My girl thinks its perfectly ok to have her 15yr old daughters boyfriend spend the night , she says that he would sleep on the couch and there would be no hanky panky he's 16yrs old . My question is that I don't see how a parent could justify that. I am totally againt it. What do you think
2007-01-26 05:54:12 · 17 answers · asked by will_go32 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Ask her if she's too young to be a grandmother
2007-01-26 05:59:24 · answer #1 · answered by wizjp 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is not right. You should have a talk with your daughter again and explain that it is not appropriate for him to be texting her at all whether, day/night, weekday/weekend, he is her coach not a friend/classmate. If he needs to tell her something then he can get in touch with you and you can let your daughter know. As far as the golf clubs. Are they brand new? Has he given any clubs or something to any of the other players? Are you sure he is not texting the other players? Your daughter my not really know or the others are not saying he is. You may want to talk to the other parents and find out, you do not need to tell them that your daughter is getting text messages from him.You can ask if they think he coaches in a professional manner and if they feel he uses appropriate behavior with the students. If you are still not comfortable, set up a meeting with the coach and if you have to talk with Head school athletic director. Remember, as a Parent, if deep down your gut is telling you something is not right, then it is NOT RIGHT! Parents always know what is best for their child/children. Go with your instinct.
2016-05-24 02:25:17 · answer #2 · answered by Rebecca 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with you 100% because if her daughter can give her mother's permission to have him over in the night then it should be fine to have him over in the day when she's not at home too. She's opening the doors to alot more than she can handle.
I have another opinion, having them together and constantly talking to her daughter and letting her know that have a friend is okay but not become sexually involve at that age could give the child some kind of self esteem that her mother trusts her and that she shouldn't betray that trust... that also depends on the type of child that you have too. I Don't know this situation has it's advantages and dis advantages.
2007-01-26 06:26:30 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You didn't say, but now I have to wonder if YOU ever spent the night over at her house or if SHE ever spent the night at yuors.
Hi, pot, meet kettle. If the adults are doing it, the kids will wonder why they cant. At least they arent having sex. (at least I hope they arent), knock on wood)
I never sleep at my g/f's house... she is recently divorced and her ex is a little bit psycho, so we are waiting till we get married and things calm down.
My g/f's kids arent that old but thanks for letting me see hwat I am going to have to be dealing with.
Oh and hey dude, it doesnt matter if 100 people answer this question you put up and 100 poeple say "No way, she shouldnt be allowed to have a boy overnight on couch at 15" guess what.. your g/f will still do exactly what she wants to do, no matter what you or all the users on this site say to do so why waste your time.
2007-01-29 10:56:26 · answer #4 · answered by 6ft2eyesofblue 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you shold knock some sense in her head lol. She is being really naive and needs to wake up and smell the coffee. There is no reason that a girl that young and her boyfriend need to be sleeping under the same roof.
2007-01-26 06:13:55 · answer #5 · answered by B U Tiful 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not your place to try to intervene. You can tell her how you feel and why you feel that way, and a lot of people, including myself, think it's inviting trouble to have them spend the night together, as they will find a way to be together in the middle of the night eventually, if they haven't yet. But ultimately, she has the say so (unless it's happening in your home), and if you don't like her decision, you can either choose to accept it or back out of the relationship if you feel that strongly about it.
2007-01-26 06:05:09 · answer #6 · answered by Laura Renee 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Only if there was a natural disaster and he suddenly became homeless. And that would only be for one night until he found other shelter. Nor, would I as a parent, sleep a wink should that happen!
2007-01-26 06:07:16 · answer #7 · answered by EsteeIsFrench 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No way this should happen. Its like an open invitation for the two kids. God, use some common sense people!
2007-01-26 06:02:52 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he really is sleeping on the couch than maybe its not that big of a deal. But why does he need to sleep over at all?!?!
2007-01-26 06:00:02 · answer #9 · answered by Stephanie 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's ok if she is ready to be a grandmother, she is very naive if she thinks he'll stay in the couch.
2007-01-26 06:01:57 · answer #10 · answered by ad121ana 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋