I'm in a longdistant relationship with a man. I find it hard to trust him sometimes cuz he's really handsome and could get any woman he wanted. But he takes me to his local nightclub, where he goes every weekend with or without me. Do you think that if he was cheating he wouldn't take me there hand-in-hand? and introduce me to the bouncers (doormen) of the club? p.s. I've met all his friends and one of his married female friend's who is friends with all his friends. What do you think?
2007-01-26 08:25:44 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Whether or not he is cheating on you, it doesn't matter because you don't trust him. You aren't going to believe anything he says and you're going to worry and stress out about what he's doing regardless of what he tells you. It isn't fair to him and it isn't fair to you. I think instead of stressing out over his fidelity or lack thereof, perhaps you should evaluate the relationship and decide if this is the right one for you. You sound like you may have some insecurity issues and that mixed with a long distance relationship is a bad idea.
Good luck and I hope everything works out for you!
2007-01-26 08:34:58 · answer #1 · answered by kate92979 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Do you honestly think if he was cheating on you that his friends/the bouncer at a club and local club goers would tell you about it. A lot of times when a guy cheats the girl knows he has a girlfriend and doesn't mind being his other woman so she might have seen you at the club with him. Here are your choices you can ask him if he's cheating and if he says NO then you can believe him and continue the relationship don't believe him and break up with him. Or he could say yes he is cheating then duh the obvious choice is to move on and finally you can not ask him and believe he's not cheating on you or continue to believe he is cheating stay with him and drive yourself crazy. Obviously the only person that knows if he's cheating or not is him.
2007-01-26 16:37:07 · answer #2 · answered by Help Me! 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
MOST MEN cheat!! I hate to say that but it's true. Always stick with your gut feeling. 9 times out of 10 it will be correct. Obviously you feel something is wrong or you wouldn't be asking this question. Him taking you to his local hang out means NOTHING! He could have been introducing you so that nothing is said in front of you. Holding your hand just lets the other girls know that he's not available tonight. AND PLEASE don't ever think that anyone especially another woman, will tell you if your man is cheating. She might just be one of his booty calls.
2007-01-26 16:38:10 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
are you from Long Beach by any chance? i think i may know you ... hmmm ... but anywho - to answer your question ... you can't base your trust level on his looks honey. Go by his actions. And your heart. You know when something is up with your man. Especially if you've been together for a while. You know! As for taking you to the night club ... that doesn't mean much of anything. has he given you a reason to think that he's cheating on you? don't over think something that isn't even there. take it easy, play it cool, and pay lots of attention to the way your man acts around you when you're together. and from there ... listen to your heart:) Good Luck ...
2007-01-26 16:33:16 · answer #4 · answered by msdrdn 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
That is the hardest part in a long distant relationship. TRUST. The fact that you are so far away and he goes to the nightclub makes it pretty easy to cheat on you. He could have been showing off his latest prize. Careful if pressurred, he could bolt.
2007-01-26 16:36:00 · answer #5 · answered by grtoo9 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sweetheart if you can't trust him why are you with him? He seems like he is into you (not cheating), most guys try to seperate every aspect of their lives from their girl, but if he's introducing you then he's in it for real. My questions is what makes you think he'd risk losing you? You are the women that he wants and you are enough for him. Don't second guess yourself and hurt your relationship.
2007-01-26 16:32:11 · answer #6 · answered by Chrystal 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, it doesn't really sound like he's cheating. Usually your gut feeling is right but if a guy takes you to his normal hangout and introduces you to his friends, then I wouldn't worry. I know the signs of a cheating man and I don't see any here.
Good luck
2007-01-26 16:40:39 · answer #7 · answered by evie 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
if theres no trust then there shouldnt be a relationship. he might be cheating on u and just trying to cover it up by introduciong u to everyone so that u wont doubt him. He probably does that with other girls as well. But just go with ur heart and if u really love him than trust him!
2007-01-26 16:32:37 · answer #8 · answered by jelly1505 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Trust your boyfriend. Just because he can get (almost) any woman doesn't mean he wants any other woman. He's got you! If you're worried about it, discuss this with him. But as long as he's still with you and taking you to his hang outs and introducing to people he knows, I don't see any problems.
2007-01-26 16:32:22 · answer #9 · answered by reandsmom77 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
A long distance relationship with a guy that goes to nightclubs with or without you? Raise your standards.
2007-01-26 16:32:13 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋