I'm just wondering why do we (Woman) wait for them (Men) even though obviously they won't make up their minds anytime soon. I have been waiting for this guy that I like to make up his mind if he wants to be with me. AND not to mention this other girl who totally is hanging all over him (an ex). She only does it because she knows it pi$$e$ me off. She seems to think that she has dibs because she dated him before, like he's some piece of property. She the one who broke up with him and he told me that she already blew her chance. Should I be worried? I'm not a jealous person but she's really bothering me. Should I wait for him to make a decision or tell him that he needs to choose between us. I've been having a hard time with this, I haven't eating for the past three days because I'm really nervous and stressed about what he's going to say. Please Help... I DON'T KNOW WHAT TO DO!!!
2007-01-26 05:24:45 · 10 answers · asked by sweet indifference 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I know I shouldn't wait for him, that's the problem. I'm head over heels for a guy who is toying with my head and heart. But I really like him. He does "break a sweat" about this, he just doesn't want to break her heart. I'm not really young, i've had a lot of experiance with men it's just this is the first one...(sounds pathetic) to ever capture my heart and attention the way he does. I've never had someone who takes my breath away when he walks into a room. When I talk, he listens. When he hugs me I feel like I'm in heaven. That's why it's stressfull.
2007-01-26 05:41:03 · update #1
He's already made a decision. BOTH of you. He has already chosen: he likes BOTH.
If a man needs to pick between 2 women, dump him. Women who wait for a man to pick them should sign up for "The Bachelor" .
If you wait for him, you demean yourself and appear pathetic, which isn't attractive.
2007-01-26 05:32:38 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all you shouldn't be waiting around for a guy!!!! NEVER do that hun, why cater to him!! If you have to wait then that means he's confused and maybe doesn't want to be with anyone now, I say move on and act like it doesn't bother you. I think your just wasting your time when you don't have to. Go out with your friends and enjoy life. Your over here being depressed, stressed and worried and he's not even breaking a sweat over this. Just distance yourself from him and I bet you he's going to look for you!
2007-01-26 13:34:16 · answer #2 · answered by -Cueva- 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must be young. Once you reach a certain age in life you gain alot of experience in the area of relationships. You learn why men act the way they do and then you know exactly what to do. Personally i am 26 yrs.old and have been through alot. RED FLAGS everywhere are a serious sign! Come on...why waste your time on stuff like this? Its stupid to do so...your worth more and should value and respect yourself more than to deal with this kind of crap..seriously!!
2007-01-26 13:32:20 · answer #3 · answered by Ambitious27 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you forget and ignore them then they will start looking for you. They will try to talk to you.
Keep the issues at your shoe tow.Try to concentrate in your studies, earn some good degree, have a respectable job and position in society then see how the men are trying to get your attention.
Its a practical thing, please work for that and see the results.
Good luck.
2007-01-26 13:34:33 · answer #4 · answered by My Loves and Respects to All 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't put me in that category!
You need to have some self-respect, girl. Don't wait for ANYONE!!!! You choose the people you want to be in your life, you don't wait for them to choose you. That's crazy. Pull yoursel together, find another guy. I guarantee that once he sees you don't wait for men he'll be back knocking in no time. Men don't like desparate chicks.
2007-01-26 13:30:56 · answer #5 · answered by Jilli Bean 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He is probably enjoying the attention she is giving her now even if he doesn't plan on going back with her but that is being pretty immature. you should move on to someone else and if he cares for you he will dump her to keep you happy and be with you
2007-01-26 13:34:02 · answer #6 · answered by Al B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do not ever let yourself be put in this situation, it is only hurting you. if he liked you he wouldn't be putting you in this state of mind. he's an @ss, drop him. if you do, he'll want you fast, and then you make him wait
2007-01-26 13:31:25 · answer #7 · answered by Tiny little hot one 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him about what's going on, get his input then ask him you think to be fair he should make a choice.
2007-01-26 13:29:59 · answer #8 · answered by H.B.K. 2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is probably giving him something that you won't, forget him, move on, baby!
2007-01-26 13:36:31 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
first one that swallows wins!!!
2007-01-26 13:30:03 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋