How would you know if you are beautiful or not?

Question

The thing is that everyone I know tells me that I look like Angelina Julie (who I personally don't think is real that pretty), however, I really don't feel pretty. It seems like people tell me I am beautiful just to boost my self-confidense. How would you know if you are really beautiful? I now looks don't matter, but, I am just wondering and it's killing me. If I am so beautiful, why don't guys hit on me as much? That is the real question ;)

Answer 1

By how others react on first meeting. Watch the expression in their eyes and listen to the tone of their voice. Assuming you already know how to dress and groom yourself properly, a first impression will tell you all you need to know about how they feel towards you.

I'm guessing that you really are pretty and the fact that you don't feel so, could indicate a deception on your part. In other words, there is something or things about yourself you don't like or are ashamed of, and feel if others knew what they were then they wouldn't think you're pretty either. It's a classic problem associated with adolescence and/or depression sustained by the lack of information from someone you can trust.

Guys don't hit on you for two reasons: they think they're not attractive enough for your attention or they're actually sensing signals from you not to approach. Your dilemma will not be solved until you feel pretty inside first, then the outside will take care of itself.

Attractiveness is very important in our society, it can reveal what we think of ourselves and others. It indicates if we are lazy or resourceful, naive or sophisticated, ignorant or intelligent...just look around. Hope I've been of some help.

Answer 2

Sometimes guys are intimidated by really beautiful people. While it is true that beaty is in the eye of the beholder, you can probably rely on your brother, if you have one to tell you the truth. They usually dont care about hurting your feelings and will probably be comfortable enough to tell you the truth. Anyone else you ask will more than likely just give you the answer they think you want to hear. You can also try posting your picture on the internet and asking people to vote yes or no, if you really care that much.

Until then, just smile, that can make anyone 10x prettier. :)

Answer 3

I personally believe that Angelina Jolie is Beautiful, inside & out. While being you (general term) is always difficult and we know our shortcomings - sometimes it's good to take the positive opinions given to us. I have gained some weight and I feel HUGE, but those around assure me that I am not as big as my mind perceives. As for boosting your own self confidence try writing down the things you Like about yourself, and what you'd like to improve....if they are mostly personality traits, see what you can do to improve upon them. As for physicial traits either find a way to learn to love them or see what small changes you can do - hair color, ect to make them more acceptable.

As for why guys don't hit on attractive girls - They are intimidated by Us....and sadly miss out on great people like yourself. Pretty women have harder times getting dates than most people...so you might just have to be more Outgoing, and let them know you aren't breakable and are Touchable. Hang in there!!!

Answer 4

In today's world people say beauty is skin deep. People also say its what's on the inside thats counts. Or beauty is in the eye of the beholder. I wish that was true, I mean to fall in love there has to be some attraction. I mean I wont go out with an over weight women or a black one, because I dont find them alluring. I mean I am avg guy in the Marines, who is in good shape, looking to find that soulmate, but beauty comes from the heart, it will let you know.

Answer 5

That is such a loaded question. First off, you are beautiful if you believe you are which is why your friends are probably trying to boost your self confidence. Looks are totally subjective but if you believe in yourself, your beauty will come across! Guys probably don't hit on you because you are beautiful and they are intimidated or are afraid of getting rejected by you.

Answer 6

okay, so its cheezy and we've all heard it before, but honestly, from experience, its TRUE; we are all beautiful... who gives ppl like madonna and jennifer lopez the right to decide whos beautiful??

and if u dont feel like u r.. join a dance glass, do your hair differently, or add a little more mascara for an extra confidence booster..

and about the guys, who knows?? maybe ur a little 2 intimidating (meaning ur a little 2 beautiful) to walk up to and talk to!

heres the key: guys like confidence.. it makes them forget ur having a bad hair day, or that u just got out of a cold and ur nose is peeling.

if u find someone who likes u for ur looks, hes not right for u.

stick w the people who talk to u and not stare at u.

hope this helps!!!

Answer 7

Guys don't hit on beautiful women because they are intimidated by them....

To be beautiful you have to feel beautiful, inside and out. I don't know everyone would lie to you just to boost your self confidence...which sounds like you have non btw...try boosting up your self esteem by taking up new hobbies or completing something you have always wanted to do....self-esteem = beauty to the 5th power

Answer 8

Same-ish problem. All my family, all my friends call me pretty. There are even haters out there against me. And etc... But there are no guys out here (VERY few exceptions) that really come to me. I assume its because most girls chase their men and I DONT. But i say who cares what the guys think?! Don't ponder, just KNOW that you are beautiful. Who cares if u don't look like a super model or what-not.. as long as u know that you are beautiful and don't be ashamed of who you are!!

Answer 9

Being beautiful is something different for every single person. What I think might be beautiful someone else could think that same thing is disgusting. Beauty also comes from being confident. If you are confident about yourself and are happy with yourself then in my opinion you are beautiful.

Answer 10

ok hun... everyone is beautifull inside and out nomatter what you say or think you are beautifull
i have the same problems with my self confidence but the reason why guys dont hit on you or ask you out is cause your so damn gorgeuos they think you probly already have a bf and if they touch you they'll get there ***'s beat

good luck and just remember your beautifull no matter what