i posted a previous question regarding a coworker of mine, and there's was an answer that called my attention. If you are a sexually active person, and you know you can get pregnant, isn't it your responsibility to keep from getting pregnant? I mean after all, it's your body who's going to be carrying your child, so why blame the male? At least that's how i look at it.
2007-01-26 06:18:58 · 34 answers · asked by dianabarff 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yes she is responsible for protecting herself just as it is also the guy's responsibility to protect himself. If he truly did not want to have children he should have gotten fixed, or at the least wore a condom. People are always to fast to pass the blame to someone else instead of accepting responsibility for their actions.
2007-01-26 06:27:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well since it takes a sperm and an egg, technically it is both people's responsibility. No one forces a man to put his penis in, so the fact that the woman didn't protect herself doesn't take away the fact that without the presense of the man there wouldn't be a baby at all. What if the girl says that she is on BC but isn't? The guy should still be responsible for protecting himself from STD's and BC doesn't always work anyway, so if the woman WAS taking the responsibility and she still got pregnant, then isn't the man still partly responsilble? I think it is up to everyone to protect themselves to the degree at which they feel comfortable and anything that happens after that is that person's personal responsibility, but nothing still is ever going to take away the fact that both people voluntarily engaged in an act that they knew could potentially bring a life into this world. Bottom line: everyone is equally responsible for the actions they take and the lives they create. There is no blame involved.
2007-01-26 06:30:04 · answer #2 · answered by Princess~C 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I didn't blame the male, I called attention to the fact as to how the story was being presented. It's the problem with this forum, it's hard to get the whole story in such a short form and with little or no back and forth. It sounded like all the blame for the situation was being laid at the feet of the woman, and that the man in the situation was not willing to acknowledge his actions or responsibility. I have sons, and daughters, but you better believe that I am going to do my best to protect both genders and teach them to be responsible for their actions. If they are out there having sex, guess what, they can make babies, and just because it's the woman who carries it in her body doesn't make that Dad any less responsible for spreading his seed. I would want my son to be a man and own up to his responsibilities, to love, cherish, provide for any child he created, even if it was out of stupid and foolish life decisions....
2007-01-26 06:33:49 · answer #3 · answered by reddevilbloodymary 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its no-ones fault if its done right and both peoples if done wrong. If you dont use protection, then you are fully accepting all the risks and problems that go with it, however, if you use a condom or the pill or whatever method you are using and it fails, then no-one is to blame, its just the result of something failing somewhere along the line. As long as you are both willing to talk and take the action necessary to resolve the issue, then things will be fine, but blame never helps anyone.
2007-01-26 06:26:54 · answer #4 · answered by PleaseNoMoreNumbers 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Agreed. The responsibility comes before the conceptiion. We know that it really doesnt matter to the guys who are still playing the field as much as us.
It may not be fair but the bulk of the responsibility falls on us. Now as to child support - yeah he is liable too. But if he's a deadbeat it is a forever fight for a few $ Raising the kid is the big responsibility
2007-01-26 06:27:28 · answer #5 · answered by G's Random Thoughts 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are a sexually active person - of either sex - and you don't want to become pregnant, YOU should be responsible for taking "precautions". What I'm saying is that it as much the man's responsibility as the woman's.
As a man, your consequence - at a minimum - is paying child support for 18 years!!
2007-01-26 06:29:56 · answer #6 · answered by casual_observer_50 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are sexually active then you should carry a condom or some kind of protection on you. It is your responsibility to keep from getting pregnant but its not all your fault if it happens, he had some part in it to, its both of your faults and both of you should take the responsibilities for it.
2007-01-26 06:27:55 · answer #7 · answered by taco 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must have found a person who doesn't care whether you get pregnant or not. It should be on both of your minds and I definetly would have concern. People are different. Just remember you will be the one carrying the baby. You are doing the right thing, thinking of what all is involved before it is too late.
2007-01-26 06:44:43 · answer #8 · answered by John T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, you're both adult, doing this thing should be in the back of your head often, that what you should do just in case, is the person you're going with is responsible or what if you just want to have fun then you should be responsible, your future whatever comes out, nobody should be blame, it happens, you should be ready to face consequences.
2007-01-26 06:30:31 · answer #9 · answered by purple heart 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
of course i totally agree..but not a lot of people want to take responsibility and thats why there are so many unwanted pregnancies..so to blame the man is just wrong, it takes two to tango..i think if more people took responsibility for their actions the world would be a much better place
2007-01-26 06:28:24 · answer #10 · answered by gemstone2421 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋