My baby's daddy is having another baby with someone else and he says he still loves me and that he wants her to get rid of it but she won't.What should i do from here 'cause i can not forgive him but i need some sort of closure.Should i stop talking to him completely or just for the baby's sake?Please help me out!!
2007-01-26 06:43:01 · 18 answers · asked by serenity 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Your whats wrong with America.....
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The correct verbiage and vernacular translation would be
"My Baby's daddy" =The father of my bastard child
2007-01-26 06:55:58 · answer #1 · answered by SALMON 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I know from experience not to do something "only" for the baby sake. I had 2 children with a woman I was in a long term relationship with. She cheated on me and I stayed with her for "sake of the children". That did not work. Two people can stay together when there is infidelity, but it is very hard and takes the work of both people. If you feel there is a chance to work it out, work it out. If not, move on but you will always have to have a relationship with him. I am a product of a broken home and the kids will know when you are bashing him and WILL resent you for it later.
2007-01-26 15:17:00 · answer #2 · answered by bayeauxguy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think if your ex loves his son/daughter and is good to him/her, then keep it cordial between you and him so that your child can have a father to know (unless he is a creep otherwise). I would NOT get back involved with this man because he now has another child with another woman, extra baggage. And if you were to marry him, you would also be marrying this other woman and her child. She is a part of his life now, and she will always be a part of yours if you get involved with him again.
Don't hook back up with him just because he says he loves you. Tough- his loss. He should have thought about that before jumping in bed with another. Don't let anyone pull that guilt trip on you.
Find someone who doesn't have that extra baggage.
I think you know what you need to do deep down, or else you wouldn't have asked such a question.
2007-01-26 15:10:16 · answer #3 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust me, for the baby's sake, has nothing to do with it. I had the same question, and decided not to be with him. He broke up with me right after I got pregnant, and then changed his mind after he realized those girls were out of his league. It is three years later and he lives in Alabama with this teenage girl who is now due for their second child in May and has had headlice since they started dating. She is 18. (Trust me, I couldnt make this stuff up.) They are homeless because neither of them will actually work once they do get hired on. He has not seen my son in six months. Before that, he lived three blocks away, and didnt visit for months before that. What is best for my son? Never seeing 'sperm donor' again. Count your blessings. I own my own home, drive a brand new car, and work at an office. There is a big difference, just give it a few years.
2007-01-26 14:52:56 · answer #4 · answered by lllll 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree with others who've written here. You will have contact with him for the baby's sake, but I would avoid anything more intimate from here on. He should take responsibility, for both children. You may want to get a lawyer and go to court to ensure he supports your child. Best of luck to you.
2007-01-26 14:54:13 · answer #5 · answered by lma0814 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's probably just telling you what you want to hear. For the child's sake continue to talk to him. As far as sexually stay away from him. Oh by the way If he really loved you, do you think he would be out there getting other girls pregnant?
2007-01-26 14:53:18 · answer #6 · answered by VEGAS 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is real life. Once you have a child you are going to be in contact with the other person forever. You cant just cut him off, the baby is his as well. Do whats in the best interest of the baby. The baby is entitled to have a father, unless he poses to be a threat.
2007-01-26 14:49:09 · answer #7 · answered by hank 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You should tell him to think hard about having the other woman to have an abortion. It will haunt him the rest of his life if this happens. Do you have any step-brothers or step-sisters? Let this other child have a chance at life too, he made a major mistake and got someone else pregnant so, why does the unborn child have to suffer because, he should have been more careful. What's done is done, move on if you can't handle this situation. I don't mean to sound off but, that is very selfish of you both to want to kill an unborn child.
2007-01-26 14:57:17 · answer #8 · answered by saturn man 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Tell him you have no interest in him. Tell him you'll talk to him if he wants to see yalls kid or he has something to ask but not to bother you anymore about being with him, maybe you could even find you someone else that cares about you and your baby.
2007-01-26 14:54:08 · answer #9 · answered by taco 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
SEVER and get child support. He's already two "baby's daddies" whats to stop him from more?
2007-01-26 14:52:17 · answer #10 · answered by Toga 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋