To begin, I like this one girl. She might like me but I'm not sure, but, she has a boyfriend. The girl I like, we are friends. We talk a lot to eachother and are good friends, and I want to ask her out, but she has a boyfriend. Her relationship with her boyfriend isn't the best. They only talk at school when they run into eachother, never anywhere else, the boy doesn't meet her anywhere after a class or anything. I don't know if they went out on a date. But, just today, her boyfriend and I were talking (we are friends also) and she came up and really overlooked me at first. Well, I get my feelings hurt seeing them together, but I don't know what to do. I could move on, but I don't want to. I want her. And I think she likes me, so if they break up, then I can ask her out. But, my friend would be hurt if I did that. So, I don't know what I should do, please help, what should I do?
2007-01-26 07:58:11 · 34 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
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2007-01-26 08:03:20 · answer #1 · answered by ihateacaf0 3 · 0⤊ 3⤋
When u feel this way about someone u need to tell them . Don't take a guess as to how they feel about the other person who might just be a filler in thier life . Sometimes you really care 4 someone but they r untouchable in your mind but really they could feel the same about you. Tell her how u feel . Go from there. Her feelings might not be instantanious but who knows, she may look at u in a whole new light because now you r touchable! As far as your friend, go to your friend & tell him 1st how you feel. Thats respectful. Explain it to him that u don't want to loose him as a friend but the other person is so important. A true friend will back down if they really care 4 you .They will let the cards fall where they may fall. At 1st it may hurt them & there will be distance if they felt the same way 4 that person but eventually they will realize there really isn't anything u can do to change what is inevitable. Good luck A true friend won't foget you!!!!!! The person that was your friend may be thinking if the relationship between his two buddies does not work then he'll just try again latter. { this will only happen if he really liked the girl ]
2007-01-26 08:26:43 · answer #2 · answered by lilly l 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take steps and have patients and it could possibly work out for you. The first part is having patients, since this is your friend's girlfriend you should definitely have respect for that and not try to steal anyone away; if the relationship is the way you say it is it'll end soon enough. When the relationship does end then I would give a little time in between and just make yourself noticeable to the girl you like. If you still get the same vibe that she may also like you you should then talk to your friend before pursuing anything, he may just say "go ahead, we weren't that close anyway". Good Luck
2007-01-26 08:12:39 · answer #3 · answered by matt82682 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know the saying, "bros before... well i dont want to call her that, but you really need to think hard about your feelings... is it infatuation? Did you only start to like her when you seen your boy hook up with her, or have you liked her all along. It wont hurt to ask yo boy what the deal is between them and get the real from him without steppin on his toes. You could just present it as if you want to know if they are serious or what becuz you never see them together. Then you can make a better decision on where you should go from there.
2007-01-26 08:09:34 · answer #4 · answered by The Answer Guy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to her boyfriend kind of casually just mention how they are. When he breaks up with her wait a month then ask if he cared about her anymore, if he says he just couldn't care less ask her out, if he says he's not sure or he still cares ask him if he'd be mad at you two going out. then depending on his reaction either find someone else or ask her. you might not want to do anything that would hurt your friend because he'll probably last longer than a girlfriend. good luck!
2007-01-26 08:08:30 · answer #5 · answered by IamCat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well It sounds like to me like you might be young, since your in school and all but if you arnt don't be offended. I think that if your friend and this girl arnt really in a serious relationship that he shouldn't get mad at you, and if he does well then if he is a really good friend hell eventually get over it. Its not like they were married or anything, hopefully not. If your young you should just try to have as much fun as you can anyway, and not really be worried about anything that you (think) might be love because lust looks just like it some times. Just try to have fun and don't be too upset if you don't get her, you never know who you'll meet the next time.
2007-01-26 08:09:45 · answer #6 · answered by jenny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might want to just wait and see what happens between them. But still be her friend and be there when she needs you. If you break them up then it will never work out due to the fact she will hold a grudge against you for causing them to break up. Only time will tell. Hope this helps you.
2007-01-26 08:05:41 · answer #7 · answered by Bling 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you truly value your friend's friendship, it would be best to move on. However, you can always ask the girl out if they ever do break up.
The best news is that there are plenty of girls to romance in this world. Although it is upsetting, always keep that fact in the back of your mind. If you are a good person (which I believe to be the case), someone will be there for you eventualy. Patience!
Good luck!
2007-01-26 08:07:35 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as she has a bf all you can do is be a friend to the both of them. Once they break up, then all is fair game. You could allow a little bit of time to pass in respect for your friend but he will prolly still be mad. Best bet is to move on and find someone available that you like.
2007-01-26 08:03:31 · answer #9 · answered by sweetlaughter434 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If she already has a boyfriend, and you are friends with him, then she is off limits. If she was your girlfriend, you wouldn't like it if another guy was trying to date her while she was seeing you so please respect that she already has a boyfriend and even if they break up, if her boyfriend is your friend, you shouldn't get involved with her. Just put yourself in that guy's place. If you had a girlfriend and you broke up would you want your friend to go out with her? There are a lot of single gals out there, go get em!
2007-01-26 08:06:26 · answer #10 · answered by Rebecca D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep on hanging around. If it was meant to be she'll eventually come to you. In the meantime, if he isnt paying attention to her after school or weekends then that will be your time to "slide on in" and start getting together with her - as friends at first of course. But then hopefully they'll break up, you'll be there to console her and then..... good luck
2007-01-26 08:04:28 · answer #11 · answered by redneckgirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋