and what would ya do??
2007-01-26 06:38:22 · 51 answers · asked by spike 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I would forgive, eventually, but I wouldn't continue in the marriage, and I would avoid the family member for a loooong time, until I really did feel that forgiveness inside.
2007-01-26 06:45:01 · answer #1 · answered by Laura Renee 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You have to decide for yourself how far you want to go with it and then stick with it.
How forgiving do you want to be?
For example, my thoughts are "cheating is cheating". Plain and simple. Therefore, no matter who the person is, if my wife cheated on me, the relationship would be over. Absolutely no chances for redemption. The fatal act is already done. There's no turning back. I don't care about the circumstances; "I was drunk", "it didn't mean anything". I don't care. Apparently, she didn't care enough about me or my feelings if she didn't think it out before doing the cheating.
Therefore, my thought process is that I am not forgiving when it comes to adultery. Other things, I'm more forgiving. But not this.
Therefore, in this case, it's over.
And I feel the same way if I was to do the adultery. I would expect any chances either.
2007-01-26 06:48:49 · answer #2 · answered by Scott D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I would not forgive either the spouse or the sibling. It is an unforgivable betrayal in my book, not to mention that it is a really abnormal thing to do. Further, if the family member is a minor, it is a felony, and the person should be reported to the police. Also, the minor should get therapy, as something like that can cause deep emotional harm.
2007-01-26 06:48:43 · answer #3 · answered by curious1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey,
They say blood is thicker than water.. Right?
Well I would definitely divorce my husband and be very mad at my sister for god knows how long, but eventually forgive her. I wouldn't trust her ever again nor would I have her near my life to have her do the same thing with my other mate. Now if my husband slept with a one of my cousins or something, I would divorce him still and beat the crap out of my cousin as many times as I see her during that year and never speak to her again. End of Story !
2007-01-26 06:51:31 · answer #4 · answered by Life Is Amazing 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you gather for Thanksgiving? for Christmas? or birthdays? you would think feelings would resurface within you, and you'd never really be sure if they're bubbling up with them? (Time + alchohol = another roll in the hay.) These things would never wash-away... unless, there's a 3-5% chance that you're allowed to do something equal, but opposite and you can rest your mind, on having done that? I'd just cut-away, take the kids if there were any -- get a lawyer and move on.
2007-01-26 06:49:28 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I wouldn't forgive them because they're the ones who've hurt and betrayed you by sleeping with someone else! The relationship between a brother or a sister can never be repaired because of it! But with the husband and wife, let them go and move on!
2007-01-26 06:45:52 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
That is unforgivable, your husband/wife should respect you enough not to do that. If that happened I would get an immediate divorce. I would probably lose touch with that family member, but it is more likely that i would eventualy forgive my family member.
2007-01-26 06:48:59 · answer #7 · answered by ad121ana 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-16 14:13:34 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Um, NO! Once a cheater always a cheater. I wouldn't forgive the family member either.
2007-01-26 06:45:11 · answer #9 · answered by gobanana516 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
That would depend on 2 things: 1. How much I love or hate my wife. 2. How much I love or hate my brother.
If I hated my wife, then I would not forgive her since it would give me the perfect excuse to get rid of her for good. If I hated my brother, then I would never forgive him since it would give me the perfect excuse to never speak to him again.
If I loved my wife, I would forgive her. If I loved my brother enough, I would forgive him.
I'll leave it up to you to figure out the rest.
2007-01-26 06:50:29 · answer #10 · answered by hypochondrius 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋