Any tips for the big night?

Question

I'm 22 and I plan to have sex on Sunday...for the first time...with my boyfriend of 3 years! What should I do to get ready?? Any tips ladies??

Answer 1

First of all, congratulations on waiting this long. This is rare in the world today. My hats off to you. Now, I'm not a female as you asked for, but I thought I might have some good suggestions.

Now, so you plan for this weekend? That's okay to plan. However, remember that you can always back out if you are not 100% sure. It's okay. You can always do it later. There's no special reason that you MUST do it on Sunday. And there's absolutely no shame on waiting some more. Heck, you waited 22 years. Why can't you wait some more?

Make the situation as comfortable as you can. Pick a location that BOTH of you are comfortable with (your home, his home, etc.) Stay away from the car, the kitchen, public places, things like that. Sure, those are "exciting places" to have sex, but not for the first time. Make this a memorable night since this is the only time you will have sex "for the first time".
However, don't go overboard on the preperations. For example, candles are okay (to set the mood). Soft music is fine. However, don't go all out and do things like rose pedals on the bed. What this will probably do is make this whole ordeal a "production". Too much planning will just make it disappointing if ALL your plans don't go your way.
Do not, I repeat do not plan your actions. For example, if he does this, I'll do this. Remember the "production" thing. Don't plan this like a football game. Let things happen naturally.
This event is supposed to be a beautiful thing and don't ruin it by planning things step by step like a sporting event.

What you should "plan" is the setting and mood. Like I said before, pick a comfortable, "safe" place. Pick soft soothing music. Maybe a few candles. Prepare your body for the act. Cleanse and be tidy. Sorry, had to speak about that. What could ruin a first time is an odor.

Then, before you get down to business, don't hesitate to ask "Are you sure?" Ask this of yourself as well as your partner.

When it's agreed and the act commenses, just breath, relax and let things happen.

Good luck.

Answer 2

Well, I'm not sure if I should be giving advice cause I am 19, still a virgin and my boyfriend and I plan on waiting until we are married to have sex. But, I think that because you are going to be so nervous, do everything beforehand that you can to make sure you will be comfortable. Wear something you feel sexy, yet comfortable in and make sure that you are happy and feel it is right. You may have told yourself that Sunday is the night but when the time rolls around, if its not perfect, just wait. You guys have made it this far, what would be a little longer?
Anyways, don't be nervous because if you have been with him for this long it is clear that he is in love with you and won't be judging you at all :)

Answer 3

Oh, wow! Well I am sure your friends have told you that it will hurt...possibly alot and you will wonder WHY anyone ever decided to do it again. But it will take sometime for the experience to be pleasant, but it is awesome that you waited until you were mature enough to handle the situation.

And of course use a condom, even if you are both virgins, you don't have to have children at 22!

Answer 4

-Make sure you have protection.

-Try not to wear any underwear, but it you do by a nice longerie set, maybe from Victoria's Secret

-Don't plan a specific time, when the moment is right you'll know, start kissing him and you'll start touching him etc..

-Make sure you guys foreplay a little first, maybe some oral action, it's a lot better with foreplay before, it builds up the moment.

-If the sex isn't that great, don't get discouraged, the first time for everybody is usually not that great, it gets better TRUST me.

-GOOD LUCK! =]

Answer 5

Rest, Relax and Release!
Relax
Relax
Relax

The tip I would have given you was to make sure you're doing it with someone who truly cares about you - if you've been together for 3 years, he really does.

Take your time, don't expect it to be earth shattering the first time - although it will feel good - and enjoy each other. Have fun!

Answer 6

First of all, make sure you are really ready for this before it happens. If you are ready and mature enough and understand that this is a big commitment, just be yourself and let nature take its course slowly. Again MAKE SURE YOU ARE READY for this to happen.

Answer 7

Everyone said wear a rubber...that's good, but they forgot one thing that is crucial which might ruin the moment of passion.

Make sure you don't eat too much beans or tofu...Why do I say that?...Well, because you don't want to FART OUT LOUD WITH AN UNPLEASANT ODOR DURING SEX!

IF YOU DO, THEN HE WON'T BE ABLE TO GET IT UP AGAIN.

Have a good pleasurable time, 1st timer and be safe, be cool, and BE ROMANTIC!

Answer 8

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Answer 9

!. shave your legs, armpits, and down there! Make sure you look great, wear clean under garmets, something cute not to sexy since it is your first time. Make a mixed cd of calm music that you both like so that you will stay calm. Enjoy yourself and dont be nervous.

Answer 10

oooo :) . . . thats a scary thing! and a really good thing that you held out so long. but why did you plan a sex date? that makes it way more uncomfortable. that is something that should just happen naturally. just relax, and take it one step at a time, try not to be nervous ;)