The problem is I'm going to be 20 soon and I have yet had a boyfriend. Anyone ever heard of that song Single by Natasha Bedingfield, well that's exactly what I feel. I just want the first guy I date to be a gentleman and care what's on my mind. I'm pretty and fit, but I've been told I appear serious. One guy even told his mother I walked like a soldier lol, but I'm a really down to earth girl! He was cute too, but I lost that opportunity b/c I didn't know how to react (back in 10th grade). I actually thought he was out of my reach and might like gorgeous girls. Do they think they're not good enough for me? I need your help guys =) And ladies, if a guy does like you and you might show interest in return, how do you show your interest? I don't want to come off as desperate, it'll scare off guys lol! Thanks!
2007-01-26 06:41:07 · 4 answers · asked by surferchick 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
this is tough - you have to be approachable, but too much and you'll be spotted as easy bait. i'm not going to lie to you here; there are some horrible guys in this world. these bastards will use you up in a single foul swoop and leaving you bleeding and broken hearted.
there are, however, good guys - the decent kind you're searching for.
there's a fundamental difference between them: the good ones are introverted and the others ones are extroverts. in most cases this is true. the type of guy you are looking for will probably not approach you for a variety of reasons (he's been hurt, you're out of his league, he fears rejection, your demeanour is too serious).
to meet anyone we need to open up and let them in. there's a good chance that you'll be hurt. it's happened to all of us before...but you learn from that pain.
there's no easy way to go about this. use your head: if his hands are on your butt within the first hours of meeting, you better throw that nippy fish back into the pond.
trust your insitncts. if you're not comfortable than move along until you are.
you have the advantage here. you're a woman. if you want a guy to notice you, then smile at him. nothing more than that. don't need to get technical here. smile.
god knows if a girl smiled at me, shy as i am, i'd borrow enough brass to at least smile back at her.
take it from there...but always remember to think of your heart and the damage that could be suffered before you jump into anything.
2007-02-02 01:42:20 · answer #1 · answered by gogs 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
not all guys are scared of approaching girls, but most are. Girls can be quite mean. A guy will look at a girl he likes and smile at her and talk to her and touch her and such.
You could always try a make over so you don't look so serious. Also open up and notice guys around you. You likey walk around and ignore everyone. That equals that you are in a realtionship on most guys radars. I single girl looks around at guys.
But you are only 20....give it time.
2007-01-27 04:28:15 · answer #2 · answered by null_the_living_darkness 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was twenty-one before I had my first boyfriend. I jumped at the first guy that was not scared of me and had asked me out. I was the girl in high school and college that guys were afraid of cause I was a good athlete and I wouldn't let them run all over me. The guy that I dated almost ruined my life. That is way he is an ex. But I realized that someone did like me in school but the time wasn't right. Neither one of us were ready to date. Instead of freating about dating, try to make yourself desirable. Learn to cook, take care of yourself.
2007-02-02 09:52:06 · answer #3 · answered by Soccer Taz 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'd just walk up to her and introduce myself and ask her out. If she turned me down, so what?
2016-03-29 03:45:28 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋