i am a single mother who works 8-5 5days a week. when im not at work i am taking care of my child and my home and when i can i go out. i am very open and honest, sometimes blunt, i am faithful and i am pretty(people say) and funny. when im out and about i get phone numbers, i get hit on and yet when it comes to dating guys aren't interested. i play football,wrestle around and love to laugh. i honestly thought guys liked independent women that worked and took care of their responsibilities but for some reason i flop in finding "mr. right" im in no hurry. it just gets a lil lonely sometimes and i just miss having that someone there.
2007-01-26 08:15:41 · 45 answers · asked by ber-ber21 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
hunni there is nothing wrong with u, dont say that....
u being a single mother that works and takes care of your child/children and still has time to come and write these questions on yahoo shows that u r a wonderful mother and that u have time for anything if you really try :) lol.
i grew up in a home with just a mother and i had the best childhood ever! if u r are worrying about your child/children missing out on a dad dont - because u can be both, and u r capable of that.
if u r missing that someone being there dont really try and look for that someone cuz u will never find someone that way, if u want someone to love and u want them to love u back, just stop trying to find that person they will come to u in time.... i suggest that right now u work on giving your child/children the BEST childhood ever!
and remember u r capable of it and anything because a mothers love is sacred.
good luck
i hope that really helped u (even a just a bit) :)
2007-01-26 08:31:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nicole and Violet are right. Guys are often intimidated by a woman with children. They think it is too much responsibility and don't realize that you are looking for a man for you not a surrogate father for your kids. I was a single mother of 1 for 3 years before I met my boyfriend. I had been looking for something serious for years and it wasn't until I decided that I didn't need a man that I became friends with him and it blossomed. I know the lonely feeling too girl, it is hard. Just don't let that loneliness allow you to accept wooden nickels. Too many women think any man is better than no man. Just keep your head up and take care of those babies and if a man comes along that is worthy of a good woman, he'll recognize one.
2007-01-26 08:38:11 · answer #2 · answered by Roni 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honey, I totally understand where you are coming from... my problem is I wanted to be with someone so bad I lowered my standars and ended up with losers... at this point in time I have figured out that I don't need to become less to have more... I work like you... 7:30 - 4:30 5 days a week, I am totally comitted to my child and what he needs, even though I feel lonely at times I would rather tough it out till the right one comes along than worry about getting rid of the wrong one... you'll be fine, just keep doing what you're doing and eventually it will happen and when it does you'll find out it was worth the wait... at least that's what I keep telling myself... have a great day... = )
2007-01-26 08:28:17 · answer #3 · answered by Wiked 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know exactly how you feel. It sometimes feels like you don't have time to date or meet men - yet you get lonely not having that companionship - just someone to talk to at the end of the night. It's tough being a single mom and working full-time. Sooner or later you'll meet a man who will fall in love with you and your child. You're right not to be in a hurry. Just take your time and you'll find Mr. Right.
2007-01-26 08:22:19 · answer #4 · answered by reandsmom77 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I grew (and am growing to be) up in a unmarried parent better 0.5 and little ones. i'm only practically as good academically, mentally, bodily, and emotionally as the different 17 3 hundred and sixty 5 days previous lady. no longer some thing is diverse. i'm completely healthy and performance had male function fashions throughout the time of my life. i do no longer sense disadvantaged because i do no longer have a father. I even are turning out to be jealous of those with 2 father and mom, yet would not all and sundry get jealous of a few thing in some unspecified time sooner or later? i believe (in my concern) it became perfect for me (my father became abusive to my mom, even even as pregnant). My mom has achieved a darn good job of elevating me. extremely, better than some who've help from a much better 0.5. i'm close with my mom, closer than a number of my acquaintances with both of their father and mom. yet my mom is my mom even as she must be. i imagine i ought to quite have a million parent than 2.
2016-10-16 03:44:57 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely nothing is wrong with you. You may be a little impatient in finding a companion, but hang in there and at ALL times be yourself. Don't wear a false image to attract anyone. Your day will come unexpectedly when you least expect it. Learn to love yourself and improve your self esteem and confidence and leave the rest to God who knows your situation even better than you do. Find and nuture peace in your present situation and let the contentment spring from within. A companion is no assurance of happiness, as a matter of fact it can be just the opposite of what you want. Good luck and don't neglect your kid.
2007-01-26 08:31:28 · answer #6 · answered by john R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust me someday you will meet Mr. Right or he you and he will look at you as a real keeper. You sound like a very confident woman and perhaps are just going to the wrong places to meet a mate. If you have any special interest and/or hobbies it might be a good idea to join a group of like minded individuals. Fact of life is that you are going to meet a better breed of partner at a spot like this as opposed to a bar. Keep up the confidence and best of luck to you in filling in some of them lonely nights.
2007-01-26 08:24:22 · answer #7 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is absolutely nothing wrong with you!!!!! I'm in the same boat, I work, take care of the kids, school, and all other duties.... Its hard, real hard, to have a social life. To do anything at all. I don't have anyone serious in my life, it seems like some guys want to take care of you that's how they feel like real men, then again there's men that don't want to put up with the extra baggage, that's our kids. It's unfortunate how it goes, and I totally understand that you get lonely, I mean yes we love our kids, but we have needs, not only physical, emotional, but socially. Hang in there you are doing nothing wrong, the right guy who can handle a strong woman like you hasn't crossed your path yet, but it will happen!!!!!! One day and for your sake real soon. Just like where patient with our kids, we need to be patient with our men!!!!! Good Luck!!!!
2007-01-26 08:35:35 · answer #8 · answered by prettygirlme 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm not a single parent, but I feel where you're coming from. Its good you are taking responsibility, and trying to take care of your family! Keep up the good work! I know it may get tough, doing everything on your own... but trust me, things WILL get better. You just gotta believe in your-self. It seems like you're in no rush, just be patient and "Mr.Right" will come around! You'll probably meet that special someone, when you least expect it! Good Luck
2007-01-26 08:25:45 · answer #9 · answered by CUTIE 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing's wrong with you. Sure, the guys you have met so far probably don't want to date a women with a child, but there are guys who enjoy children. I think you should focus on your child and eventually, you will find a good man who accepts that you have a kid.
2007-01-26 08:32:30 · answer #10 · answered by beachgirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋