Do you send an invitation to someone you know can't make the wedding date?

Answer 1

Yes. Just out of courtesy. And as I've found out recently, some people like to keep those things as keepsakes....

Answer 2

I think it's a good idea too, it's a sign that even if they can't make it, you regret that and would've liked them there. If you don't send them one, it could be taken as if they weren't to be invited in the first place.

All this unless they specifically told you 'no need to send an invite because unfortunately we're (on vacation/ wherever) at the time'; then I'd say you could probably do with a verbal 'sorry to hear that, but if somehow something comes in between you know you're always welcome'!

Answer 3

Note to all: There is a marked difference between an invitation and an announcement.

For those who cannot come or for whatever other reason you do not wish to invite, announcements are sent.

Invitations are for those you wish to attend and can...if this person has already told you they cannot come, then just send the announcement....however, if there is any chance they MAY be able to come, send and invitation.

Answer 4

Ask yourself this: "If I didn't know about the conflict, would I send the person an invitation?" If the answer is yes, then send one. I know how expensive these things can be, but it is the nice thing to do.

The other thing you can do - especially if you sent out "save the date" cards and this person has told you they won't be able to make it - is to send out "wedding announcements" the week after the ceremony. That way people don't feel left out. It's another expense, granted, but that is another acceptable way to handle the situation.

Answer 5

If this is someone you would want at your wedding if you didn't already know they couldn't make it, then, yes, you must send the invitation. Like any social engagement with an awkward situation, it's only gracious to invite them, and it's up to them to decline.

Imagine yourself in your friend's poistion, and you found yourself not invited to the wedding. Wouldn't you be sad that they didn't bother to send you an invitation? I would be; I might even wonder if they would miss me.

If this is someone you are glad can't make it, you still have to invite them. We're stuck with family and we can't pick them, so we might as well be as civil as possible with them and not cause a stir on what is supposed to be the happiest day of your life. Do send it and wait to see what they do - they may surprise you and rearrange their plans.

Answer 6

If it is someone you want to feel like they are welcome to attend, of course you invite them. They might be hurt if you don't. On the other hand, if it isn't someone you'd necessarily want there anyway and you know they can't make it, it does sort of seem like asking for a gift. The exception is if the person is one of a group of people that are all being invited, then even if you don't want them there, etiquette sort of says invite them.

Answer 7

If you are fond of the person and wish they could be there then yes, send the invitation. Hopefully, they will respond soon. If they are close to you they will then have your invitation as a keepsake.

Answer 8

It depends on the situation, but I'd say they might appreciate having been invited anyway. It also provides a physical remembrance for them about your wedding.

Answer 9

For the sake of avoiding future accusation of saying you didn't annouce the wedding, its better you send them the invitation.

Answer 10

If you were going to send the invitation anyway, yes you send it. Their plans may change.

Answer 11

Yes, I would, even though they cannot attend the event. For them the invitation is something to remind them of the event and that you thought enough of them to be your guest.