On our second date, my date invited me over to her place to watch a movie. Long story short, all the signs were there that she wanted to get intimate (like cuddle, hold hands), but I did not make even one move the entire time I was there, and to top it off didn't even hug her goodbye when I left.
I like this girl, but I move at a snails pace when it comes to relationships, and worry because I feel all I did was indicate that night that I only want to be friends, which is not true.
I've since asked her out twice, once casually for lunch which she declined because she said she was sick. The second time for dinner, which she said yes, but flaked on me the night before saying she wanted to hang out with her friends instead. She seemed sorry, but...don't they all?
All I can do is keep asking her out everyweek, but if I keep calling her to go out, does it seem needy?
Is there any way to find out if she's still interested romantically or simply sees me as a "friend" now?
2007-01-26 08:28:51 · 4 answers · asked by Mr. John L 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You may have blown it. She probably thinks you don't like her or that your weird. Most guys dont move that slow.
2007-01-26 08:36:22 · answer #1 · answered by gerber baby 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No sweat. You can recover from this easily. After all, it is only the second date! Go out with her again and get a feel for the connection. If it seems a little awkward or tense, you might want to address the previous date. Explain to her that you move slowly at first, when you are really interested in someone. She will appreciate your candor. It will also help relieve the tension, bring you both closer, and make the next move easier. If there is no weirdness, things are fine. So just relax and do what feels right. Ultimately, a girl just wants to be treated right. As long as you let her know in some way how you feel, things should be natural.
2016-03-29 03:53:50 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
pick up your snails and put the away forever. never move slow when the other person wants more they just lose interest. the least you could have done was cuddle during the movie and hug her when you left. then she would have known you thought of her as more than a friend. your going to have to tell her that you like her as more then a friend and apologize for oing slow. tell her you just didn't want to rush her into anything you both weren't ready for. good luck
2007-01-26 08:39:11 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you could just tell her what you are telling us that you didn't want to rush things and not sure about it yet and simply ask her if she is still interested and only then will you know for sure....
2007-01-26 08:35:53 · answer #4 · answered by panda 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋