well, my bf tells me everything and right after we got together one of our old roommates... crystal told adam(my bf) that she had a thing for him. adam said sorry crystal i'm with tash and i'm happy, maybe if it was before i met her i'd consider it but not now.
that was fine big deal so what.
well later crystal and i were talking and she was like yea i have a thing for a guy that has a gf and i was like don't persue it.... cuz i know she was talking about adam.
then she went on to say what if i could be better for him
and i just got up and left... was that wrong of me to do? was i being rude? should i have told her i know she likes my bf?
2007-01-26 07:19:30 · 26 answers · asked by Back*To*Me 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
she always brags to him about how she's gonna be a famous lawyer and that she's moving to chicago soon.
then he asked me once where i'd ever want to move and i said anywhere with you because i'm by your side til the end. and he melted
2007-01-26 07:26:28 · update #1
i never said she was a friend i said a roommate. i don't personally like her that much but adam and i are really good friends with her brother ryan
2007-01-26 07:31:20 · update #2
You did not act rudely. If you told her off, that would have been rude. I think you did the right thing, you avoided drama.
2007-01-26 07:25:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally I would have said something then and there. I would have told her that I know she's talking about Adam and that I can assure her that there is no way she's better for him. That would have stopped her in her tracks because it would have shown her that you and he have a relationship where you talk about EVERYTHING. It's not to late, you could always walk over to her (nicely) and tell her, "Look, I'm sorry that I just got up and left the other day, but the fact is, I knew you were talking about Adam and it got me angry that you thought you were better for him than I am, when I know that what Adam and I have is great and neither one of us could find someone better if we tried." (See how I didn't use swear words? I did that on purpose, because if I had she might think she really got the better of you.) Good Luck.
2007-01-26 15:29:18 · answer #2 · answered by little_chipmunk 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should have at least given her a chance to explain. You got jealous and walked away. You feel threatened by this girl and you acted accordingly. I wouldnt want to sit and hese some chick talk about my fiancee like that. But she might not have been talking about your bf. She could have been talking about some other guy. I would have pushed my emotions aside and tried to get some names out of her. And if she didnt want to tell you the name, then you would have known for sure that it was your guy she was talking about. At that point all bets would have been off, you could have told her how you felt and to back off or else. But you should have at least given her the benefit of the doubt.
2007-01-26 16:04:17 · answer #3 · answered by Sarah *~Vicious~* 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes say it clearly. That way you'll get it out in the open. Plus, you did nothhing wrong-she should be embarrased, not you. So don't hesitate to bring it up (though she'll probably deny it and say she was talking about someone else, at which point you have to decide if you still want a friendship with this two-faced individual...)
Good luck!
2007-01-26 15:25:31 · answer #4 · answered by abby j 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmm...tricky one.
If were in your shoes, I can see how her comment would have irritated me (and I can almost feel you cringe!). Personally, I wouldn't have gotten up and walked away. I think she is trying to get to you.
If your boyfriend goes for this girl, golly, he'd be FOOLISH.
The next time she makes a comment like that, don't let her insult your intelligence thinking that you don't know who she's talking about. Don't stoop down to her level, either. No matter how bad you want to say something, bite your tongue and let her look like the fool.
You catch more flies with honey than vinegar.
2007-01-26 15:36:19 · answer #5 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its a good thing you didnt tell her that you knew cuz she might have known adam told you and thatd be like telling her adam told you. But she was basically insulting you so it was ok just to walk away or you couldve got into a fight.
2007-01-26 15:26:44 · answer #6 · answered by Norman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd definitely call her on it. No you weren't rude. Even if you were you had reason to be. How arrogant of her to assume she would be better for him. Girl, you got way more control than I do. Best wishes.
2007-01-26 15:25:29 · answer #7 · answered by firefly 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
May I suggest you find yourself a good friend you can trust? You bring stress on yourself by trusting this girl. Trade up. Tell her you know, you don't appreciate it, and she can piss off. Tell her have a nice life, I need a real friend.
[Why do girls do this to each other?]
Yes, I don't believe male friends do this to each other at all.
2007-01-26 15:26:44 · answer #8 · answered by Murphy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No I think you did the right thing. If she has half a brain she knows why you left. And if she asks you what was going on, then take the opprotunity to say something.
I think it is great that you and your boyfriend are honest.
2007-01-26 15:26:45 · answer #9 · answered by gg 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
As a rule, always avoid conflicts in life.
2007-01-26 15:24:52 · answer #10 · answered by markos m 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋