i am having very much difficulties trusting my bf. he tries to regain it but he has lied to me so much in the past. everytime he is late getting home or even when he says hes going somewhere, i get very upset how can i get pass this. how can i concentrate more on my life instead of a man who has hurt my feelings. i want my self esteem to come back. i feel like a loser sometimes for have let someone get away with treating me like this. now that he is somewhat trying, he is catching hell by doing so. what do you think?
2007-01-26 07:06:37 · 16 answers · asked by eaglestraces123 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Once trust is lost it's very difficult to regain it in someone. He has to be willing to keep trying because he is the one who messed up to begin with. You need to remember that he messed up, not you, and keep telling yourself that everyday. You must love him or you would have left him already. If he isn't making you happy and you've tried this for a while, move on!
2007-01-27 03:58:08 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Trust is something that is earn back and that take time we are talking about years. You need to ask yourself do I want to continue in this relationship. The unsecured feel when he gone, or says he'll be right back because you already know the out come because of his track record. You need to move out, that way you will build up your self esteem. Move on if he really want you back they he will work on changing his ways, but he has to want to change you can't change him.
2007-01-26 07:20:38 · answer #2 · answered by honeybunny 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's really difficult. Once burned. It's hard to get back in the fire. Try getting away, for a time. Get out to see others. And do other things. Absence, makes the Heart grow fonder. You'll both see what you mean to eachother. Personnally? I say WALK!
2007-01-26 07:18:45 · answer #3 · answered by Goggles 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only way to concentrate on ur life would be to break up. The trust is something you have to think about, by asking yourslef how many times his has happened and if its worth going on.
2007-01-26 07:13:48 · answer #4 · answered by caring black guy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand how you feel. I have had past experiences in my life that I trusted people too much and they hurt me. A recent experience I had with my husband has left me distrusting with him and yet he wants me to. Its so hard. If you dont feel comfortable with him maybe you should move on to someone who you can feel love and trust with. I understand that you maybe feel like a worthless person because I know I did and that I still do sometimes. :( But you are strong, dont waste your life on someone who makes you feel bad...make a life with someone that makes you feel like you are worth living and dying for and be happy :)
2007-01-26 07:22:46 · answer #5 · answered by Sweetheart 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Trusting the same man may not be worth it as the past problems
never seem to entirely end but resurface!...But you have to trust
in your new man even though it may take several men in your future to find the one that you can really trust and love!
2007-01-26 07:16:54 · answer #6 · answered by rockhound 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have the same issues, i dont know if he has lied to me but we try to be as honest with each other as much as we possibly can. i try me best not to hide stuff from him and i hope he is doing the same. but i guess its just insecurity i dont know he tells me he loves me and i believe him but i have a hard time trusting him i think its because of some of the stuff he has done in the past with and to his ex gf. but i cant seem to get over it. so if you find the answer let me know plz
2007-01-26 07:32:37 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
MOVE ON!
there is someone out there who deserves a nice person like u.
Dump him. Chances are that he will hurt u again.
2007-01-26 07:16:30 · answer #8 · answered by ms_diva47 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You gotta follow your heart. Depending on what has happened it may be time to move on and start fresh with somebody new who has not treated you badly and disrespected you.
2007-01-26 07:14:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on and find someone new in time that you can trust.
2007-01-26 07:13:54 · answer #10 · answered by PleaseNoMoreNumbers 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋