2007-01-26 07:01:24 · 21 answers · asked by holguin_margarita 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
jesus man, some of you answerers need to zip it. u cant generalize the entire gender of men with a fear of commitment or immaturity or idiocy because they dont want to be in a relationship with a woman who has a kid.
theres more to it than just "men are immature and cant handle a serious relationship, blah blah i hate all men bc of a bad experience ive had with one or two blah"
usually if a woman is a single mom, that draws a huge burden on the relationship bc despite how wonderful the kid may be, the mom still must make her child her number one priority (understandably) and that really can do damage to how intimate or what level the relationship can get to.
also, if they have a child, that means that another man is somewhere in the picture as the childs father, and there is automatically a feeling of being threatened there bc the new guy is not the only man in the womans life.
then theres typical financial obligations, the idea of having to act as a constructive male role model for the child.
its usually unappealing to most single men because its a lot harder to fill the void in a single moms life rather than just be in the relationship with her. its unappealing bc its not a one-on-one relationship.
2007-01-26 07:24:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Scares certain ones away...
Sure, I mean a guy with a bunch of kids scares me since I don't have any. I think men tend to think that a single mom is a bad mom, or a bad partner....thus the reason why they are alone.
But like the old addage says, "Mommy's baby....Daddy's maybe".
But that is the way this society is.
I feel as long as the mom has a good head on her shoulders and is not looking for a dad for their kids, they'll be fine.
2007-01-26 07:12:29 · answer #2 · answered by Bathroom Graffiti 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Heck no I had the most awesome step dad in the world if I could be 1/2 the step dad he was I would be a real good one I remember what he did for us and I would jump at the chance to do the same for a family in need of a good male role model but at this time in my life I am only a daddy to 3 awesome kiddycats 1 bird and a fish.
2007-01-26 07:18:09 · answer #3 · answered by delmonticoman 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It can. A single guy with no kids might be turned away from a woman with children. I used to be. Now I am not so much as turned away from them but find it difficult to date them. Mostly because of time constraints. It's hard to build a relationship with a woman if I don't get to see her to often. And until I get to know her, I don't really want to become involved in her childrens lives.
2007-01-26 07:12:58 · answer #4 · answered by kildarner 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Usually, yes. The reason is because you first have what idiotic men call "baggage" in children, and secondly, you have already done it with someone. Especially if you are a young single mom, it is difficult at best to get a date!
2007-01-26 07:12:59 · answer #5 · answered by +TheEndIsInSight+ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think so. I think it depends on the man. Some men would lack the patience needed to be around kids. Others don't.
2007-01-26 07:13:51 · answer #6 · answered by sydney77 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some guys just aren't looking for that right now. It mostly depends on thier age or thier maturity level and whether or not they are wanting children in thier lives that this point.
2007-01-26 07:53:07 · answer #7 · answered by LOS 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some men are scared of responsibility, that's why.
2007-01-26 07:11:47 · answer #8 · answered by sassiest_princess 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
\i have an adult daughter, and \i hope being a mom doesn't scare men away for her.
2007-01-26 07:14:47 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The older the male the more likely he is to accept a "ready made"
family!
2007-01-26 07:12:25 · answer #10 · answered by rockhound 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋