Strict mom? yep. =[?

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grrrrrr =[i hate it so much.my mom is soo strict,she doesnt let me do anything. I cant hang out often. but when i do - she asks me bunch of questions and stuff after i get home.and i have to sitt with her like for and hour and explain her everything. explain her where i was and what i did.she doesnt believe me what i say. never.so when i tell her something, she is being so dumb and asks the same question all over again. what the hell im allmost 16!!!
i cant dat, wear make -up, or do any other stuff what other normal teens do. but i do wear make up and have had bf, without letting her know.i hate my life so much.i dont know what to do.all i do is wrong for her.and she thinks im a baby.i have convos with her about that im not a baby anymore and blahh i need more freedom and all that.but she doesnt listen to me.grrrrr she says i can do whatever i want after 21..she acts like im her litttle daughter. grr
sometimes i just wan to say"oh shut the f*** up"!!!!!!
What shud i do? pls help.

but she is also 60!! she is too old.
and she also compares everything when she was my age.
which was like 44 years ago!!!
=(((((((

Answer 1

Sweetie, there is nothing you can do. In 2 years you'll be up and out of the house and you can do whatever you want. Your mom has been alive alot longer than you though and she knows the kinds of things that go on in the world and she just wants to protect you. Imagine loving something soooooo much that it hurts your heart. Thats how much your mom loves you and it hurts her everytime you leave the house b/c she won't be with you to protect you. You have to cut her a little slack b/c it has been her job to keep you safe for the last 16 years so it is going to be a hard habit for her to break. Parents worry about us constantly. It keeps them awake at night, it takes their breath away sometimes to think about how much they love you and how many scary and bad things there are out there to hurt you. Its not that parents don't want you to have any fun, or that they don't trust you, its that they don't trust other people. You hear stories everyday about girls your age being raped, murdered, kidnapped, impregnated, all kinds of things and those all happened to someone's daughter and she just doesn't want it to happen to you. I know it hard, I had EXTREMELY strict parents (my dad would follow me and watch me with binoculars when I was out with my friends, ok, so I totally understand) but I thank God everyday that someone loved me enough to risk me being mad at them to keep me safe. Now that I am grown, I see that I have PLENTY of time to wear makeup, go out with friends, date all that stuff. But you only get ONE time in your life to be a teenager and be young and carefree, so just try to enjoy it as much as possible and just try to be alittle more understanding with your mom b/c she has your best interests at heart. Matter of fact she's the ONLY one who truly has your best interests at heart, maybe offering her a little understanding will get her to back down a little on things, you never know. Anyway, only 2 more years and you can do whatever you want.... it will come VERY fast.

Answer 2

Take a deep breath girl*~ Your mom is just being a "mom" ...you don't understand her right now but one day you will. With all the crimes and drugs etc now adays.....it's one big fear for a mother to let go and give a little. Perhaps you've given her reasons for her to not trust you(were you to come home at a certain time, and didn't..then lied saying you were one place when in fact you were somewhere else??) that could be why she doesn't believe you. It's hard being a teenager and even harder being a mother of one*~ Hang in there......try talking to her again saying you are 16 and you want her to trust your judgment on things. She will Always worry* nothing you can do about that*...but just calmly sit down and ask her why she wont allow you to do certain things that other kids are doing (if you don't have very good friends...it will be tough as she'lll fight you on everything..but only doing it for your own good* no parent wants their child involved with 'bad'kids (drugs , hangin around at the mall) You are worth more than that......find a part time job which will show your mom you're growing up and will learn responsibilities*
GOodLuck

Answer 3

Damn, can't get 10 points when "ticklemeblue" hit the nail on the head. It's a war zone out there. Your Mom is using the best tactics she can think of, to keep you safe and sane! Don't worry you will grow up soon enough! There is really only one problem you must overcome. @ 18 you can choose to go where you want. Your Mom wants control till 21! This must mean she has college plans for you. Bummer, now she did it! You are going to be set up in life with a degree that 90% of Americans can't afford. Yep, you have a horrible Mom! Try to gain some maturity within the next 6 months or so. Try to wear your Moms shoes for once. She probably didn't get the education you have and has done pretty well so far. My guess is she matured early in life. Wish she could have passed on that gene!

Answer 4

Parents act like this for a reason. They worry about their children. I was once in your shoes, and not that long ago (I'm 24). My issues mainly started after i was 16 and had a car. I wasn't able to go Midnight Bowling like all my friends, and i had to tell my parents every where i went. I of course fibbed some of the time. Most likely if you respond to her questions in a more "grown-up" way she will respond to you better. Also if you want to keep getting $$ or living with her, yes you will need to follow her rules until you are out on your own, earning your own money. Thats the way it works. You have to learn to deal with it better. You'll get through it a lot faster if you do.

Answer 5

You should respect your mother. She is protecting you because she loves you and cares about you. She has already been through her teenage years and knows the pressures and dangers that you are facing. She might seem strict to you now but in a few years when you have your own children you will thank her for being this protective of you. I know a lot of kids who's parents don't even know where they are most of the time. It's a dangerous world out there and your mother knows more about how to survive it than you do.

Answer 6

My mom is the same way and I see that she does it because she wants to be a good mom but sometimes she really does need to back off. What I've been doing is telling her about what I'm doing and who (more or less) I'll be with and I'll repeat what she's told me in the past before she gets a chance to. Try and get her to trust you and maybe tell her what you want and how you feel about what she's doing. Try telling her that you want to wear make-up and that you do have a boyfriend. I'm trying to deal with this to so if i figure out anything else i'll try and tell you. Hope this helps.
And good luck!

Answer 7

You're not a baby, but you're not an adult. You're a teen, I've been there. She's just concerned, she doesnt want you to grow up too fast. There's alot of bad **** out there that happens and being a teen I didn't see it until it hit me. I wish I had a mom like you do. How much freedom do you want? Will you take more once you get a small taste? I can understand your anger, but she's your mom. Be lucky she cares about you, because my mom didn't.

Answer 8

When you have a kid of your own you'll be doing the same thing. Your mom is concerned for you - be glad there are kids out there that have parents who could care less what happens to them. Have a calm talk with your mom about the situation, and if you make your points clear I am sure she will be willing to be more flexible.

Answer 9

Odds are, when parents are strict on their kids its because they were once wild at your age and they don't want you to be the same way. I say you have to show her and prove to her that you can be trusted, try doing things around the house without her asking, start small.

Answer 10

Hey, take it easy yar!
Your mom worrying about her daughter's safety.
Generally, all of the children do lie at this age.
With patience only you can change your mother's attitude.
And one more thing you have to remember, she is an experienced person than you.
Convince her.
Then she'll realise that all of the children are not of same kind.
Best of luck... :)