she's been with her grandparents since she's been bored and is very spoiled. Everytime I drop her off she cries, i always feel like a horrible parent everytime I do. Any suggestions on how to maybe comfort her, like get her excited to go? She's with a bunch of other kids her age and they tell me that she's doing fine and cries a little here and there but that's it. Any stupid or one sentence answers will be deleted.
2007-01-26 08:20:57 · 5 answers · asked by ash 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
This is a horrible age for separation anxiety, so shouldnt feel guilty when you leave (I know, easier said then done!) I used to work in a daycare, with all different age groups, for many years...my best advice is to do the drop and go or the hand off. Dont try to sneak out, just say goodbye, I love you, and walk away or hand her to one of her teachers. The longer you stay, the longer it takes to calm them down. and it ends up upsetting you more in the end. If you are worried that she is upset all day, then you should send some sort of lovey with her, a picture, a blanket, etc, or you can randomly drop by (DO NOT let her see you) and check to make sure that she is calming down after you leave. Eventually, daycare becomes a routine, and you will be hurt that she says goodbye so easily! Good luck and be strong. Dont let her think that she is in control!
2007-01-26 09:38:30 · answer #1 · answered by lmeverett22 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Independence is good for her. At some point you will have to let go and realize shes not a baby anymore. Try going to daycare for 2 days a week then increase the days she goes so its not a shock. You can even start at 1 day a week If your looking for day care see if you can leave your child for a day as a free trial period to see how she does. She will do just fine interacting with all the other kids and even follw them to the bathroom . instant potty training. Most daycare teachers are supportive and the assistants will get your kid from you to minimize the separation anxiety and get them directly with her classmates. That is what we learned and NO you are not a bad mother or parent just because youre kid cries and dropping her off.That is a myth. IF anything it made me want to call the school every so often to check up on her only to find out shes having thetime of her life with her new friends. You have to learn to let go. Its not easy but theyre not babies anymore.
Dad of 3 year old
2007-01-26 16:38:43 · answer #2 · answered by lonni98 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Will the daycare allow her to bring something from home?
If so let pick a stuffed animal, or a doll and favorite little toy that she likes/loves and let her take it with her to school, this way she has something from home.
When you pick her up engage in conversations ask her how her day was, what did she do, what she ate for lunch it will make her feel that you care about her you are not just dropping her off at daycare because you don’t want to be around her. Even if she doesn’t speak all to well yet still have ask her, one day she will surprise you and answer at least one of the question (my son did)
2007-01-26 16:39:11 · answer #3 · answered by Daphne P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The most important thing is for you to be happy when you drop her off and to ask her things like "Do you want to go to the park or help mommy cook after daycare?" so she knows you won't be gone forever. If she feels you are worried she will be scared but if you are genuinly excited, she will be too. Good luck.
2007-01-28 07:26:32 · answer #4 · answered by SunnySmile83 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
time will make everything better she is not going to die from crying i know it is hard to let go but it is the best thing for her to be with other kids as long as she isnt crying all the while she is there im sure she is doing ok i have 5 grandchildren and four kids consistency is the best thing once she realises you are taking her and she will see how much fun she is having it will get better drop her off and dont hang sround that will just make it worse
2007-01-26 16:34:01 · answer #5 · answered by tristy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋