How would you handle the situation?

Question

I have been single for 2, years now my baby's father is incarcerated and I have moved on with my life. It seems like when Iook for a relationship I only find men who want relations not a relationship. Will love ever come my way? (I left the father of my child because he cheated on me)

Answer 1

There are plenty men like me out there. The problem is, you're looking. Stop looking and you'll meet him. It won't be at a club or a bar either. You might want to try True.com. You can create a profile, and chat with men like me, who want to get to know a woman before the chemistry and passion take control of our minds.

I find that my problem with women has been that my physical attraction usually clouded my judgement and made me look past the things I didn't like about them. Yet those same things usually came back and broke my heart. So I've learned to slow it down a little more.

New to the single and dating thing, after 13 years married to an adultress, it's pretty neat, these online dating sites. Just be carefull when chatting with guys on there though. Some talk a lot differently than they actually are. So get on the phone with them and just have some conversation. You'll tell by the tone of thier voice if they are sincere or not.

Goodluck!

There are plenty, faithfull, trusting, honest, goodlooking guys out there. You just need to be carefull on who you pick.

Answer 2

You always find someone when you stop looking. The reason why that is true is b/c when you look for someone you'll settle on whoever comes along b/c you're just so happy to have someone. When you are just living your life, being happy, keeping busy, spending time with your child, exercising, all those types of things, you make yourself into an interesting, happy, successful woman and that's when you'll meet someone of value. Just meeting someone to have company and someone to help you out isn't probably ever going to find a good guy. Good, valuable men are attracted to women who love themselves, take care of themselves, are independent and strong and happy, so work on becoming that type of person and you'll attract the good ones. I think now the guys that you attract are probably the rescuer types and that often opens you up to some really bad men, especially since you have a child.

Answer 3

You have to realize that "what is for you, is for you". If it's meant for you to have love, then you'll have it. You just have to have patience and in the mean time, work on yourself. Prepare yourself for this man that God will send to you. Do the things that you want to do and the things that you know you should be doing to make yourself a better person. Work on the relationships that you have now. Be a better mom, better sister, better daughter, better friend etc. Go back to school if you want. Stay positive and stay open. All of these things will make you a better woman and hopefully you'll be ready when this man comes along. Oh, and don't have relations unless you're in a relationship. Good Luck and I hope I didn't offend you by mentioning God. Peace!!!

Answer 4

You never find anyone when you're looking for them, also as you are single with a baby some guys will think you are easy (unfair I know).
You should not have relations in the beginning, wait until the respect and love is there and don't settle for anyone wait until you see how they are with your child because any relationship you have now is not just between you and him but between you, the child and him.
Don't settle for any old man put your kid first.

Answer 5

You are looking in the wrong places!!!! Keep in mind that you have another person to consider that will be a huge part of both your lives!!! This plays a huge role in relationships... if you're dating people that don't like kids... you're wasting your time! If you are meeting up at a bar... bad idea too... Remeber that you will be better off single than with somebody who's just going to use you!!!!! Make this a priority in what your looking for!!! Good Luck!

Answer 6

stop looking! love usually comes when you are not expecting. To find a guy that is decent and want a relationship dont look for him at a bar or a place where men go to find a peice of a##. Try looking for a guy who is shopping, or at the car wash. Then once you find him dont have sex right away, wait a while and let him get to know you. when he knows you he will see how great you are and stick around.

Answer 7

Love will come your way just be patient. you are lucky to have a child to love and fill your heart w/joy.
It seems strange that there are so many interesting women out there in need of a good guy but are so hard to come across.
You had a god reason for dumping the other guy, no one deserves to be cheated on ever...

Answer 8

Realize that you don't have to be with someone. Realize that you are independent and raising your child on your own. Just enjoy life and don't look for anyone. He will come when you least expect it. Also, you need not settle for just anyone. Make a list of what you are looking for in a person and the things you will not deal with.

Answer 9

i am glad to hear you have moved on with your life. now to hear you think love might not ever come is a lonely thought. just dont be in a rush and dont just go out looking for it, trust me it will find you. besides you have a child to worry about, you have to make sure the man you get with is a good man for you and your child, thats very important. if you just get any ole man he could hurt you and your child. if you must go looking just be careful.

Answer 10

Well that is a good way to tell the one worth lookng at. If all they want is you now and are not willing to wait for you until marriage then they are not right for you.
Time will tell who is right for you. Do not worry the perfect person who you are meant to be with will come in the right time.