Hi there. I lost my best friend, companion, FAMILIAR of 15 years to ailing health just on December 27th. I have a question relating to WHITE magick rituals as I am a solitaire pagan practitioner who REALLY wants suggestions for spells to help him: a) SHOW (a MUST-I NEED THIS!) himself to me and let me know he is SAFE and not angry with the horrible decision I had to make relating to his suffering of his ailing health (broke my heart and having HARD time coping! GUILTY feeling and 2 'analytical'-i am going mad!) b) Need suggestions to incorporate into my ritual for the full moon 1 wk fr. today (Imbolc) to LET him go/free of his 'tie' to me being my familiar; I LOVE my furbaby so very much and this all seems so surreal to me...Help with suggestive spells?? (PS: u can light a purple candle for him next Friday night to help if u want) Blessed be and have a happy Imbolc!
2007-01-26 05:39:58 · 6 answers · asked by GOLDIE 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Hon. I'm sorry at the loss of your familiar. But he does not blame you, nor is he angry with you. If you want him to show himslef, I would suggest asking him to come to you in a dream. Meditate and focus on this until he does. I had two black kittens that died (years apart) both very suddenly and tragically, and they came to me in a dream one night and were fine. Pets don't blame us, they really don't.
As for freeing him of his tie to you as a familiar, I really don't think this can be undone. Perhaps it can, but I wouldn't worry about it too much. I have never used any of the cats I've had as specific familiars, but I've had mediums tell me there are cat spirits with me constantly, so clearly my babies prefer to hang around mommy rather than go ahead without me. Even if you free him from being your familiar, he'll probably hang around you anyway.
I'm very sorry for your loss - and the nasty responses you'll probably get to your question.
Bright blessings.
)O(
2007-01-26 05:48:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
I think he knows what you did was for the best. Your kindness in abating his suffering is one of the most loving and unselfish gestures there is. I lost mine (Spooky, she was 18 yrs) about 2 yrs ago. It was a hard thing to do but, I put my sorrow and emotional pain aside to do what was best for her so she could leave as peacefully as possible. And He and I know you did the best you could. As for showing, this might not be the time. He will come to you when you are BOTH ready. I don't think anything anybody could give you would be as good as what would come from your heart. Bring everything you think you might need, and let Love and His spirit guide you. Love is the ritual in and of itself. As for me, I took all her things and donated them to a homeless pet shelter. Once a month for the first year I lit a candle and made a gift to a pet shelter in her name. Now, I will do it every year. I also said I would never replace her, then one day I was walking thru the pet store to buy food for the others when I passed a cage full of kittens. I heard a little cat cry so loudly and the lady with them called out to me "She wants to go home with you". I turned around and there was the spitting image of my Spooky. I do think she came back to me. It took over a year, but I swear it is her in every way. When we went to pick her up She brought a small kitten with her. We figured she brought a friend with her who needed a good home. Remember that your pain will heal and your baby is in a good place, how could he not be. They are sweet and innocent and pure Love. And Love is always OK. Hope you find the peace you seek, and he will come back when the time is right.
2007-01-26 06:09:24 · answer #2 · answered by cricket 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Okay FIRST you need to calm down, BREATHE and calm your MIND. The chaotic energy you're putting out in your frantic state is of no help to your familiar. You need to cultivate a calm mind, and be comforted in knowing that your actions do NOT affect his karma... then you need to deal with your own guilt.
You did what you did out of compassion based on your understanding of "suffering" and such, so I can't imagine that reaping any bad karma beyond that of you beating yourself up about it. Beating yourself up is too much "self-cherishment" to the NEGATIVE... and so you must analytically think about the fact that your intent was compassion, and make peace with that. If you feel a need to make amends somehow, get another familiar who might be suffering in some way and care for them, or help out at a local shelter or somesuch...
Know this... if you calm your mind, your dear familiar won't have such a difficult journey through the "bardo" (in-between state between physical death and rebirth) and you'll do whatever spells and ritual with a MUCH CALMER mind which will likely do more good than your mind in this state ever could. I'm not Wiccan anymore so I don't have any spells on hand, but we Buddhists believe you can talk to him and he's likely to hear, so be calm and say what you want to say... urge him on to an auspicious rebirth and who knows... he might be teaching you how to attain enlightment somewhere down the road!
Much metta,
_()_
2007-01-26 05:53:57 · answer #3 · answered by vinslave 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry for your loss and I know how it feels. I've lost them too.
However, you can't help him appear really. He either will or he won't. But you can try casting a circle and using a purple candle to heighten your awareness so you can see him. Then try talking to him and see if he joins you.
Thing is, if he was well and truly loved while he was alive, he's probably gone. His energy dissipated because he didn't have any reason to stay behind.
I'm not sure about letting him go at Imbolc. But YOU need to let him go. Its only you tying him to you.
The above poster is right. He doesn't hate you, he isn't angry or anything else. Pets don't hate us, they love us unconditionally so long as we didn't treat them badly their whole lives.
Blessed Be and I hope you feel better.
2007-01-26 05:50:28 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry for your loss, and I wish I could offer more than just my condolenses, but I'm a relatively new Wicca myself, so I'd rather not lead you in ignorance.
Just keep in mind that you did what you did to ease his suffering, which is compassion, the highest love. He doesn't blame you, and neither should you.
2007-01-26 19:26:56 · answer #5 · answered by dead_elves 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
*I don't have have any particular ritual, but if you cannot find one, one alternative is to just light a white candle in his name and send your blessings and explain to him why you did what you did. chances are you ease suffering or prevented future suffering. *
2007-01-26 05:53:33 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋