Ok so..what if you and your friends with benefits just have sex and lately its been getting more and more passionate. Would it throw him off if all of a sudden you did something more romantic in bed like more affection..kisses all over..things like that? I want to see how this guy is feeling me on a deeper level know what i mean? If he doesnt' respond back ill feel dumb but if he does??
2007-01-26 08:16:44 · 19 answers · asked by Ambitious27 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Who is the lucky friend? What do you two currently do in bed? Is there no kissing whatsoever? If it were me, I wouldn't object to what you are suggesting (i.e., kisses all over) but I also wouldn't necessarily interpret it as an indication by you that you wanted more.
What I would do is try that and see how he reacts. But regardless of the reaction, follow it up with some pillow-talk conversation and see how he feels about taking the relationship to another level.
(Now I want to go look for parts 1 and 2 of your questions.....LOL)
2007-01-26 08:26:13 · answer #1 · answered by lmnop 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here is the deal, I am a guy, and most guys are the same in this area. If a man wants to date a girl, he will claim her by asking her out on dates and progress to a relationship. When a man engages in a 'friends with benefits' situation - he mostly likely will never ever want a relation. He just wants to have sex and be friends. Women often think it will lead to something else - but that is not the way it works. As for doing extra stuff, like kisses all over, that might mess up the situation and make him run away. No need for you to feel dumb or wonder, again, just remember - if a guy wants you that way he will say. However, if you want to risk making things weird, but think it will be worth the risk - communicate to him, use your words, and just flat out ask him if he can give more or is interested in taking it further. Don't try to be a mind reader - just communicate.
2007-01-26 08:34:50 · answer #2 · answered by Zeus 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The biggest problem with the whole friends with benefits is someone always want to take it to another level, especially women. If a man really see you as someone deeper then the occasional sex, chances are you will know. Does he hold you after you have sex? Do you guys hang outside the bedroom? His action will tell all, maybe you shouldn't get into a friends with benefit relationship, if you're going to get emotional and catch feelings, because that's the main purpose of that sort of relationship...not having to deal with the emotions.
2007-01-26 08:28:52 · answer #3 · answered by T 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am not a big fan of friends with benefits it always seem to become more of a drama then a benefit. But if you are really starting to feel this guy and want more then go for it you will never know how he feels and will always be wondering what if.
2007-01-26 08:23:46 · answer #4 · answered by pressus_dalmations 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Friends with benefits? That is so stupid! At least one party in these relationships is getting the short end of the deal. If you want to have sex, at least have it with someone you love and who loves you. Where are peoples morals these days? Have some self respect.
2007-01-26 08:25:02 · answer #5 · answered by wendygirl1000 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go for it already!!! Sheesh! When I think of all the time I wasted in my dumb-a$$ days of NOT getting more involved with my first friend with benefits, I kick myself every time! OH and if he responds, go with the flow. The only thing more difficult than that is rock climbing and realizing you forgot your spare beaners and friends!
2007-01-26 08:28:11 · answer #6 · answered by mangamaniaciam 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Again, friends with benefits is nothing more than using one another for sexual pleasure, he is using you to get his rocks off...that's all he wants from you and nothing more. He isn't going to respond back to any romantic gesture because you don't mean that much to him. All you are to him is a resepticle for his bodily fluids. For all he cares he could be jacking off inside a blow up doll.
2007-01-26 08:22:42 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't know about your "friend"... but if I were you, he wouldn't be getting NO "benefits" unless we were together (a couple)! And you shouldn't spice anything up.... cause he'll think you a ho or something. Come on now... its just sex, don't get ya hopes up!
2007-01-26 08:30:27 · answer #8 · answered by CUTIE 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Theres a reason its a friends with benifits relationship. One of you is using the other for sex, and im guessing hes using you for sex and your starting to get feelings for him.
You will make it awkward if you do try to bring it to that level.
2007-01-26 08:24:44 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
unfortunately, i missed parts 1 and 2. you never know how a person is going to respond to anything. we are all different. we all act different-humans are supposed to be different. try what you want, but please don't write parts 4, 5, and 6.
2007-01-26 08:29:42 · answer #10 · answered by sinned 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋