I started a daycare this summer. I started taking care of one little girl when she as 12 months old. Her parents explained to me that she liked to straddle her high chair (that middle part under the tray that keeps them from slidding out). She is now 18 months old and not only does it when she is in the high chair waiting for a meal but also does it when I try to wash her face or anything like that. She also does it on me, when I pick her up, she will try to rub up againts me. I immediately put her down and tell her NO ! I understand that it can be normal but this seems excessive and is getting frustrating. They asked me in the past to just let her be but if I do, she will do it until she puts herself to sleep. Should I talk to the parents even though there isn't really anything they can do ?
2007-01-26 05:19:00 · 10 answers · asked by scorpio 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
Since she was 12 Months old?!?!?!?! This is not normal behavior and should be brought to the attention of her parents. There is a reason behind this type of behavior at this young of an age and you should look into it carefully, contact a psychologist or psychiatrist, question them on the normal behavior. Present the parents with the information you have obtained. If they refuse to do anything about it ask the medical professional what your next step should be.
Without going into graphic detail, there is a cause behind this baby's actions and as her caretaker, it is your responsibility to carefully bring the situation to the attention of the proper people.
2007-01-26 05:35:33 · answer #1 · answered by KayLees NeeNee 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think everyone needs to relax a little bit. it is completely normal for a young girl or boy at that age to have discovered their genitalia. naturally, they realize that if they use certain motions in that area, it feels good. that's really all there is to it. they don't know what they're doing, or that it's not so polite, just that they like how it feels. although you can't completely ignore it, (it should be brought to her parents attention that she's doing it so often and in front of everyone), having a negative reaction may teach her that there is something wrong with that part of her body. it needs to be addressed by her parents, mainly. and i'm pretty sure a firm discussion without using any discouraging words could help the situation. because you're her caretaker, i'd suggest you talk about limitations with her parents, so that they know what you can and cannot allow before reprimanding her.
2007-01-26 14:34:07 · answer #2 · answered by itendstoday 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would definitely be concerned does she have a yeast infection? Many young girls can get them from damp diapers. I would talk to the parents and continue with your plan. Put her down everytime she does it and maybe switch to a booster seat with no middle part to straddle. But definitely find out about the health reasons first.
2007-01-26 14:14:24 · answer #3 · answered by siriusblossom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I read this question several times before answering and it continues to bother me. I think you should talk again to the parents and ask them if someone has molested this child. Most kids do not act that way unless they have some knowledge they should not have!!! Keep an eye on her and if it gets worse I think you should call CPS to check her out. I would hate to not say it and then have her not get help if someone is hurting her.
2007-01-26 13:37:49 · answer #4 · answered by elaeblue 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does this little girl ware diapers? If she does, perhaps there is something in the diaper that is irritateing her. Could she just be itchy? I would try a different brand of diapers. Pull ups (the cheap kind used to irratate my children). Shes to young to think its sexual. Has someone mentioned it to a doctor? My daughter had a problem wearing undergarments, and I used to have to by her loose clotheing so she would feel comfortable.Perhaps this little girl has a similar problem?
2007-01-26 13:35:50 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Children who have been sexually abused often have behaviors similar to this because it is what they have been trained to do. Foster parents who take in sexually abused children often have to retrain the child not to reach down into the laps of men, or rub up against their genetalia. In your state you may fall into the category of a "mandatory reporter" when you suspect cases of child abuse, in which case you would have no choice but to report if that were what you suspected. You recognize how out of the ordinary this behavior is, just because the parents are the ones who alerted it to you originally doesn't mean they aren't abusing (remember, a husband will often be the one to take his wife to the hospital after he has beaten the crap out of her).
2007-01-26 14:27:24 · answer #6 · answered by Heather Y 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should absolutely talk to her parents. If you all are not working together to change this behavior, it won't change. And if it makes you uncomfortable then you will start to resent her, she will pick up on this, and things will become worse. Is she itchy there or something? Maybe a doc could help. Good luck. Please remember that whatever is going on it is not her fault-her parents should find a solution.
2007-01-26 13:30:38 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if it feels good, kids will do it. 18 months is way to young for a baby to understand that there are any sexual connotations to this. If she does it to you I'd tell her to stop and try to redirect her put this is not something that should be punished. she'll grow out of it.
2007-01-26 13:32:26 · answer #8 · answered by boo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, tell the parents the degree to which she does it....but YOU take no further action.
2007-01-26 13:26:29 · answer #9 · answered by sage seeker 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
sounds to me like this child is a victom of sexual abuse look into it more!
2007-01-26 13:30:13 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋