sounds like you want someone..possibly not him, but you want to keep him as a fall back, so you don't want the possibility of someone else catching him.
2007-01-26 08:35:04 · answer #10 · answered by Just D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on or you'll just end up hurting him. The fact is you don't want him, you just don't want anyone else to have him either. It just puts him in a bad spot. Let it go and move on.
2007-02-03 07:23:22 · answer #11 · answered by Wanderer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋