My girlfriend and i have been dating for 3 years. we have been through ups and downs. she wants to hang out with a buddy from high school, who is a guy. is there anything i should worry about? she has more guy friends than girls. i have ment all her friends since i've been dating her. She told me all her guy friends are either gay or real good friends.
2007-01-26 07:32:06 · 37 answers · asked by mark j 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Nope, nothing you should worry about. The only thing you can do is trust her. :)
2007-01-26 07:37:37 · answer #1 · answered by Dally 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I cannot comment on that as i do not know who you gf is but i will tell you one thing. I have been dating my boyfriend for 7 years and i have more guy friends than girls. The problem is girls are different. They all have very strong personalities and thats the reason they cannot get along with most of the girls and hence have guy friends. Dont take it too seriously. It might just be a good friendshiop. you dont want to presume something else and make the situation awkward. Just relax.
If the relationship with the buddy at all becomes more serious. You will know.
2007-01-26 07:43:50 · answer #2 · answered by crystal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know if you should worry, because I don't know your girlfriend. However, I think after 3 years, you maybe should consider where the relationship is going. Have you told her you're uncomfortable with her hanging out with guys? Do you think her behavior is OK? Do you hang out with girl friends? I know I'm old fashioned, but I wouldn't hang out with a guy without my husband just out of respect. As a child, all the way through college, I had more male friends than female. I would have "sided" with your girlfriend 5 years ago, but now I see that honoring and respecting my man, (my one and only) is way more important than a male buddy. That's what girlfriends are for. Lot's of women would probably disagree with me, but I think a man deserves the respect of his woman (just as a woman deserves the same from him.)
2007-01-26 07:47:03 · answer #3 · answered by Wendy B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you have anything to worry about. I am in a similar situation with my boyfriend. We have been together for 3 years & I have more male friends than female friends, like your girlfriend. One is actually my exboyfriend from high school & my boyfriend trusts me 100%. Give her the benefit of the doubt until she gives you reason not to trust her. Being jealous before you know if you should be could actually hurt the relationship just as easily. Good luck & trust your girlfriend! If she loves you you have nothing to worry about and if she doesn't then you weren't meant to be anyway!
2007-01-26 07:40:22 · answer #4 · answered by yardbird_24 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does she have a problem with you meeting this friend? If your asking it is because you are suspecting something. It is your choice but communicatiuonis always the best key to a healthy relationship. Talk to her about it before it escelates. DO NOT accuse! Ask her about his current events, where he went to college, what are his future plans, general questions, show her she can trust you and that you trust her and things will always go smoother. If she feels you respect her she will respect you enough for the truth, also if she is normally a truthful person look her in the eye and ask her if you have anything to worry about with this highschool friend. Three years is a rough time in any relaionship, be gentle and know everyone has their faults and worries about commitment, especially if there are no formalities of future promise.
2007-01-26 07:46:46 · answer #5 · answered by Tamara F 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are some woman who have more guy friends then girls and that do to fact that they don't have good relationship with there mother, so they don't relate to woman very well, but understand men, and act like one of the guys. Why haven't you ask her to marry you? You been dating her for three years and should be plenty of time to know if she the one? It sounds like she getting tried of waiting, which I don't blame her cause after all time is going by and she already invested 3yrs herself and going nowhere in the relationship, so think about it. Other guys are starting to look good even if they are just friends. So move to the next level or cut her loose.
2007-01-26 07:48:33 · answer #6 · answered by honeybunny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So long as in her eyes you are the best of the bunch no worries. However that could all change the moment you do something to upset her. Keep a watchful eye on it. If all of her friends are gay maybe she is too and she`s not telling you. Just remember your #1. Look out for your best interests at heart. Don`t stress out about it that alone could be enough to end it. Good luck.
2007-01-26 07:45:58 · answer #7 · answered by grtoo9 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No reason to worry. I tend to prefer the company of guys over girls, too. Doesn't mean she's going to be interested in them for dating. After 3 years, she seems pretty keen on you!
Also, since you've met all of the other guy friends, she obviously isn't trying to hide anything. She's being open and honest with you. You definetly should not worry.
Everything will be fine with you two. (Unless....has she cheated in the past??? Is that why you think you should worry?? Hmmm.)
2007-01-26 07:41:17 · answer #8 · answered by Heather S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she was upfront about her male friends before you all started dating then she isn't trying to hide anything from you. I can relate, because I get along with men better than women. But I have a question for you: are you having trust issues, or are you feeling insecure? Answer those questions & you'll have your answer, because trust me when a woman is cheating she's not going to tell you she's hanging out with guys, she just gets busted!
2007-01-26 07:50:13 · answer #9 · answered by chevy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that your relationship should definitely be based upon trust and if you can't trust her then you have more to worry about then who her friends are. However......I will say, as a female, I've always been wary of women who can't make friends with other women. From my experience, those girls who only have "guy" friends are seeking male attention and usually can't get along with other women. And often times they can't get along with other women because they're too concerned about impressing those other women's men. Maybe I just had a bad experience with that type of girl. Good luck
2007-01-26 07:41:43 · answer #10 · answered by Kristy C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's hard do date those girls with a bunch of girl friends,, girls with a bunch of guy friends are so much better,,
jealousy or none,, you cant really tell her not to,, therers really nothing you can do so it's almost useless to worry,,
because she told you her friends are gay or real good friends,, i assume you've inquired about her socialities before,, it's a good thing though,, i mean seriuosly,, im generalizing here but,, it's a good thing,, go with it,, you've dating for 3 years,, im sure she shares the same feelings for you that you do for her
2007-01-26 07:42:54 · answer #11 · answered by brak_the_hun 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋