I don't understand. Just like you may not like a certain food or certain activity, it is just as common to not like children. I think it takes a lot to be a parent and some people are just intolerant to children and some of their ways. I'm not saying "HATE" I'm just saying partiularly not liking children. Why does something have to be wrong. Why do they have be compared to kitten-kickers in "Parenting" Magazine (September 2006 issue)? I think that to say you MUST like children is tryiong to impose a lifestyle which may not apply to everyone on a person. That is not fair. As cute and funny as they may be, they are NOT for everyone. So why do people come down so hard on people who prefer the company of adults? You may not like smoking or dogs. And you may not like whipped cream. And you just may not like kids... what's so wrong with that? How are you supposed to help that?
2007-01-26 05:24:29 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
a lot of people are prejudice about little things..just because they like..say whipped cream..then they think that everyone else should like it too. ITS BECAUSE THEY SEE THE WORLD THE WAY THEY THINK IT SHOULD BE and NOT THE WAY THAT IT IS. So it all comes down to a persons opinion and not everyone is going to agree with them..so its not the fact that you don't like children.... its the fact that some people do and think everyone else should too. so its their problem not yours.
2007-01-26 05:32:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 1⤋
I'm a person that is tryin to have a child but I understand where you are coming from. I'm friends with a woman that do not want children at all. Some children are ungrateful and constantly workin your last nerve. Nothing wrong with having adult company instead of a child. Everyone is entitle to their opinion and that doesn't give no one the chance of jumpin down your throat just b/c they see things in a different light than yours. I want to have a baby b/c I always wanted a child once I turned 30 and married. I have kept my niece b/f and I feel I can give my child the love and care he/she needs. I'm not a selfish person and I have patience. A child needs guidance, love, care, and most of all quality time with mom & dad. Alot of children in this world do not have the option of spending quality time with their parents. Parents always have the excuse of sayin, I have this to do or I have that to do. You can't find too many parents that will drop whatever to spend quality time with their child. Then when they are always sending them over their friends house and wonder why they are doing this and that. Well...think back when yall could've done this and that but you decided other things were more important than spending it with you child. See my point! Some people want to live the life style of caring for a child and some don't. From where I'm sitting, the way you feel it is best that you don't have any kids. I hope you are not sexually attactive b/c that is one of the high risk of having children. Unless you are fixed (tubes tied or burned), I would suggest not to have sex. If you feel that strongly about not having children!!!!! It is nothing that you can do but continue to be honest about how you feel about children. Hopefully you will not meet a man that want children!!!!
2007-01-26 13:41:35 · answer #2 · answered by jetta 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with not wanting or having children in your life. It is your life and you have the right to live it the way you want to. Kids really are not for everyone...there are many people out there that don't have kids...and there are just as many that shouldn't have kids and do. I have always believed that I would rather see some woman have an abortion than have an unwanted abused child somewhere cold, hurt, hungry, alone and unloved. But that's just me. I believe that people should live their lives the best way they can being as happy as they can be doing what they love. So, don't like kids that's fine...but in the same breath don't give me a hard time because I love mine and want to be with them and be the best parent I can be. It's goes both ways....
2007-01-26 13:36:17 · answer #3 · answered by Barbiq 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It is not wrong or bad to not to like children. I don't know why some people come down so hard on those that don't like children. I myself love children. I was a babysitter all through my teens, a pediatric nurse in my 20's and 30's, retired a Kindergarten teacher. But I certainly can understand people not liking children. It's simply the way you are. We are all born with a certain nature. So don't feel bad for the way you feel and don't let people who are so narrow minded get to you. Be yourself and enjoy your life the way you want it to be.
2007-01-26 13:35:09 · answer #4 · answered by Vida 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree kids may not be for everybody but it is just plain immaturity to say you do not like kids. And people get upset or whatever when they hear someone doesnt like kids because of the close bond they have with their kids. They don't understand why, they're sweet and innocent and have a whole life in fromt of them. Its a bond you will never experience with anybody but your children. Back to the immaturity aspect, others out there (parents) know it is a difficult thing to raise a kid, there is a lot of sacrifice you have to make in your life and it takes a mature person to be able to do that. The sacrifices and the troubles it takes to raise a kid is worth it. (and no I don't even have kids)
2007-01-26 13:33:17 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Because there is a fine semantic line between saying you "don't like" something and you "hate" something. Not liking is roughly the same as disliking, which could be the same as hating... it's shades of grey between them, so people may get confused.
Try saying that you "I don't care for being around children, but that's just me", instead of "I don't like children." (which implies that you are opposed to the existence of all children, instead of just personally not feeling comfortable around them). And it's not information you want to volunteer all the time, since it might hurt their feelings - for example, if I'm around smokers, I don't say that I think smoking is a vile habit and I can't stand to be around it - I just say "no thank you, I don't smoke" if offered, and try to move away if someone lights up.
You're right, everyone has the right to not care for certain things, but you still need to be careful to be polite and tolerant of the things you don't like.
2007-01-26 13:36:18 · answer #6 · answered by teresathegreat 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
There is nothing wrong with not liking children. Personally, I love them, but some people don't and that's all there is to it. No one has the right to force their beliefs on if someone should or should not like children or not. It's a personal thing.
2007-01-26 13:31:26 · answer #7 · answered by little_chipmunk 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I agree with you completely. There is definitely nothing wrong with not 'liking' kids. I would only say that there was something wrong if you 'hated' them! And yes, kids are definitely not for everyone. Sometimes you'd like to play around with one, but then at the end you just want them to go home.
2007-01-26 13:33:49 · answer #8 · answered by green_baby_dragon 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it's bad if you don't like children, but then you need to live your life in such a way that you do not date men who have children, befriend someone who has children (if you expect them to never have their children around you that is). And you certainly should have protected sex with birth control measures well taken so that you don't become pregnant.
You're totally free to not like children. But just curious - did you dislike yourself growing up? You were a kid at one time too. What about children do you not like? If you can answer that, we could all maybe offer a better insight/opinion to this question.
2007-01-26 13:31:18 · answer #9 · answered by Marvelissa 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Hey, if you don't like kids you don't like kids. I would suggest a very strong effective method of birth control.
I like kids, I'm just not always good with them because I'm short tempered by nature. But, I try to get along with them because I've learned that they are just kids.
One thing I had to learn is sometimes it's the kid you don't like and sometimes it's the fact that mom and dad won't bust the little tykes party up when he's peeing in your flower pot or breaking your family heirloom that your great-grandmother gave you on her death bed.
Some folks are too wrapped up in their children to discipline them. Is it this you don't like or the actual kids themselves?
Either way, I suppose I couldn't get you to take my place in the nursery room at church Sunday?
God bless.
2007-01-26 13:39:43 · answer #10 · answered by penhead72 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋