Over the past two weeks me and this guy I am interested in have been having some issues. We knew each other for a while before we started dating, but then i left town for a month. We talked, and made arrangements to see each other, but when I came back he blew me off. He was going thru some things, but I still wanted him to call me. I got upset and said some things I didnt really mean, and he told me he dosent understand why I dont believe him when he says he cares about me. So he was upset and so was I, but we arranged to talk. He never call me that night and I got mad again and sent him a message about how i dont think he cares and how he wont miss me when im gone. I sent another message since, apologizing for taking things too far, and before he said he could forgive me, but we havent talked since that last message, and its only been a couple of days, but im worried that ive lost him for good.. becuase even if we werent going to date, he was a good friend that made me happy.
2007-01-26 08:03:16 · 9 answers · asked by Darkbutterfly 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You are feeling the way you feel for good reason. He has made alot of attemts to avoid you and this is causing you anxiety which makes you angry. His words are confusing you but his actions are telling you something else. He is being evasive and just telling you what you want to hear.Next time tell him how you feel, say "you know, I feel bad that we have not been able to work out our issues and I feel I have made an attempt to get us to work together to make things right between us, Because I need you to be upfront with me I am gonna suggest you take some time to think things over to see if indeed you want this relationship to continue. I am willing to accept whatever you decide and will hope for the best for you and me whatever the outcome." Then leave and do not call him. Time will tell you what you need to know. Hopefully he will think things through and regain the willingness to rekindle what you two once had. My best to you!
2007-01-26 08:38:37 · answer #1 · answered by pictureshygirl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being a female, I'll just tell you this, it isn't over, but you are going to have to start being patient. Just because he doesn't call you right back, doesn't mean he don't care. Maybe you said some things, he was thinking of a response to & before he could call you, you call him saying something else entirely. If he makes you happy, why would you jeopardize that by pressuring him. Some guys have so much on their plates, until its hard for them to give everything & everyone their full attention. Try to be more understanding. You think you can just breeze back into his life & he's supposed to still be waiting on you? You sound a little selfish!
2007-01-26 16:18:51 · answer #2 · answered by chevy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Anyone that can walk away from you that easily, was never meant to be with you. Whatever kind of friend he might have been, is gone. You were not wrong to scold him for not doing what he said he would do. That's his bad, not yours. NEver let someone walk on you. It probably bothers you a lot right now, but in a matter of weeks, you will realize that he didn't have even half of what you really need or just wasn't willing to give it you. You are better off, Let It Go
2007-01-26 16:10:43 · answer #3 · answered by arcadia_1977 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it is over for good, but I do think you need to calm down, and re-evaluate the situation. Don't tell a man how they feel about you, because they hate that S!! Just send him another message, with a sincere apology and wait and see if he responds. If he doesn't then I would say move on because there no use in waiting .
2007-01-26 16:11:20 · answer #4 · answered by kay-kay 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To be honest no one never knows what someone else is thinking in a situation such as this. You apologized, but you can't keep saying hurtful things then apologizing, but you did apologize, now you have to be patient and allow him to put his thoughts together...only time will tell
2007-01-26 16:24:05 · answer #5 · answered by T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A good friend wouldn't stand you up without a phone call. Move on. Chasing after him only makes you look desperate and foolish.
2007-01-26 16:09:51 · answer #6 · answered by Aunt Bee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not good, u did take things too far. Find a diff guy and move on.
2007-01-26 16:09:51 · answer #7 · answered by luv2bake 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're just going to have to wait and let him respond. You've said enough as it is don't add more to the pot.
2007-01-26 16:08:11 · answer #8 · answered by Michael K 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him your feelings for him and let him go. If he feels the same, he'll be back in your life. It really is true. If you love'm, you have to let them go. If they come back, it's true love.
2007-01-26 16:10:09 · answer #9 · answered by papaz71 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋