Seeing a guy for 4 months who I love deeply, last nite he told me he wants to end relationship at the end of March as he wants to go back to being single, as I dont fit into his plan long term, he loves me and is in love with me, but wont budge on this decision, and I dont want it to end as things are so good between us, but im hurting really badly and do I end it now, or do I carry on until the end of march cos either way im gonna get hurt, and I dont want to lose him. Please any advice will be really appreciated......
2007-01-26 08:20:24 · 13 answers · asked by Broken hearted 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I know you're hurting loads but please recognise that this guy is not worth your continued emotions. Whatever it is that he does feel for you i'm pretty sure it's not love. Love to me means you give your whole emotions to someone and this is far bigger than thinking 'i'd like to be single again' or having a 'long term plan'. Maybe you need to level with him and challenge what exactly it is that he feels for you; if it's anything short of love then end it now or face hurt in March. If he DOES really love you then he'll realise he's been stupid and irresponsible with your love and he'll change his mind. I hope it works out for you x
2007-01-26 09:16:43 · answer #1 · answered by Ethereal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess the only thing i can think of is YOU end the relationship up now on the grounds that you don't see the point of waiting till March. It might be easier for you to do it this way. You could carrying on seeing each other, when you both feel like it. This is what I'd do.
2007-01-26 16:49:41 · answer #2 · answered by shortnotsilly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't believe you are staying with a loser that has given you a time frame for your relationship. What a stale, boring love it must be to have a deadline. What happens at the end of March except the end of the financial year and his taxes aren't in order? This is all so strange. Get a backbone, suck it up, be a woman and act like you don't know him the next time you see him or he comes around. How embarrassing this relationship is! Aren't you ashamed of yourself?
2007-01-26 16:46:50 · answer #3 · answered by Jenny C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously you don't really know this guy enough to love him "deeply". If you did then you would already be aware of his plan (from the very beginning in fact) and wouldn't have gotten into a relationship with him. Yeah you're going to get hurt...but I'd leave now, give myself a chance to move on. Hopefully you've learned something about getting sexually involved with someone you really don't know all that well.
2007-01-26 16:33:13 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he doesn't want you at the end of march, he doesn't deserve you right now... people shouldn't put a deadline on relationships... break up with him so he can be single even faster, since that's apparently what he wants. Get over him, he's not worth your time.
2007-01-26 16:30:43 · answer #5 · answered by F.J. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i was in the same suitation it was 4 months aswel he wanted to be single, and he wanted to go on a break but i just ended it cos goin on a break is stupid.. we were both hurt but i was the 1 who was more hurth,but after a while he told me he missed me but we never got back together i just wasnt able to in case we broke up again couldn face gettin hurt again..maybe your fella isn,t ready for a long term relatationship, give him some time i think your better of to end it now,cos it will hurt even more if u leave it longer. its hard but why should u suffer..
2007-01-26 17:17:22 · answer #6 · answered by XxSaMMyGiRlxX 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think its strange that he says he wants to break up in March, whats so special about waiting till then, if he wants to be single then he should be single now, why prolong your agony. Seems like maybe he is waiting for someone or something. Get out now with your dignity intact!
2007-01-26 16:34:17 · answer #7 · answered by Julie S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This guy is telling you in advance when he wants to break up with you???? personally i wouldnt stand it, i would get rid of him now, he obviously knows he doesnt want you and is probably just using you while he looks for someone else.
Be the one to end it first, find someone who loves you completely and wants you in their life, dont let this guy think he is 'the big man' for ending it.
Good Luck!
2007-01-26 19:05:00 · answer #8 · answered by Unhinged.... 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this guy isnt right in the head. drop him now, and if he wants to get back with you later, dont take him back straight away. make him wait and make him realise as strongly you possibly can that he should be lucky to have you. and if he doesnt want to get back later, then just move on, breaking up always hurts, but it gets better. i hope you find a way through.
2007-01-26 19:02:24 · answer #9 · answered by wolf man 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what is happening at the end of march what is so frigging important about this date !!! if that is how he feels dont stick around to be used by him until he feels and says so ! sod that 4months no commiments walk away now. if you do then maybe he will think again and realise that he misses you and you do fit into this life plan if he is frigging lucky !!!!
2007-01-26 16:41:20 · answer #10 · answered by danielle s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋