really just don't know what to do anymore... Im fourteen, and ive met a lot of new people in highschool, including a particular person who I like waayyy more than i should. He's my best friend, and I cant help but like him as more than that... and Im almost positive he likes me in the same way. The only problem is that he has a girlfriend that im sort of friends with and they really do like each other they're perfect together... but i dont know what to do. I like him so much its hard for even me to believe. And I cant believe how much I trust him after only a few months. I can honestly tel him anything, and he trusts me that much too and I can always be myself around him, and I know its horrible of me to want to take him away from my friend, but I cant help it I want to talk to him about it, but Im so afraid to lose him, or to cause him to lose her or to lose both of them. Im so confused cause I know I shouldnt go after him, but thats so much easier said than done... any advice pleaz
2007-01-26 08:11:59 · 5 answers · asked by xxEquestrianxx 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
hmm... sounds like another case of highschool love... I would just straight up tell him how you feel, and see if he feels the same...
if he loves this other girl then i wouldn't interfere until things go wrong, but if you really love him and you think hes "the one" then you defanitly need to tell him how you feel. Because thats the only thing you really can do... im sorry this girl is stuck in the middle, and id say that if things go bad, then you should just wait a little while till steam blows off before making that move into a relationship...
You also have to keep in mind that guys are *****, most lead you on, and most just try to get places with you... they make you believe that there trusting and then strike. and since your 14 then you shouldn't really blow him up to these standards just yet... i mean, its highschool lots of things happen in this time period.
2007-01-26 08:22:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
OH my goodness sweetie I got 4 words for you BEEN THERE DONE THAT. We all at one point or another find ourselves attracted to a friends boyfriend the trick is to not act on it. You're young trust me TRUST ME you are going to meet lots of guys and have lots of crushes. I know it doesn't seem like it now but you will. Don't lose a friend over a guy because you will lose her along with all your other friends you share with her because after you take him or attempt to take him none of them will want to socialize with you anymore. Enjoy being his friend it sound like y'all have a great friendship and it's hard to find a really really good guy friend don't ruin that. Also, you don't know how he feels about you what if you try to go after him and he doesn't like you in that way you'll lose his friendship as well as her friendship for nothing. You think they're perfect together but just wait and see they'll probably last for a few months then they'll both go their own ways At 14 it seems like your love will last forever but you'll soon learn that 99% of the time it's not that way at all.
2007-01-26 16:27:32 · answer #2 · answered by Help Me! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I only tell it like it is, xxEquestr.
Move on!!
Don't break his heart, or her's. It will follow you throughout high school and you don't want that reputation to keep you from making friends in the future!
Do not, I repeat, do not talk to him or her about these feelings. If you talk to him only, he WILL tell her, and you'll lose her as a friend as well.
Keep your reputation clean and don't talk to them about these feelings. They're fourteen, just like you, and they'll think that you're a trouble maker.
Stay friends with him and nothing more.
Better yet, if there's another guy you like, ask him out and go on a double date.
Hope this helps.
2007-01-26 16:26:35 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave it alone. If it's meant to be, it will happen. You are only 14, relationships at this age rarely ever last. Don't chase after him, you'll lose your friend, and you don't even know for sure if he does like you that way or not. Wait until they break up (and they will), then you can try to find out.
2007-01-26 16:21:55 · answer #4 · answered by wendygirl1000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You 'd better move on. If he's in love you can't change his mind..
2007-01-26 16:20:24 · answer #5 · answered by moulin.rouge 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋