I am a very social person, but recently upon self-reflection as my wedding is coming up in about 2 years-- I realized I don't have a set of close girls who I would pick absolutely as my bridesmaids or that one special girl to be my maid of honor... I'm a college student, and my best friend from high school lives 2000 miles away and I haven't seen her since I graduated high school... We keep in touch through many things, but I want to get back in touch with her again... My friends here in college are all about equidistant from me-- no REAL CLOSE heart friends-- just a lot of friendly girls who will giggle and hang out and sometimes cry together. Please give me some advice, any advice. Thanks!
2007-01-26 06:30:16 · 13 answers · asked by reba 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I definitely understand your situation. If you don't feel like you have a close relationship that would warrant an invitation to be in your bridal party, you might want to consider asking your mother or sibling (if you have any) to stand by your side. You can also choose not to have any honor attendants at all and just have you and your fiance at the alter (which can be very romantic). The last thing you want to do ask people who you don't feel closeness with to participant in something so special. Just remember, you do not have to have honor attendants to have a beautiful wedding. The only people that are needed at the alter is you, your fiance, and your officiant. Your family and friends who are there witnessing your nuptials will be just as supportive.
2007-01-26 06:46:04 · answer #1 · answered by Veronica W 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know exactly what you mean. I've always related better with guys. My best friend from high school and I had a falling out our freshman year of college, due to some circumstances. After some time away from each other and no communication what so ever we started talking again and I feel that it has made us closer. We were able to have a major falling out and still feel close afterward and I have asked her to be in my wedding. At least you're on good terms with your friend! Perhaps you could think about if anyone male or female that had a key role in getting you and your fiance together and ask them to be a part.
I realize I may have rambled a little but I hope that it some what helps! Congrats and good luck!
2007-01-26 07:47:01 · answer #2 · answered by the future mrs 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You said your best friend was one from high school with whom you still keep in touch. My best friend is the same, and we talk on the phone weekly or so, but don't each other more often than once every few months. She is in my wedding because I feel we are still close. If you feel the same about your hs friend, you should really make an effort to keep in touch with her often. Maybe you could have a chance to meet back up with her again. Do you have any sisters or brothers?
It would be good to get close to your friends at colllege, but don't do it for the soul purpose of finding a bridesmaid.
Don't limit yourself to "bridesmaids" either. If you have guy friends, feel free to have them stand with you.
Hope this helps!
2007-01-26 06:55:14 · answer #3 · answered by Theresa T 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I must say i have the same problem, it seems to me that i really am not that close to too many girls. I am closer to the guys than girls. I think the best thing to do , is get in touch with your old friend either by phone or email and talk to her get to arrange getting together at least a few times before the wedding and have her in it. Than for the rest i would just try to pick your friends wisely and see who pops out the most to you and i am sure you will get close to one or two with in the two years you are getting married.
2007-01-26 07:00:39 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
about 30
2016-05-24 02:31:02 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to get back in touch with your best friend from high school because you have only got a couple more years to make up your mind in order to see who is your maid of honor and you want someone who will be your friend for long. Get in contact with that friend and let her know how you feel feel, I am sure she feels the same way.
2007-01-26 06:41:11 · answer #6 · answered by ad121ana 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
do you have a female relative that you are close with? My maid of honor was my cousin and most of the girls involved were in my family or my husbands. I had only two girls that were not related be in my wedding party. One of my girls flew in all the way from California!
2007-01-26 08:12:07 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like right now is the time to reconnect with your best high school buddy. Get reaquainted and tell her about the wedding, your plans, etc. She just might be feeling the same about you. Don't lose contact. Good friends are rare.
2007-01-29 12:01:23 · answer #8 · answered by mimegamy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you shouldn't aspire to be friends with someone just because you need a few good girls to be in your wedding....that said, think about what's going on in your life that is keeping you from having that super close circle of friends. real friends don't have to hang out 24/7; they just have to be there for eachother when they need eachother. pick up that phone, make some calls, put yourself out there and communicate with people. makes plans to visit your best friend. have a girls night out/in with your college friends. make new friends! if you're a social person, it won't be too hard of a task to meet people.
2007-01-26 06:51:08 · answer #9 · answered by discoballz82 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
How about asking a relative or two?
You could always NOT have any bridesmaids/maid of honor.
If you have more male than female friends you could have bridesmen/man of honor.
Since you've got two years, wait about a year or year and a half then see who you've got.
2007-01-26 10:32:38 · answer #10 · answered by Terri 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋