Long story short, this lady I met about a month ago is great. The only problem is her hectic schedule, and for a while there I thought she was giving me the run around (she didn't call for about 6 days), I just really had no idea that someone can be that busy, and she let me know yesterday how busy she was. Although we don't talk a lot, she said last night that if it wasn't for her schedule she would love to date me. My question is: Even though it is tough to wait, will it pay off in the end if I am patient? Do you ladies appreciate the willingness to wait? Does it make me look bad?
Thank you
2007-01-26 05:47:34 · 37 answers · asked by Light Bringer 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It can go one of two ways:
Either she's trying to be gentle and let you down because she actually doesn't like you but doesn't want to be mean. If this is true then take a hint and move on.
OR
She is testing you to see if you think she's worthwhile enough to carry on a patient relationship with her.
I picture myself saying that to a guy, and to me, I would be thinking the first scenario--basically, I don't have enough time to care about you right now, so it's just poor timing, and we should forget about each other!
2007-01-26 05:55:31 · answer #1 · answered by f8_smyled 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Take this from a grl...she is not interested and obviously does not think that u are worth being added into her busy schedule. Look for someone who does. We do love a patient man here and there but not a man that looks desparate. Waiting around gives her the upper hand and you do not want that. I'm sure there are plenty of grls out there that are willing to give u a litte more than a moment of their time.
2007-01-26 06:21:05 · answer #2 · answered by Jay 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously dating isn't her first priority right now and that doesn't look to change anytime soon. You shouldn't stick around in hopes that it will because you will most likely be wasting your time. It does make you look a little pathetic if you just wait around for her because she is off being busy and doing her thing. Women don't generally think that is attractive if a guy has nothing going on except her.
You can either get busier yourself and start doing more things to occupy your time and see her when YOU can (not always on HER schedule) or you should date other women in addition to her. You need to value your time more than to spend it waiting around for a women, no matter how much you like her.
Also, you could just ask her if she will start having any more time to spend with you in the near future. If her answer is no, then you will know she is not willing to make time to spend with you and that is a BIG sign. Then you should have plenty of information with which to make a decision that is best for YOU.
2007-01-26 05:55:40 · answer #3 · answered by atxtallchick 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
She says she'd love to date you, so tell her, since you do, too, how could you arrange getting together more often...if she hadn't called in 5 days, well, if she cares for you, despite a hectic schedule, she should be able to give you a call (on the walk to llunch or the parking lot, etc)...
I don't know if it is about 'appreciate the willingness to wait', if she wants you, she'll make time for you...it won't make you look bad, just make sure you let her know, but that you also need some feedback from her...
2007-01-26 05:55:33 · answer #4 · answered by avechm 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Well, it depends on what kind of person she is. I know a lot of women would normally be impressed by a guy willing to wait or willing to see her whenever she had a free moment and not need to see her on a regular basis. As for me, I would think you were very weird and creepy, but then I have a serious commitment issue and hate it when guys look even a little clingy. I think your best bet would be to sit her down and ask her. Tell her you like her, you are willing to wait until her life isn't so hectic, you would love to see her when she got a free moment just for coffee or whatever, and see how she reacts. If she's flattered, she'll tell you. Good luck!
2007-01-26 05:53:59 · answer #5 · answered by Chel 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Its a catch between the two. You dont want to wait if she is playing games, but how are you to know if she is really that busy or not ? I think that if you really like a person you will find the time to at least call them up to see how they are doing. If she cant do that much then forget her anyway.
And yes woman do a appreciate the willingness to wait but usually we want you to wait for things like sex. movin in, ect ......
not wait for phone calls for weeks
2007-01-26 06:02:30 · answer #6 · answered by Kelly 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It appear to me that her schedule/job is more important than the dating field. I think you need to see other people b/c the two of you don't have a relationship. I think it is so sweet of you to want to wait for her but for what?? What if you spend your time/life waiting for her and she end up marryin someone else or NEVER slows down. I don't feel like you need to waste your time waitin on someone that you really don't have the option of hookin up with. If you feel that serious about this woman, how about callin her and letin her know about it and she what she has to say. If she still appear interested, then ask her what can the both of you do to make this thing official? (dating that is.) If she can't come up with something, well I believe that is your hint to maybe have her as a friend on the side but date other women don't just settle for her and her alone. Good luck on your decision and I wish you all the luck with that one.
2007-01-26 05:58:20 · answer #7 · answered by jetta 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
You can be patient enough until she has a free night to go out with you, but what if you two hit it off and she can't see you a lot b/c she's always busy? You'll always be waiting on her and she won't have time for you. Is it worth it? I woudn't wait on someone that much, I don't care how busy they are.
2007-01-26 05:53:28 · answer #8 · answered by F.J. 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
It's nice to be patient and wait, but keep your eyes open for other girls anyway. Personally, if i wanted to date a guy, but was too busy, I'd tell him, "but i'm free next week" so he wont leave too soon. I think if she's not giving you another day to meet up with her, she might not be fully into the idea of dating you yet.
2007-01-26 05:57:44 · answer #9 · answered by sherry312 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
It doesn't make you look bad.. But you should keep yourself busy too.. You don't want to seem like you have nothing better to do than wait around for her to pick up the phone. If you feel she is worth the wait,then you will wait.. She won't always be soo busy, we all have to come up for air sometime. Hang in there..
2007-01-26 05:54:25 · answer #10 · answered by Shy 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋