whos thinks teenage pregnancy is just down to...?

Question

stupidity.. why are kids so desperate to have sex and take the chance of gettin pregnant or catching an STD due to unprotected sex...
why has the true meaning of having sex... you know the romantic part been taken away, and the majority of people think losing their V as not important?
is it really down to terrible education or is it due to their upbringing?do you think the true meaning of making love will ever come back, or waiting till your over the age of 18 to start having sex? will the average age decrease from 14, till younger and younger kids start to do it, i mean i dont want my kids to have to come into that sort of world..
whats your opinion on this issue?

1- dont tell me to fcuk off, i have the right to put forward a question without being rudly spoken to
2- i was using 18 as a general age, it could be 19, 25 whatever
3- i dont think people should have a child unless they are financially secure, how the heck can a teenage look after a child when they are only kids themselves, and will usually sponge off the state on benefits.. how is that fair

brazanone- howabout stop answering my question with total crap when you dont know the full story.
the answer i gave him was his exact words he gave as an answer to one of my other questions.. so before you carry on sticking up for some one try getting the ful story, might help you look less like a fool

Brooke- ive never ever ever answered a question of yours, so how about you get your facts right before YOU go around pointing the finger.
If i was to answer a question about a person in need of help because they think they are pregnant i would answer with something to support them or atleast try to make them feel better, so what ever imaginary 'retarted answer' i gave you is absolute bull crap cause i simply havent done it.. so get your facts right

Answer 1

I believe it is a combination of both. If you are brought up in a household where that topic is not discussed how are you going to get information? And if the school does not teach sex ed and go over stds and the consequences that does not help either. I have only been with one person and we are getting married next summer and I did wait till I was almost 20 and I think that this was in part to my upbringing- my grandfather was very religious and out of respect I was a pretty good kid. Losing your virginity is a big deal and I think society is so oversexed that people assume its no big deal or that everyone does it. Unfortunately it does seem to be the reality that kids are having sex at a much younger age. It is a scary thought to bring children into a world where there childhood does not last as long but I believe that if you educate your children and talk to them openly about sex and the consequences they will be better informed. Also, fair parenting is key because my parents were very strict and my sister ended up pregnant because she did not take birth control so they would not find them and find out she was sexually active. The condom broke and now a baby is on the way...but she was not close to my grandfather and did not have the same moral beliefs as I did. So like I said, it all comes down to upbringing, open communication and awareness between parent and child and moral values,

Answer 2

Your observation has some valid concerns. Young/ single mothers provided information for a book written by a PhD, (I will try and find the title) that the majority of the time they became promiscuous because they did not have an involved father figure in their life.

This is coming not from me, but from the mother's themselves.

They did not have the love, attention and affection from their father- and so when they felt "loved" and wanted as teens, it was as if a hole in their soul was being filled up. Caution often times goes out the window. Girls are not prepared for what feelings of hormones/lust/passion can bring. No one teaches that in sex education at school. I am 34~ I don't remember being taught anything about reality when it came to sex, just a bunch of mind numbing statistics (and once the gym teacher stuck a pad to her leg to show it had a sticky side, I mean jeez- that's some hard core education :-) Plus, children are sexualized and bombarded with sexual messages everywhere they go. It is sickening, and parents have to really watch out for what their kids are involved in.

Anyway, this is a trend that will continue to be on the rise, and I for one do not judge the girls. They need help and guidance~ and hopefully they will have the fortitude to navigate the waters of this hectic life and take care of themselves and be good mothers.

By the way, I didn't mention boys in this case because I was mainly talking from the perspective of teen mothers in this country. Boys are obviously needing to take responsibility in these cases, many are not. Boys are being sexualized too, and both girls and boys who are still of a developing mind unfortunately do not have a full sense of consequences. They are not like adults who can look several years ahead and make decisions based on life experience and maturity.

Answer 3

Having sex is just that...it's ONLY sex. Making love is when the romance is applied.
The ONLY reason teens have such an issue with sex is because parent treat is as taboo. My cousin had a no limits teaching about sex with her two kids. To this day, they are not "curious" about sex so they don't just run off with anyone.

Why is 18 a magic number? Is there some fairy godmother that drops down on the 18th birthday to create the knowledge of understanding?

Lets face it, teen bodies are developing BEFORE the teens years. If you don't fill them with the knowledge, the will take their curiosities to their friends and find out the hard way.

Answer 4

I don't know what world you come from but teenagers and sex have always been around. I don't think the # of teenagers has really increased just the # who admit it has.
As far as younger kids starting, my girlfriends sister has an 11 yr old friend who is pregnant right now. Now I believe that is way to young and I wonder where she learned that from? I know when I was 11 the most important thing to me was getting home from school so I could ride my bike.

Answer 5

i really do think it is stupidity...

now note that i Am a teenager but looking around me sometimes its sad to see what the priorities of some of the people around me are... I plan to go to college and graduate .. but it seems like it I'm alone on this one seeing as how many others seem to have other values...

but do note that it isn't because of the education...most schools are required to have sex ed... at the parents' discretion.. the thing is teenagers now just have a different view on life..

before schooling discipline manners and such were top on the list.. now with all of the new media out there talking about "smack that o.O" and such, the subject is hard to avoid and most teenagers see it as the media world wants them to.. as fun and something that EVERYONE does regularly

lastly teenagers are young and healthy.. at this age it feels like "nothing can happen to me" and nearly no one takes the time to stop and think about how this will affect their futures

Answer 6

I have to be honest, I am finding out that in some places in very very well off countries, there is just a lack of education about sex and people dont understand. I know of people who know that semen can infect them with AIDS, so they just pull out, not knowing that pre-*** and other things can pass on AIDS anyway, people who think the pill protects against it, and if 1 person thinks that way then more will, people who have grown up together having the same views on things, and a lot of guys where I;m talking about really dont care about protection as long as they are getting laid, so it reall is on women to make sure they protect themselves. Its a damn scary game some people play. Thankfully, some people get lucky.

Answer 7

Just FYI the rate of teenage pregnancy has decreased significantly. I think ignorance is a better word to use. If your parents/school doesn't tell you about sex and the consequences behind it, then you learn from your friends. Simply waiting until a certain age does not protect you against pregnancy, whatever age you need to be educated. I don't think 12 year olds should be having sex, but their parents should talk to them about it, if and when they ask.

Answer 8

two things. . .

1) What is the meaning of sex? Its to reproduce plain and simple. The pleasure part of it is a great side effect.

2) With the amount of sex education out there I do believe that its either stupidity(that could never happen to me) or that the girl has a need to be a mother that has been ingrained into her since birth. I believe it to be a bit of both.

Answer 9

teens are thought in school to have protected sex someone cant force hem not to have sex thats their decision. it has nothing to do with there upbringing some have probably just felt that they were in love when they first lost it and they are stil probably with that person. now about the teenage girls being mothers..... those are the best mothers out there because they'll actually be able to talk to there kids and they'll be able to be there with them through everything becausse even though you may consider them kids that are having kids. in reality they are not because they struggle to give their babies everything in life. there is nothing romantic about sex because thats when you just gettin some for pleasure. but what is romantic is when its love, whatever you do with your kids thats your way of being a mother to them. once they developed the state of mind where they can hear you and listen to you and take it all in they'll be like yes mom okay mom. but in reality if you try to keep them from anything or just deprive them of something like a view of not having sex till marriage and they want to *** much as you try you wont be able to stop them because its something that they are gonna want to do and if they make a mistake they make a mistake. everybody makes mistakes and some learn from it. but a person should loose it when they are ready and in love

Answer 10

Sex is everywhere, you can't control it. You would have to keep them locked up in the house with no tv to keep them unexposed. It is on tv, radio, advertisements in magazines and there friends talk about it 24/7. We are as consumers bombarded with over 3000 advertisements a day with 75% or so using sex as a selling tool. It is even subliminal so that just our subconsciousness picks up on. Anyway good luck