I realize that it seems young but I am very mature and advanced for my age. I have an amazing b/f and im having alot of trouble at home with my mother and such. Please give advice or tell me your experiences!
2007-01-26 06:39:03 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I left home when I was 16. I graduated from high school at 16 and went off to college. I paid for my college education entirely on my own, through work and student loans.
I had been determined to leave home as soon as possible for as long as I could remember. My father is bipolar and home life was at best of times chaotic and worst of times a verbally and emotionally abusive hell.
It was tough: there were some issues that were hard to deal with. Example: first time I had to go to the dentist after I left home, the dentist I went to refused to treat me unless he got parental permission first. He was very apologetic, but the law was the law-- he had to get permission to treat from my parents. (FWIW, they didn't care unless they had to pay.)
I was covered for health issues by the college health center, but that's again something you want to think about. Maybe you're healthy now, but if something happens to you, medical care is brutally expensive. Are you covered by either a student or an employee health plan? If you are, what coverage does it provide? If you have no coverage, you need to understand that you may be taking a big chance with your health. Also that because you aren't 18, no health insurance provider will contract with you to sell you insurance.
Similarly, you have to understand that until you are 18, you cannot legally sign a rental agreement, a purchase agreement (e.g., for a car or other large item not paid for in cash), a credit card agreement. That can cause a lot of problems-- I had to have my mother co-sign when I opened my checking account, which was galling (to say the least!).
It was also tough, because at 16 your earning power is as low as it's going to get. You are basically stuck with entry-level jobs, which makes earning enough income to support yourself difficult unless you can keep your costs extremely low. It is in your best interests to continue your schooling and get the education you need to acquire earning power to live independently. How are you going to do this? It sounds like you are planning to move in with your boyfriend. Okay, what if the relationship with him turns sour? What if you have to move out? Where are you going to go?
It can be tough to live independently at 16, but I did it and it was well worth it for me. I'm glad I did it by myself and didn't have to take chances on depending on anyone else, and I'm glad that I got the education I needed (college grad at 19) to earn a living well and never have to depend on anyone else.
Good luck to you.
2007-01-26 06:58:10 · answer #1 · answered by Karin C 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes i agree with the other answer. I moved out at 16 and i thought i had things covered, i also matured faster than some, i worked 2 jobs and went to school. I moved in with my awesome boyfriend at the time, and guess what i wished i hadn't because it was great at first then after about 3 months it got really difficult. Believe me, stay home till your atleast 18 , its hard out there on your own , even with a bf in the picture.
2007-01-26 14:53:23 · answer #2 · answered by babykins 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you'll regret it . you may think you're mature but your not.Is the trouble at home concerning your mother telling you your too young to live with your boyfriend or whatever. I thought i was mature too but I look back and say man Im glad I listen to my mother.Your not at the age where your mature.I'm not saying this to piss you off ... Your b/f might be the best thing but b/fs come and go . How are you going to support your self ,does your bf have a good job.you need to think having a boyfriend that would have you move out just to be with you, humm and messup you relationship with you mother ...is he REALLY worth it
2007-01-26 15:07:51 · answer #3 · answered by Ms Scarlet 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have yet to meet a 16-year-old that doesn’t think they are very mature and advanced for their age, and I have yet to meet one that ACTUALLY is.
Is Mom going to give you permission to move in with boyfriend? Because if not, you can’t (assuming you live in the US, although I don’t know about other countries). Even if Mom gives you permission, if anyone reports it…well, there could be repercussions for everyone, because *you are a minor*
2007-01-26 17:10:47 · answer #4 · answered by kp 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I did and it was a real strain on me to work and go to high school at the same time. Don't grow up too fast!
2007-01-26 14:49:12 · answer #5 · answered by saturn man 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if your moving out to live witha bf thats a bad decision, if your moving out to be by yourself i say go for it... you need to depend on yourself right now it sounds like, and not jump from one situation to the next without over looking consequencs, because what would happen if you broke up with this boyfriend, you'd be right back at your moms, and she's have that to hold over you...good luck
2007-01-26 14:51:53 · answer #6 · answered by Jane Doe 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
yeah i move out at 16 why does it matter what age we can get by at any age duhh we are also human ya know......
2007-01-26 14:51:16 · answer #7 · answered by care_bear_sugar_princess_hottie 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋