I have a sister that I have helped out over and over again and she always lets me down. The last incedent with her i decided to cut her off and I haven't really talked to her in a long time. Now I need some help and my mother suggested that I call my sister because she could help me out with my situation. I don't want to ask her because I feel that it would be wrong to call her after I have cut her off and have ignored some of her calls for 2 years. DO you think it is my pride or me trying not to be wrong?
2007-01-26 06:30:52 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I don't see how you could ask her for help if you have cut her off. I couldn't do it........and not call myself a hypocrite. Solve your problem just like you expect her to do.
2007-01-26 06:39:33 · answer #1 · answered by Eldude 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Me and my sister are best friends and if we fight or don't see things eye to eye we don't hesitate to tell each other. A sisters love is very forgiving at least in my house. I truly believe that if you were to call her and ask her for help she might be kind of weirded out about hearing from you and of coarse shes gonna wonder why your calling but if you just tell her that you made a decision to not help her so she can learn on her own how to do things without needing someones help especially cause she has let you down more than once and it hurts you to see her fail. And you not being involved in that gives you more mental peace. And now your ready to see how shes doing, and if she can repay the favor of all those times she needed help. I think she can get over the fact that you ignored her. After all she owes you in a way. I love my sisters, there my best friends, I don't know what I would do without them. One is Mexico now and its so hard not having her around when I'm so use to talking to her all the time. you should call her!
2007-01-26 14:54:29 · answer #2 · answered by Marianita 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Quite possibly a bit of both, pride and having to admit to being wrong. I was a lot like your sister when I was young but my family never stopped caring for or loving me unconditionally. They certainly discontinued helping me out financially when I was younger as I proved to be irresponsible, but they were there whenever I needed to apologize or a place to lay my head. You are only given one family through this life and as such should be forgiving and sharing as much as humanly possible. Your mom will not be here forever and so you and your sister will need each other to lean on when that time comes. It is merely my opinion but I would suggest that you swallow some of this pride, sit down with your sister and have a good heart to heart and try to mend this relationship. You can also ask her for help in return for all the help you've given her at that time also. Best of luck and I hope all works out well for your family.
2007-01-26 14:46:06 · answer #3 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's your pride, I've found out that pride can cause a lot of heartache for everything. Try, I know it is hard but just call, you'll feel a lot better than you do now. Even if at first she acts cold just keep talikng and it's your sister she'll finally come around. I lost a person I will always love because of pride really over trivals things and it's to late to try to fix it now. I wish everyday that I had droped my pride but I know it is the hardest thing in the world to do is to drop your pride. Pride causes more heartache than any other of all the things we have to face. Call her.
2007-01-26 14:45:16 · answer #4 · answered by Nicki 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't blame you for wanting to cut ties with your sister, since she's let you down so many times. There's only so much one person can take. This is completely your call (no pun intended), although, I'd suggest maybe finding someone else to try and help. Your life has been better without communication with your sister for this long; do you really want to open the gate again?
2007-01-26 14:37:40 · answer #5 · answered by Duckie314 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you are afraid of her hanging up the phone and giving you a taste of your own medicine. As far as the situation goes I am sure your sister is not the only one in the world who could help you. However I think you both should talk and work things out.
2007-01-30 11:12:36 · answer #6 · answered by Kat G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You only get one chance at family. I have a crappy sister too, but I stay close because she is the only one I have. If you don't make up with her you will one day be sorry. It has nothing to do with what you can do for one another, it is your sister.
Swallow the pride, call her, if you need her help or not.
2007-01-26 14:56:15 · answer #7 · answered by Bev 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The relationship you have with a sibling is the strongest realationship you'll ever have with anyone. A sibling will always be there even after your friends have disapeared. Call her up and apologize for everything that happened and see if she'll help you. Keep in contact with her and no matter what happens, don't cut her off.
2007-01-26 14:40:52 · answer #8 · answered by taco 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
id ask her for her help and if she refuses then you know your the bigger person in this situation and that might wake you up and make you relize she needs to grow up! and someday she relize she lost a good sister.and you did the right thing in cutting her off (hopefully she learned your her sister not just someone when she needed help) you should of awnsered her calls but you didnt so you cant redo that and you need to just tell her how you feel!!!! shell either understand or not!
2007-01-26 14:41:50 · answer #9 · answered by rocs 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well does she still have reason to be out of your life? I am fully in support of removing toxic people from our lives, even if they are family, so if you'd just be letting her back in so that you can get something out of her, then that's not really sticking to any kind of morals, that is just manipulating to get something you want. If she is changed and you feel like you want her back in your life, then reconnect. I think it has to be one thing or the other b/c you can't really call someone who cut off just to ask them for something unless you are ready to start rebuilding the relationship.
2007-01-26 14:38:27 · answer #10 · answered by Princess~C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's your pride and your guard that is protecting you from getting hurt. We all have that, it's normal too. What you could do is write her a letter explaining in detail your situation with her and see how she responds. If you can get help from someone else I would also try that too. Try to swallow your pride and see what happens.
2007-01-26 14:40:48 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋