I am a senior in high school and my boyriend graduated high school last year. He proposed to me and I don't know what to say. He is really sweet and everything I want but I am young and I have the rest of my life to have him as my husband. I told him I would give him a final answer after graduation but he keeps asking. What should I do?
2007-01-26 06:55:04 · 30 answers · asked by passion4fashion07 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You already answered the question.
If you're not ready, tell him.
2007-01-26 07:08:07 · answer #1 · answered by tkatt00 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You already answered your question, which seems to be your gut feeling. Honestly you both are too young. The bad thing about getting married too young is that you change severely through the next 5-6 years or so, and both of you will most likely have more differences throughout. You should wait, at least until you don't have to worry about graduating high school... College is different becasue you dont really have to go like you do by law in highschool. My best advise is to wait
2007-01-26 15:11:04 · answer #2 · answered by surfinnorcal77 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WAIT. You're too young to consider getting married. Planning on going to college? Might present some problems.
As a guy who got engaged right out of high school, and had it broken off soon thereafter, I recommend that you don't even consider marriage till your at least 24-25. I look back at it now, and waiting was seriously the best thing I ever did, so far as accomplishing my personal goals, and setting myself up for the kind of lifestyle I want to have.
But it's really not about me...what do you want. Talk to him, and see if your long term plans and goals are compatible, and try to work around that
2007-01-26 15:18:01 · answer #3 · answered by xooxcable 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if there is one once of doubt in your heart, you have to wait!! if it is real and you are supposed to be together, he will still be there, if he leaves, then you definatly made the right decision.
don't rush into anything, i have seen it happen so many times, friends that get married young and them about 23 feel like they missed something or didn't get to experience something, they normally end up cheating or getting a divorce or just fighting all the time. i have know a few that break out in the late 20's early 30's and think that they are a kid again, they are not, they are fools. it is better to have fun and do what you want to do now then to ever feel stuck.
marriage is supposed to be forever, if it is, then waiting a little while won't hurt anything.
2007-01-26 15:12:47 · answer #4 · answered by cardsfan420 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its really up to you , so theres no right or wrong answer. But before u get married you have to know if you're ready. You have to think about a life of just one guy, and hes really the right one. Mtv has show called underage and engaged, watch that, maybe it'll help you answer his proposal. Only u can decide. Good luck!
2007-01-26 15:10:57 · answer #5 · answered by caring black guy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The fact that you are asking this question means that you are not ready. Please don't make the mistake of your life and get married before you are ready. If he really loves you, then he wont pressure you to do something that you are not ready for. And by the way no matter what he says, he is not ready either. Take some time to mature and experience life. Believe me, I speak from experience, wait, wait, wait. Good Luck!
2007-01-26 15:12:03 · answer #6 · answered by Voyager01 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i think you should spend a little bit more time together to see if he is ta one you want to spend ta rest of ur life with. because once u r married it wont be the same as it was. so to make my opinion short i believe take time and if he really loves u he will wait all the time u need
2007-01-26 15:13:28 · answer #7 · answered by marlen 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are right on track - You both have to go to College... further your education. Tell him you can continue to see each other but its too early to commit to this level.
If he is the "one" it will work out - if he loves you he will wait.
Practically - you'll need money to build a life together and you most likely don't have it now....
2007-01-26 15:13:00 · answer #8 · answered by Slim Jim 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him your not ready. or have a long engagement. its really not a question that anyone else can answer for you..statistics say that if you wait until your 30+ that your marriage has a 80% more of a chance of lasting a lifetime
2007-01-26 15:08:46 · answer #9 · answered by Bad Mood 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Follow your heart its probably torture for him not knowing. If your not 100% sure then your should probably say that your not ready yet and try and tell him why. If he really loves you and you really love him then you can wait to get married when your a little more ready and sure. I hope this helps.
Good Luck!
2007-01-26 15:19:03 · answer #10 · answered by baby gurl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Give yourself two years and live with him for those two years. If you can take it after the two years, marry him. I once told my girlfriend that if she could stand me after two years, I'd marry her. She lasted 1 year and 10 months before she had an affair with her boss.
Two years, remember that, two years.
2007-01-26 16:37:27 · answer #11 · answered by Kevin A 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋