im 16 and have a crush on a guy who is in a relationship and who simply considers me as the girl with whom he has two lectures per week and with whom he exchanges a couple of words.
it has been going for a couple of months. i tried to ignore it and HIM. i dont want to be the cause that he breaks up with his gf who seems rly nice, im not worth him, i do not know him enough, i might simply have an infatuation.
its just that this whole ive been dreaming abt him and feeling smthing i never felt before like smthin swelling and nice, i dont know how to explain. im astonished cos im not a social person and usual dont have any strong feelings for anyone. its just nice to have him pat me on the head, and play with my hair and grab me by the waist.
What should i do? i dont what him to know cos im afraid it will ruin d little relationship we have.
2007-01-26 06:37:21 · 8 answers · asked by alexisvisjnic 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The head patting, hair playing and waist grabbing may be his way of simply being playful with a friend. Believe me, I have three brothers and I've watched them do this around girls they just think might like them. It boosts their ego to think they gave the "butterflies in the stomach" to a girl.
He is in a relationship so it is a good thing that you are respecting this.
Just enjoy the attention and cultivate the friendship. A great example of this is the relationship of Chloe and Clark Kent on tv's Smallville. She was in love with him at first and now they are the best of friends.
Know that this is just a passing phase in your life. You are right about the infatuation. There will be other guys you will be attracted to or have a crush on but not necessarily will have any romantic relationship with. It's just part of growing up.
He probably likes you as a friend. Only time will tell if anything else will come of it (after his current love). Meanwhile, concentrate on being a friend and keeping yourself occupied with doing productive things. In that way, you are also working on enriching yourself as a person. Maybe you are thinking about him a lot because there isn't much to distract you from him. Focus on having fun with your time!
2007-01-26 07:30:34 · answer #1 · answered by MamaBearKnowzz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a similar situation as you. There isn't much you can do. You are just very attracted to him. All I can suggest is that you try to keep yourself busy so that you do not find your thoughts wandering about thinking of him.
Also, hold on to your morals of not being the reason for a person breaking up with someone. The woman I have feelings for is married and because I have a rule about not having serious relationships with married women, I always default to that in my mind.
But yes, it's hard. I can't get her smile and her intelligent voice out of my mind. All I do is exercise until I am too tired to really care anymore. The most difficult times are when there is idle time. That's when I think of her the most.
You just have to keep busy and keep an open mind in that he may break up with her on his own free will or that you will eventually get over your feelings for him and find someone more interesting.
2007-01-26 14:45:24 · answer #2 · answered by Tones 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For a 16 year old, you really have your head screwed on right, so well done on that first. Basically, if he's taken, he's taken, and you dont want to be the person that splits up a couple and if that did happen, you would always worry he would leave you for the next person. Just wait it out, to feel how you do is fine, just keep from expressing them for now, they may well break up tomorrow, and then you can think about telling him how you feel. Good Luck.
2007-01-26 14:45:32 · answer #3 · answered by PleaseNoMoreNumbers 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First thing first, think for yourself. Don't be bothered if he has a girlfriend. Never mind if it's infatuation or whatever. If you want him, get him.
Never say, you are not worth him/anything. He should be worth you.
I do not know him enough : Well, you are getting the chance.
By the way, the way you are describing your relationship with him, ("its just nice to have him pat me on the head, and play with my hair and grab me by the waist."), he is just playing with you.
So, don't get too serious and get a heart break. Just enjoy the things coming your way.
2007-01-26 14:51:10 · answer #4 · answered by Ryu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is just a harmless crush on him. I dont blame you for not anting to break up a relationship that he has with somene. It shows that you have maturity about you. Keep that attitude. Just enjoy being with him when you have the lectures. Be friends, it is better having him in your life as a friend then not in your life at all.
That special someone will come your way soon hun.
2007-01-26 14:46:09 · answer #5 · answered by moo shell 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should just let time do its magic, i mean for someone you only have said a few words to and he is already playing with your hair or grabbing by the waist, i think he might be interested, but you should just letting come to you when he is ready, good luck
2007-01-26 14:43:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
YAWN...very boring
2007-01-26 14:46:26 · answer #7 · answered by Double J - Jonni Jigolo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok
do nt then
2007-01-26 15:12:34 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋