It's a large party (75-80 guests), and it seems excessive to bring a gift to this in addition to the bridal shower and wedding gifts... right? She is a relatively close friend though.
2007-01-26 07:18:30 · 14 answers · asked by amyflag 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
You are supposed to make not any gift for that happening.
An engagement party is not given by the couple itself, but principally by their families.
At least you can bring one present (may be a bottle of wine or alcholics to the house owner (the father of the bride) and some flowers to his companion, as in every party.
The gift can not be done to "the new couple" because officialy they don't share anything. (house, bed, etc.)
If you really like to make them a gift, you may find something like theatre ticket.. something they are supposed to use together once and don't conserve.
Buit it has not to be given during the party. Best before.
2007-01-26 07:39:12 · answer #1 · answered by nuspy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have never been to an engagement party, only to bridal showers. I think it normally is customary to bring at least a little something, but I think it is rather excessive to have an engagement party and a bridal shower and expect girts for both. What sucks is, with so many people, if you bring something small, then your gift will probably get overlooked. There will probably be a lot of bottles of wine and champagne, so that is out. I would say if you cant think of anything creative that you won't have to spend a ton of money on, then don't bring anything to this and save up for something for the bridal shower.
2007-01-26 07:32:13 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Engagement parties are really given more for socialization, in order for family and friends to get to know the bride-to-be or the groom-to-be. They are usually hosted by the bride's parents.
There is no obligation to bring a gift to an engagement party. If someone wishes to give a present, it normally is done so before the party and is sent or brought to the bride-to-be's home. If someone does bring a gift to the party, it should be put aside and opened after the party. This helps to avoid embarrassing those who did not bring a present. The next day the bride-to-be should acknowledge the gifts by sending a handwritten "thank you" note to those who gave the gifts.
You have already sent a card and will, most likely, be attending the wedding, and perhaps even a shower, where you will be expected to give presents. If you feel absolutely obligated to get something for her engagement, make it inexpensive, like flowers or a small inspirational book.
2007-01-26 07:27:18 · answer #3 · answered by pensk8r 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For engagement parties, it greatly depends upon the region you live in and the scope of the party -- when the bride's parents throw a huge fete for all of their friends, neighbors and associates, those people generally bring a gift. If the couple or friends of the couple throw one, most people just bring a bottle of wine or other host/hostess gift IF it is customary in their social circle to do so when invited to a party at someone's home. Both Miss Manners and Emily Post say the couple may host their own engagement party, especially as a gathering of friends and/or a chance for the families to meet. One cannot throw one's own shower or bachelorette though. Putting "no gifts please" on the invitations seems excessive. Since you're in the very classy position of not wanting gifts (unlike so many brides on YA who are trying to squeeze more gifts) I think you should send out some cool invitations and see what happens. Best wishes on your engagement!
2016-05-24 02:39:20 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I usually give one gift per wedding. If I am planning on bringing one to the bridal shower or the reception, I wouldn't bring one to an engagement party. Actually, I've never heard of gifts at an engagement party.
2007-01-26 07:35:49 · answer #5 · answered by drshorty 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, its not customary to expect or ask for gifts at an engagement party. You don't need to bring a gifts. Gifts are supposed to be given at the bridal shower or wedding.
2007-01-26 07:24:18 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
seems how you are going to give them a gift at the bridal shower and again during the reception then how about bringing a bottle of wine/ champagne (like others answered) or maybe a gift for the hostess/ host of the party, or maybe even call and see if you can bring a dish to pass or help the hostess/ host clean up afterwards
2007-01-30 02:20:42 · answer #7 · answered by g g 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No not for an engagement ....
i would take a nice bottle of wine ( or champagne)
and an engagement congratulation card to give them
If they ,are already setting up home together ,
they would probably be delighted with a gift voucher ,
slipped in with their engagement card
Wedding presents are for weddings .
2007-01-26 07:37:33 · answer #8 · answered by sweet-cookie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes...you have to bring a gift - thats why people have all these parties - to get gifts!
Depending on the extravagance of the party you should at least cover your plate (if its at a restaurant, find out from them what the cost is per person for a party, and double it for you and a guest)..DO NOT show up empty handed, you'll look like a cheapskate!!!
2007-01-26 07:28:25 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would bring a gift, or maybe a bottle of wine or something along those lines
2007-01-26 07:36:36 · answer #10 · answered by melissa s 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋