My boyfriend of 7 months, who I love, has had another male friend whom I have never met, hitting on him via text messages. Normally I wouldn't have a huge problem as it happens to me from time to time, but this one I have had a strange feeling about. I heard him tell the other guy that he wasnt interested in him 2 weeks ago. I checked his phone a week ago, saw the messages fron this other guy, and told him that I was upset about it. He got upset that I was invading his privacy. We worked it out, but I still had a strange feeling. I checked his phone again last night found some provocitive picture messages that I haven't seen before but were sent about 3-5 weeks ago, sent from both my boyfriend and this guy. He doesn't know that I found them, and I haven't confronted him about this yet. I feel like I have been betrayed and lied to, and in a way cheated on. Any advice on how I should confront him? I am considering breaking up with him but don't know.
2007-01-26 06:46:01 · 8 answers · asked by UIhawk eye 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You need to just put it all out there on the line.
It doesn't matter at this point. Two wrongs normally don't make it right, but he pushed you to that point with his indiscretion.
If he was smart he would have deleted them on site. Maybe in some back-ended way he wanted you to find them.
Confront him. You deserve to hear his explanation. If he tries to go off on the whole "you betrayed my trust tangent", than re-focus the conversation back to those texts. Don't let him off the hook.
Good Luck!
2007-01-26 07:07:47 · answer #1 · answered by Bathroom Graffiti 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it's only been 4 months and he probably is just as scared as you are about the relationship. As for the marriage thing, some gay mand and women simply don't believe in marriage, there are straight folks who feel that way as well. So I wouldn't base anyhting off of that. For the sister thing, meeting the family is a really big to do for some people. I had an ex who I thought was going to die from nerves he was that nervous when I was meeting his folks. Just give him some room to see where this relationship is heading. You may have a better sense of what you're looking for but he is not you. It's perfectly normal for you both to be where you're at and to think the way you both do. Just give it time.
2016-03-29 03:46:15 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know some peopel think invading a boyfriends privacy is horrible. I say it is... to an extent. I will ever so often check my boyfriends Myspace (not because I don't trust him, but I don't trust girls). He doesn't get mad because he knows that he has nothing to hide from me. Obviously your boyfriend knew you were going to find things on his phone, or it wouldn't have been an issue. I am not saying it is right to always open your boyfriends phone and search through it, but I'd rather someone look at my phone then go through my drawers. It's always tempting to want to make sure everything is okay in a relationship and something is WRONG in this one. You have to confront your boyfriend. Mention that you understand it was wrong to look through the phone after you had already argued about it before, but remind him that if there was nothing to hide, he wouldn't have stressed the issue. Don't stand for this. Nobody deserves to be cheated on... good luck. I hope all works out or you find someone who won't take advantage of your feelings like this.
2007-01-26 07:06:10 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your bf is sending pictures back, then you have a big problem. People from time to time will do these things, but thats when you tell them to go away, or you just ignore and delete the messages you get. Replying means he's at least curious, sounds like you can do better.
2007-01-26 07:06:06 · answer #4 · answered by PleaseNoMoreNumbers 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should tottaly break up with him he is cheating on you.he isn't gay he is bi-sexual because he liked you and a guy and you don't need to know how to breakupwith a guy you can just say it's over and if he follows you then ignore him cause if you talk to him it will be a crisis.
2007-01-26 07:01:06 · answer #5 · answered by soggie27 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Alot of time if you confront someone about questionable behavior and they get defensive about it ......it's a sign of guilt.
2007-01-26 07:01:03 · answer #6 · answered by VEGAS 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to have it out with him and tell him he needs to be true to you, if he can't or won't, tell him to hit the road.
2007-01-26 06:57:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
always trust your heart! go with what u were born with!!! what is your inner self--telling you
2007-01-26 07:04:35 · answer #8 · answered by mehecana 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋