Being ignored as a child, I find myself wreaking havok on Yahoo! Answers. Is this my fault or my parents? Keep in mind that I have a younger brother who is very spoiled. I am also verbally abused and called fat all the time. This has caused me to get an eating disorder on more than one occasion. Is the fact that I can't trust anyone my fault? BE HONEST.
2007-01-26 06:22:16 · 8 answers · asked by Megan M 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
it can be either
2007-01-26 06:42:27 · answer #1 · answered by Loco 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What point are you trying to make? You want attention, you want to be heard?
Ok, you shouldn't worry about what others say unless they are being honest and helpful. I was fat for many years until I got an eating disorder... Then I got help and am in the best shape of my life because I eat when I am hungry and stop when I am no longer hungry.
Secondly.... You are jealous of the attention your brother gets, you are very angry and want to be heard. You fear being NOT GOOD ENOUGH and you use food as a source of love. You don't know how to COPE with your problems and so you AVOID people and are very wary of them... You are afraid to get hurt.
I had a very spoiled younger brother myself... Just find something inside that is better than all that and WORK at it. See yourself for WHO YOU ARE and how wonderful that person can be.
Do not play the victim, learn to forgive... Then make yourself amazing by loving yourself and doing what you love. Let yourself shine through, you are worth being loved.
2007-01-26 14:39:31 · answer #2 · answered by _Lara_Bell_ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Isn't this an age-old question? Our we free or are we predetermined? We are both. We all have been conditioned by our parents, other family members, teacher, society, etc, etc. In fact, we have been so conditioned that we hardly notice our conditioning.
We have these concepts about who we think we are and who we think other people are but these are just concepts. They are not true. Who would you be if you had no concepts of you who are?
However, you are on the right track. You are becoming aware of these concepts. Now, take responsibility for them. Stop blaming others. Notice that you have these ideas that will be enough for you to start being free of them.
Much love,
James
2007-01-26 17:24:18 · answer #3 · answered by wadkinsjames 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How you've been treated is not your fault. What you do about it is your decision.
Don't let these negative feelings run your life. If you do, they will win and you will lose.
Spend time with people who make you feel good about yourself. Do some volunteer work- help people who have less than you. This will help you build up your self-esteem.
2007-01-26 14:51:12 · answer #4 · answered by diannegoodwin@sbcglobal.net 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was adored as a child as long as I conformed to my parents' definitions, if I strayed the punishment was seift and harsh. I am in my 50's and after a lifetime of lying to myself and others, trying to please everyone and fit their definitions, I am learning to be honest. Try it, if you're getting negative input now, the worst that can happen is that it continues, but the best that can happen is that you get to know the incredible only that is your Self. Its a gift of God. Learn to love you!
2007-01-26 14:51:45 · answer #5 · answered by teetzijo 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Easy!
2007-01-26 14:38:08 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you put as much effort that youdo badgering and feeling sorry for yourself into making yourself better you wouldnt'
feel this way... always the victim huh?
2007-01-26 14:35:35 · answer #7 · answered by Tacyella 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is it anyone's fault? I would say it's not.
Don't believe what you think, who you are isn't what you think.
2007-01-26 17:36:14 · answer #8 · answered by unseen_force_22 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋