How would you go about planning a bachelor party where there will only be 2 married guys and the groom-to-be and not make the married guys uncomfortable when the groom-to-be wants strippers??
2007-01-26 08:24:50 · 19 answers · asked by Sarah P 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Ok. Let me elaborate. I thought the same as all of you. That they wouldn't care and be all for the stripper thing. Wrong. They 3 of them are brothers and my husband is the best man and he's supposed to be the one to plan the bachelor party. Well when he talked to his brother that is getting married and he said he wants strippers at the party. Well, my husband and his OTHER brother got to talking about it and they both agreed that they didn't want to go to a strip bar with their brothers. And that it would be way too awkward. So that's where I come in. Both my husband (who hates planning crap) and the groom-to-be asked me to plan the bachelor party so that everyone will have fun. So I'm lost as to what to do cause I'd feel bad sending the groom-to-be to a strip club by himself.
2007-01-26 09:10:28 · update #1
I think that your husband and his brother who doesnt want to go to the strippers is great!! Thats how it should be, once together with someone they love than all girls should be off limits even if they just look. There is plenty of fun things for them to do...
1- Rent a place and go paintballing with all the men
2- Rent a cabin and have the outdoors to entertain them, fishing,hiking ect
3-Have a poker night with all the men, play other card games
4- Go to different clubs, have dinner than go play pool and have a few drinks
5-Go go karting, than go to the bar later on
Find out things that the groom likes and go from there, things that they normaly wouldnt do with the guys.And just dont seem to have enough time to.
2007-01-26 09:46:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I find the idea of strippers at a bachelor party to be entirely distasteful. If a man has committed to spend the rest of his life with only one woman, that should begin with the moment he asks her to marry him.
That said, I would let the married guys know that there will be strippers at the party, and allow them to make the decision as to whether or not they'll come. Most adult men are capable of understanding whether or not this will make them uncomfortable, and can simply choose to avoid the uncomfortable situation.
Alternately, you could clarify when the strippers will be there, and allow time before or after for other activities that the married men will also enjoy.
2007-01-26 08:34:04 · answer #2 · answered by abfabmom1 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It comes down to love and commitment. Not just for the Groom however. The bachelor party is a way for the best man, who's losing the groom to you, to say goodbye. It's a way for him to show the Groom(without saying it) how much he values their friendship. For the Best Man there's a feeling of loss and to a certain degree he feels replaced. The party is a a goodbye to the old ways in a way that offers closure. For the rest of the yahoos, it's a dang good reason to act like they're young again. Many of them are committed to wives, jobs, girlfriends, etc. This is a legitimate reason to party, stay out late, and live it up. The party really isn't about scoring for the groom or any other non-single guy. It's a moment shared, uninhibited away from responsibility. A suspension of the real world in favor of Old School. Boys just tend to get a little stupid with alcohol and do stupid things.
2016-05-24 02:51:12 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Plan a two part event. The first part can be drinking and hangin out and then the second part can be strippers, so that if some guys don't want to go they can opt out. Personally, I think bachelor parties with strippers is for losers. If they haven't gotten that type of behavior out of there system by then they should not have proposed. But if they must have strippers, then opt for someplace classy, where there are strippers and not hookers.
2007-01-26 08:52:46 · answer #4 · answered by Roc 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No man can turn down strippers!! And if they married man are uncomfortable (which i wish my fiance was) around the strippers then there are plenty of other things the guys can do. They can gamble, some type of sporting event, go fishing or something that guys like to do to bond. If the groom to be really wants strippers then maybe he should invite other friends that aren't married or take his fiance so she knows what is going on!!
2007-01-26 08:34:50 · answer #5 · answered by April 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
The married guys probably want the strippers more.
Besides what is a girl doing planning a bachelor party?
2007-01-26 08:33:06 · answer #6 · answered by ee 5 · 0⤊ 3⤋
My husband went to a bachelor party, they went to a strip club, had a few lap dances, and got drunk. (except the Designated Driver) Everyone was fine with it, and no one was uncomfortable. It's usually the wives who are uncomfortable with the idea and that makes the husbands uncomfortable.
(FYI - the two married guys in the party at the club were the ones who got thrown out! My husband, (Mr. Goodie-two-shoes himself) got thrown out of a strip club!) When I found that out I laughed so hard I nearly cried.
2007-01-26 08:41:34 · answer #7 · answered by Poppet 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Plan a daytime activity everyone can enjoy (whitewater rafting, paintballing, etc) and plan the stripper portion for later on. The married guys can choose to attend if they want.
2007-01-26 08:36:48 · answer #8 · answered by Meems 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The Bachelor Party IS for the Groom-To-Be...so his friends should do what HE wants to do.
It's a day to celebrate the guys...tell them to buck up and go with their Brother and loosen their collars.
2007-01-26 15:42:17 · answer #9 · answered by kcarp73 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Who says married guys can't go see strippers? Come on, they're married, not dead. I would be fine with my hubby going to see strippers for a bachelor party.
2007-01-26 09:11:00 · answer #10 · answered by Melissa R 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋