both made mistakes in the relationship, my significant other says we can no longer have a physical relationship. For the past 2 months we talk everyday, and they tell me there is no one they would rather spend time with. Is it easy for engineers to just cut off feelings and have a friendship with someone they were in love with? I'm having trouble cutting off my feelings. Help...would love your insight.
2007-01-26 06:58:58 · 6 answers · asked by :-) 2 in Science & Mathematics ➔ Engineering
These comments are so typical of engineers...you answered my question even though you were avaiding the question. (first 3 reponses)
2007-01-26 07:52:48 · update #1
Engineers come in a variety of size and style, you know. We are not all alike.
2007-01-26 07:14:08 · answer #1 · answered by Vincent G 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As an engineer who has dated engineers, I would say there is a small amount of truth to the stereotype about engineers having poor communication and social skills.
Every person is different, and it is probably more helpful to think of this as a "person-specific" problem rather than a "career-specific" problem. However if you are just looking for trends, I think engineers are somewhat more likely to just cut off a relationship than other types of people. Look at it this way: their whole life revolves around the question "Does this work, and is it optimized?" They are used to coming to dead-ends in their work, and they come to realize that they have to quickly cut their losses and salvage what they can and move on. Some of this philosophy translates to how they interact with people too -- if a relationship isn't working "optimally" to their mind, they will probably want to stop or rework it, and unfortunately might not communicate that effectively to their partner.
2007-01-26 09:31:06 · answer #2 · answered by Sunflower81 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suspect this is a male/female problem and not an engineer/non-engineer problem. You may want to consider posting this in another section more appropriate to the nature of the question.
2007-01-26 07:48:58 · answer #3 · answered by Jeffrey S 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
engineers are problem solvers. you give us a problem and a list of constraints and away we go.....the problem we have though, is that if we dont know what the problem is, we are helpless. And we might not view what your seeing as a problem as a problem to us. We are wired weird...that's why we match up well with non-technical, uncomplicated folks......like nurses and elementary school teachers. Not to mention that we are usually control freaks and often get God complexes. Geez...we sound really screwed up
2007-01-27 17:50:06 · answer #4 · answered by oneman c 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldnt suspect that a job has anything to do with the way one feels about love. Everyone has different ways of coping or dealing with love and heartbreak.
2007-01-26 07:11:29 · answer #5 · answered by Krissy K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm an engineer.
I wouldn't date an engineer.
2007-01-26 16:53:40 · answer #6 · answered by BigBrain 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋